Abandoned without Reason without Justice or Cause and ignored by the organization that we sacrificed our own lives, comfort and happiness, just to later after all the waiting and patience, that nothing will be done for me or my kids. No resolution or accountability will be shown to my husband and he isn't responsible for the torture, the abuse, the psychological and emotional trauma or the neglect he had is under for years. Up until he decided it wasn't what he wanted anymore. Destroying a of the family's possessions and all my belongings along with our kids belongings and then he left, never to be seen again.
I really need help and i will do whatever it takes to stop the abuse and harassment from Sgt Asa Forbes Dalphone. My name is Crissy Lynn Dalphone Duvernay and I've been married to Asa for 10 years. We were married in November 2012 in Navarre Beach Florida. Now, me and our 2 children Alice-6 and Lil Asa-4 live at my father's home in Tickfaw, LA were unfortunately I have no income or support from my husband, their father nor do we hear from him, not in a positive manner and here's why. I'm desperate to have crossed this website because at least 20 officials, organizations, advocacy programs for abused victims and safe family fleet centers have been able to find someone to hear my story and possibly help. Not one person has returned an email or call and I began reaching out for help on December 29 2019, which was the date of the first time I physically entered an advocacy center to report the abuse from my husband who i was in love, deeply, hopelessly devoted and only have eyes for him kind of love. I thought it was mutual because, well because he proposed marriage, mutually decided to start our family and 1 week before giving birth, I learned something about apps and smart phones I'd never know about, i didn't need to know because I was married and happy, didn't even read about them. So Tinder & Craigslist encounters were unknown to me but not to a girl I worked with. This girl called a week before my daughter was born and said she saw my husband on this app to which I told her you're a liar he wouldn't do that to me, we're deeply in love and I don't believe you.
I was driving 100 miles a day due to his DUI, revoked Drivers license, breathalyzer installed in our vehicle oh and I still worked too as a bartender for Ruby Tuesday, 12 years i held employment and very am still proud of my work and guests I had the pleasure of working with. When I arrived in the building for my shift, the girl who called me during breakfast to tell me
my husband was on and hookup website, not only had a screenshot of him, naked with a megaphone covering his private area, it was a photo that i actually took of him, while we set up our daughters nursery. That should've been the worst part but it wasn't , it was the picture being shown to me in front of 10 coworkers while 8 1/2 months pregnant. Funny to me, nobody was as surprised as I because they all knew him from the small town area and I was from out of state. For some reason it didn't hit me like it should've, he had Munipulated me amazing, deceived me and played me like a puppet. I literally saw him to be the most amazing person ever. We then move to Louisiana where my family lives, because he is military and deployments were approaching, being closer to family seemed best. So the first few active orders were in effect and it was 18 weeks gone right before our daughters 1st birthday was when he was scheduled back home. Unfortunately, a week before he was supposed to be home, he pocket dialed me twice, both times with women talking with him, he told me he lost his wedding ring even though I found the ring at home, where he left it purposely. Then he comes home, I find out im having another baby the same daytygtszg he says his next deployment is in 3 weeks and its cv for 11 months in El Salvador. I drove myself to every appointment and to the maternity ward where Lil Asa came into Tmy life Oct 17th 2016. This guy is tough, handsome and brilliant. I love my babies. So my son was 10 months old before meeting his Father. My son adored his father and i wish I could say the same for My husband but his reaction to his 1st son seemed to be less than joy but more like extra time he didnt offer to Lil Asa. It wouldn't be known as his 1st son, after learning he was avoiding acknowledgment to another women who which he shared a child with but as the same circumstances with our situation, he has already done at least once to a women from Alabama. She called me in 2017 to tell me my husband was the father of her son. This was soul crushing and when time came for him to come home and I had all this new knowledgeof him, he wasn'tever the same to us. He didn't ever show signs of a bond or connection and showed very little efforts so i was so worried that he would never show it. My daughter, being a little older remembering him was elated to have him home. He didn't go back to his civilian job for 5 moths after the deployment and once we all settled in to his civilian transition, he was off for another assignment in Japan.. This is when i didt5gd8dģ discover that my husband was in fact gay and not to ggronly unfaithful but paying for sex from men and women all over the country and the world really, the entirety of our relationship. I also found messages about plans to kill me for insurance money that he's recently had increased. While in Japan, he called very seldomly and stopped sending money to our family in January 2020. My father helped, I sold things to keep food in the fridge and th kids weren't school aged yet, so i had to keep them under the impression that things were great. They weren't. After he returned home from Japan, against my wishes he then forced the children and myself out of the home we'd lived in for 6 years. We took only what would fit in the car that was his and he took the one I'd been driving which is nicer, newer and mine for 6 years. He took my phone and threw away the kids and my possessions, all of our possessions and hasn't helped, called or offered a single penny since he decided he
wasn't going to do the "family" thing anymore. Even though we agreed to help and grow as a family, i wouldn't have stayed home and agreed to help him get to where he wanted to be professionally and the time it took to polish his Reconnaissance Marine status, if i knew he wasn't straight, he didn't love me or that he never wanted our family. He's done well for himself but with our help. With all the years he missed being gone, didn't even affect him in the least way possible. He was actually creating and planning completely opposite intentions to live alone and happy without us and unknown to me, that his new leadership titles and nest egg we've been saving was all of a sudden gone. -116.50 is what our joint account says and since he forced the kids and myself to get out of our home, we luckily didn't have a far move, my Father lives 5 miles from the family home we were shoved out of. My Father has been spectacular, truly. My husband lives 5 minutes from where we are now, never came to see the kids, never called and said he was not going to be around, at all anymore. I filed for divorce the day he said I needed to go away, filed them the moment i left our home along with child support papers they served him 5 times unsuccessfully and then I refiled then he was served the child support enforcement & Divorce papers together. i filed alone without an attorney and child support enforcement from the state of Louisiana also wanted him to explain and pay for the kids we created. Instead he fled the state of Louisiana and didn't say goodbye to the kids. He will not explain what it is but its that I know his sexuality and I have videos, emails,, messages and pictures of his infidelity. Also he had excessive misconduct in uniform which he had saved on our family computer to be seen and almost like he was proud of all the dishonest and shameful things he would do. We' were married 10 years and I love, loved and forced myself to forgive him for lying. 10 years of infidelity but his midlife crisis, breakdown, abandonment situation is scarier then his extremely disturbing sexcapades he has at least once sometimes twice but maybe even 3 times a day, with strangers. Both sets. Now, he's pretending we didn't have a good relationship and we hadn't had any kids it's not normal, its borderline insane, borderline sociopathic and scary. So my dad had to be taken away in an ambulance this morning, he woke me and he said he though he was dying. It was so terrifyingly awakening. Me and my kids have been abandoned, abused, neglected and lied to since we were first put into life together when Alice joined us in 2014, then when lil Asa came,, who needs a lying cheating con artist, not I, and im really the luckiest person, I have something that makes everything else seem pointless. Those children are everything to me. Im so determined to get this behind us so I put on a happy face but i am destroyed on the inside and because I know they are too, I will not let them think I am anything, anything but a happy mom. Im strong, they are strong, its their father who needed strength and he ran away instead of showing strength. A Sgt military man who has made all benefits or resources unavailable to me and my kids and he's been setting this up, this way for years, but I completely trusted him to handle finances while I Raised our children. Now, we don't know where he's stationed and why nobody in the USMC will get to back to me. After a year of waiting for word, from anyone, a Navy Representative reached out to say that they were not able to assist me with finding him, They were not responsible for him, they weren't going to help me with caring for our children and that they wouldn't ever be recognized as military dependents even though it was our life. I cannot accept that at all, no matter what I need
How Two Med Students Accepted What They Couldn't Change--and Changed What They Couldn't Accept
New Orleans Women's Shelter Outreach Program, NOWSoutreach.org
I'm inspired by the two LSU Med students who ran for various class officer positions---and lost. They ran for various positions with organizations that limited the number of their volunteers--and lost. They soon accepted the fact that volunteer positions were filled--by others. They couldn't accept not being able to volunteer in some way, so they founded a new organization in 2014 and named it the New Orleans Women's Shelter (NOWS) Outreach Program. In the spirit of inclusiveness, anyone who wants to volunteer with NOWS Outreach can do so. The two med students, along with over a hundred volunteers from the dental school, School of Public Health, Xavier Pharmacy School, LSU Nursing School and other schools provide health education and health care for the women and children residing at the shelter. Programs range from providing flu shots to teaching little kids how to brush their teeth. Every penny of every donation goes to providing health care and education. Med school in and of itself is incredibly time consuming, and I am in awe of the two med students who saw a need in the community and took action to establish the NOWS Outreach Program. Along with their army of volunteers, they provide vital health services to the women and children residing at the shelter. There is nothing more meaningful to me than supporting an organization that relies 100% on volunteer efforts and spends every cent of every donation on health care (e.g. PAP smears, medications, mammograms, health exams, etc.). I get goosebumps when I see the photos of the children at the shelter smiling and when I hear that they're now immunized and protected from getting the flu---something that would not have been possible if not for NOWS Outreach. It is an organization that I whole-heartedly support.
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