My Sister's House is an amazing organization. They really address the needs and the seriousness of the different cultural barriers and sensitive issues. They are very aware of the issues when it comes to conflict resolution in the API community and between the families, and with that it really helps in finding a resolution that fits the needs of the individual clients.
I first approached My sisters House with my 20 month old daughter, after I was strangled and threatened to be killed by my husband. In our first meeting their safe haven manager offered excellent crisis support and advice. She informed me about all my legal rights, options and also advised me about the right course of action. I have been associated with them for almost a year and a half now and things have gotten so much more complicated. I am going through a highly contentious divorce with felony criminal charges and no-contact orders against my husband. This has been a highly traumatic phase for me and my daughter. The only supportive and constant factor through it all is the help from family and relentless guidance and support from MSH (My sister's House). True to it's name, the volunteers from MSH are truly sisters from other mothers! I know that I can call MSH anytime I'm in need and can count on a volunteer to be there by my side. From their highly successful Women to work program to accompanying me for emotional hearings to coming to my daughter's aide when CPS was involved to directing me to the right resources for help, MSH exceedes any expectations I had from them. I feel completely safe and taken care of under their guidance. Personally, when everyone in my cultural community (Asian) treated my situation with DV like a communicable disease, MSH came forward to help me build my self-esteem, gain some courage to speak the truth and fight for justice. For a very small organizations, they offer admirable shelter, legal and counselling services. I know their employees and volunteers are on call (24x7) and do the absolute best they can to hep victims and survivors of domestic violence. I feel very blessed that I found My Sister's house and truly feel like I have found another family in them.
My Sister's House has been a great help to me and to the victims and survivors of domestic violence. MSH helped me overcome the trials, frustration, family shame, depression that I was experienced due to an abusive relationship. The organization also provided a place to stay and food to eat during the time I need it the most. MSH Board Members and Staffs are caring, sincere and very supportive. It is fun to work with the people at MSH.
The first time I got here I felt so terrible, dealing with a lot of problems. They teach me how to increase my self-esteem and how or what to do with my problems, I feel better myself and also that helps me to raise my children, they really help a lot, I wish they keep with the classes and all the help they have. (entered by GreatNonprofits staff member on behalf of reviewer)
He has verbally harassed for a long time and eventually out of control and hit me (entered by GreatNonprofits staff member on behalf of reviewer)
MSH has been a blessing in helping me transition from being in a violent relationship. (entered by GreatNonprofits staff member on behalf of reviewer)
This class is for domestic violence. I had an incident happen with my boyfriend and CPS made me come here. Im glad they do have programs here in Sacramento like this. (entered by GreatNonprofits staff member on behalf of reviewer)
I am a single, independent mother of two kids. Struggle for nothing but the best and since I have come into this program it has not only helped me but it allowed me to understand that I can help myself and to love myself. (entered by GreatNonprofits staff member on behalf of reviewer)
I made bad decisions, acted irrationally, and am now re-inventing myself = Mom Yvonne (entered by GreatNonprofits staff member on behalf of reviewer)
I've been through more than I can handle. But coming to this program really helped me move on. I know that there are plenty of people going through the same thing as me, but actually MEETING them is what helped me. And hearing how each dealed with it helped me deal with my own problem. (entered by GreatNonprofits staff member on behalf of reviewer)
I really enjoy this class. Great people, great support. (This review was entered by GreatNonprofits staff member on behalf of reviewer)
I am a single black mother, I have 2 children and just divorced in April 03, 08. My ex husband was very abusive to me around my friends, family and worst behind close doors. One day I came to wic and was very depressed, down and lost. The staff at wic took me to a place called My Sister's House. I now am doing a lot better but I need more time with My Sister's House. My ex abused me today. I am afraid. I need to talk w/a staff or someone who can help me here, they're great! (entered by GreatNonprofits staff member on behalf of reviewer)
Devastated, doubtful I'm an older female and was subjected to domestic violence with my long term partner went to jail for it. He can talk to anymore and make them believe in him and can make them feel a certain way. That's what happened - he never showed this side of him up until 7 yrs. ago. I have never been in a degredating position and humiliation to this extent. When I came here I did not know what to expect (other than thinking I went to jail) and I'm now a labeled individual.) Instead, they brought comfort, knowledge and understanding peace of mind to heal and get on with life. entered by GreatNonprofits staff member on behalf of reviewer)
I lived with violence all my life. Until one day I got tired of having to be living with it for my family and I. My family and I were in danger with domestic violence happening in the house. (entered by GreatNonprofits staff member on behalf of reviewer)
I got lots of support and legal help. (this review was entered by GreatNonprofits staff member on behalf of reviewer)
I have had several legal issues that needed to be addressed. Without their help I would have become a lost statistic. They listened and actually understood and cared about my problems and did not try and pass me off to another organization. (entered by GreatNonprofits staff member on behalf of reviewer)
I am agradecida por encontrar este lugar de apollo emocional, moral, economico, legal. Espero que mi asunto legal se resuelva satisfactoriamente. Confio en el personal. He aprendido cosas aunque quisa no participo mucho, si pongo atenciÃ³n y aprendo. [I am thankful that I found this place of emotional, moral, economic, and legal support. I hope that my legal matter is resolved satisfactorily. I trust the staff. I have learned things, even though maybe I don't participate, I pay attention and learn.] (entered by GreatNonprofits staff member on behalf of reviewer)
I began as a client, I have grown and seen others change. (entered by GreatNonprofits staff member on behalf of reviewer)
Before I got here I don't felt well. I felt sad and angry. Now I feel good and happy. (entered by GreatNonprofits staff member on behalf of reviewer)
I am an immigrant to this country and also a victim and survivor of domestic violence. My Sister's House helped me in many ways. When I was with my abuser, I felt that my whole world was tumbling down. I wasn't allowed to talk to my neighbor and I could only talk to my family if Mr.H was around. There are moments, when he got angry and drunk that he would grabbed and hold me tight to hurt me. He told me that, “I am just a woman and I’m not smart. He told me that God isn’t the one who give me the blessing so he stopped in going to church. After a while living in an abusive environment made me feel that I’m losing my mind. I decided to leave my abuser carrying the deep wound inside. Luckily, My Sister's House provided me shelter, food and legal assistance the time I needed it the most. God is watching me because HE sent me ANGELS from My Sister’s House who are determine to give support, encouragement and hope during my dark times. I will say today that I'm in a better place with the help of My Sister's House.
My name is Claudia and I was in the safe haven for almost 5 months, last Chistmast while people were celebrating I was looking for a place to go with my 5 kids, for that reason no body was able to help me or offer me a place to stay, a friend called for me because I don't speak english, they got a interpreter for me, then they gave me a safe place to stay because my husband beat me up, being in the safe haven I learn that Violence is no the way to deal with marital problems. In the time that I was there I learned to become independent, I got the resources to got a place to live and now I live happy with my kids.
I just wanted to say thank you because My Sisters House has help me in so many ways, beining at the shelter, I realized my reason that I couldn't leave my abuser was due to my lack of independence, financially and socially. Like they taught me, my husband treated me like that because "I put up with him"! It was so true. The way he treated me was emotionally really hurtful. I couldn't eat nor sleep, but after I spent so many hours for crying, it finally pushed my button. I got the job today. Izumi san told me that I need to stand on the start line. I am going to take a small step. It may not be a big step, but it is a big step for me. something like going to the (miniature)moon. I told him that I got a job and pay is not that great, but I am not going to put up with his heartless behavior just because he makes better money...or if he thinks he is in control of my life... He said he was very very sorry and he was unaware (oh really) of how much he was hurting my feeling. but it doesn't matter...I am going to earn my happiness with or without him anyway. If I want to be happy, I should earn it myself. I am going to save money and be ready for my future. It's not going to be easy but I can stand on the start line... This evening, I spent my time alone making my favorite Japanese meal, and I ate so much. I talked my parents on the phone and thanked them for being my parents. Again, thank you so much for your care and support. You ladies were so supportive for me, as if you know me for a long time. You were angels for me.
My sister's House has been my blessing. I asked for their help and guidance in April 09. They have helped raise me from the lowest point in my life. They helped me get a 5 year restraining order and have helped me helped me find out who I really am as a person by requesting that I journal and participate in other activities from their women to work program. Although I have graduated from their program I continue to go and they welcome me with open arms. I also go to give back help the other clients. I realize that MSH is my blessing and I want to continue the cycle by being a blessing to someone else.
Hi My name is Alfredo, and I'm 7 years old, I love My sister's house because they take of me, my mom and my brother when we got abused by my father, they gave us a place to live and help my mom to get a house for me and my brother, I am always going to love my sister's house.
Hello my name is Pau and I'm 12 years old, I have had a great experience with My sister's House, because they help my mom, my brother and me to escape from the abuse of my adoptive father, they gave us a home and made us feel safe, they help my mom to learn that the abuse is not a way to live, now we are happy at a new home and with a great extended family.
My Sisters House is a wonderful organization that helps many different woman from different backgrounds. Although, their Shelter and main focus started in the Asian community, their kindness does not stop there as they truly understand that Domestic Violence is such a widespread problem and is often times over looked by the court systems and society in general. I am not of Asian decent. I was born and raised in the US. However, I am a refugee of sorts. I had to travel over 600 miles to escape from my attacker. Due to the nature of my case, this still did not make the abuse any less. Although, this stopped the physical abuse, the mental abuse from my attacker become more severe and still continues to this day. Without the help of My Sisters House, I would not have had the strength to carry on. Their understanding of the nature of abuse helped me to see what my options were as far as being a strong enough person to stand up for myself. That there is a way out of this situation and that I can be a survivor and not a victim for the rest of my life. That even though the court systems have not help me... that someone understood and cared. I am not completely free yet from my abuser. I am on my way. My abuser has done everything he could to take everything away from me. Material things, my children, my self respect and the respect of others around me with his slander. This was drummed into my head for over 20 years. I was often told that without my abuser ( by the abuser) I would never amount to anything, that I was not allowed to do anything without my abusers permission. So much to the fact, that I no longer knew how to function without being given orders. My Sisters House with their knowledge and support has helped me to understand that none of that was true. That I do matter, that I have value as a person. That I can be strong and have a say so in my own life and that I will have a day when I no longer have to look over my shoulder.
I was once a victim of Domestic Violence. Because of the care and compassion of My Sister's House I can now proudly say that I am a survivor. With the resources and knowledge that My Sister's House has given, food, counseling, housing help, I was able to escape the brutality of my environment. I was shuffled through several other programs. No other program did what My Sisters House was able to do. They have saved my life, my self respect and have given back to me my diginity.
Tu puedes ensenar a alguien a volar pero ellas no van a volar tu vuelo. Tu le puedes decir a alguien como vivir pero ellas no van a vivir tu vida. Pero en cada vuelo y en cada vida tu huella va a ser lo suficientemente profunda para hacer la diferencia. Gracias a My Sisters House, por ayudarme a hacer la diferencia. You can teach somebody how to fly but they're never going to fly your flight. You can tell somebody how to live but they're never going to live your life. But in every flight and every life you can leave a foot print that is going to be deep enough to make a difference. The footprint that made a difference in my life, was from My-Sister's-House. Hello, my name is Kary. My whole life was abuse, it was so much that I didn’t even know the difference between happiness and pain. I was raised by my grandparents who protect me from my mom almost all my childhood my grandma always told me that women value is her virginity. On my teen years my grandma ask me to give a chance to my mom to be in my life and send me to live with her with out knowing her background, I promised my grandma to give her a chance and keeping my promise I found out the hard way that my mom was a prostitute and her boyfriend was her pimp and since day one I became his property, I lived with them for almost 4 years, during that time I was victim of constant rape, punishments and threats. I went back to my grandparents at the age of 17 without self esteem because my value was gone, I wasn’t able to tell my grandma about what I went through because I was afraid of her being mad at me because I wasn’t a virgin no more . I had the dream to become a lawyer, I finished high school and start college but due to my lost of value I didn’t believe on my self and victim of my poor judgment I got involve with the wrong person , got pregnant and drop college. I lived with this person for 9 years and I have 2 kids with him, due to my lost of value I allowed him to humiliate me and treat me as a object, during those years I went through extreme poverty and starvation, one of my babies almost die because I didn’t have the money to take him to the doctor, but I didn’t leave him because my grandma told me that he was the kids dad I supposed to be with him no matter what, when I realize that I don’t need a father like this for my kids then we split up against my grandma‘s wishes. One day he took my kids without permission and crossed the border bringing them illegally and leaving me without a choice but do the same and cross the border looking for them. Here in this country I believe that because I was illegal I had no rights specially without knowing the language, for that reason I allowed the kids dad got away with his abuse until I got tired and called the cops. I was in a dv shelter but there again because the language barrier I didn’t learn nothing about sings of abuse and left that place believing that due to my illegal status nobody can help me After 2 months I meet this guy that was as everybody told me “to good to be truth”, he promise me to give me the life that in his words I deserved as a queen, that didn’t last long we got married and a month after the wedding he start abusing me, he pretended to be sick and forced me to do his job and didn’t allowed me to feed my kids, the abuse start escalating and in a li’l bit turned in physical abuse the beating became a normal thing for me, but in front of the people he make me pretend that I was the happiest wife and he was the perfect husband and father for my kids because he even adopt them. Then the drugs came in the picture the situation became worse the only people that he allowed to be around me was his friends, 2 of his closest friends saw me going down the drain, both Leno and Mama Naomi told me that I didn’t look as the Karina that they meet 3 years before. I was so used to the abuse that I didn’t see my self as God’s daughter no more, I was broken into small parts it was so bad that I believe that there was no hope for me. One day I almost die because my abuser told me that the only way that I had left was dead, but God is so good that he send angels to save and change my life. On march 31st 2008 a good person angel 1. gave me this paper of my sisters house, I called and angel 2 answer my call, she give confidence and courage to left my abuser, she help me to give myself and my kids the chance to have hope for a better future, I was 3 months in The Safe Heaven, In The Safe Heaven I meet angels 3 and 4 they treat me as a sister and with them I learn how to trust people again, that make feel like I was back home at my grandma’s house a safe place, then little by little I started to gain confidence, because in Women’s to work I found more angels, lots of volunteers that were there to help me to keep moving forward, there I got all the legal assistance including my immigration status, (that was monitored by angel 4), those three months went to fast, my time to leave the shelter was up but I wasn’t scared no more I was ready to spread my wings, I have gotten a job, an apartment, some stuff to put in my house including a bed the angel 2 donated for my home. Angels 3 and 4 became my mentors and help me to get ridge of that guilt that wasn’t mine, It wasn’t my fault to be abused, I didn’t ask for it. Leaving the safe heaven wasn’t the end of my story at My Sisters House, that was the beginning of a long road full of angels that help me to succeed. God give the strength to now be part of this wonderful organization call My Sisters House to spread the voice in my own language and pay forward at least a little bit of what this angels have done for me. On August 07 of 2009, I got a call from Legal Services of Northern California angel 5, to tell me that my VAWA case was approved, that mean that now I’m going to be legal in this country, on October 19 I got my employment authorization, this will not be possible without all the people behind this wonderful organization. Thanks My Sisters House for being my guardian angels. NaiBrittany Fenton : Angel 1 Nilda Valmores: Angel 2 Sitra Thia: Angel 3 Rejie: Angel 4 Amy Williams: Angel 5 All the members of the My Sisters House: Angels Volunteers of W2W and Legal volunteers : Angels