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Hand in Hand Parenting

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Nonprofit Overview

Causes: Family Services, Human Services

Mission: Hand in Hand Parenting helps parents when parenting gets hard. Hand in Hand offers a simple, adaptable, effective approach to parenting based on the parent's power to guide their child through play, listening, sensible limits, and warm connection, rather than rewards and punishment. Hand in Hand shows parents how to build emotional support for themselves, to help ease the emotional work of parenting. We do this through easy-to-access support, classes, literature, and an online moderated Parent Club. Over the last 30 years, thousands of parents have expressed their gratitude for the transformations they have seen in their families after using the Hand in Hand Listening Tools and approach. And now Hand in Hand Parenting is currently conducting a feasibility study supported by Frontiers of Innovation, the Research and Development platform at Harvard University's Center on the Developing Child. It will be followed by rapid-iteration pilot studies on Hand in Hand's 6-week Starter class in 2020.

Target demographics: parents, stepparents, grandparents, early childhood educators, and professionals who serve families

Direct beneficiaries per year: 30,000 parents with live-contact services and reached millions more with parenting content online

Geographic areas served: the San Francisco Bay Area and around the world

Programs: classes, workshops, online tutorials, free live parenting calls, parent education talks, a website of helpful articles and success stories for parents, and training for professionals who work with families

Community Stories

124 Stories from Volunteers, Donors & Supporters

Client Served

Rating: 5

Hand in Hand has the most transformative and effective tools out there (I explored a LOT of approaches) to help with an incredibly wide range of parenting challenges- from outright trauma, to consistently not getting out of the door on time in the mornings without fights, to name-calling and "talking back". I've dealt with all these issues and many more with the five tools- they're simple but profound and nuanced depending on the situation. The instructors are very warm and caring and embody the premise of this organisation: that kids and parents are good, even when behavior is off-track. I have found this to be healing and life-changing! I highly recommend this organisation to every parent I meet.

Client Served

Rating: 5

The depth of integrity of this organization is amazing and I can honestly say I wouldn’t be half the connected, loving, confident parent I have become without the tools, literature and programming they provide.

Jo R.1

General Member of the Public

Rating: 5

So beneficial in helping my family to grow together, connect and to embrace our emotions together rather than push them away.

Rebecca M.8

Client Served

Rating: 5

Hand in Hand Parenting provided tools and support to help my family heal from a huge loss we experienced. Their passion for encouraging parents and acknowledging the emotional side of our experience is invaluable! I’ve found so much more joy in my experience as a parent with these good tools. We play more, we connect better, and we bounce back faster from the sticky parts of life!

Client Served

Rating: 5

Hand in Hand has been a complete game changer for us. The tools they teach are simple and yet so so effective. I love how this approach deeply respects parents as the experts in their families but provides the info and support they need to thrive and bring so much more fun into family life.

Professional with expertise in this field

Rating: 5

Hand in Hand Parenting is life changing. The message they share is vital for the world.

1 Tosha S.1

Professional with expertise in this field

Rating: 5

Deep integrity. Practical tools. Fantastic results. A much needed breath of hopefulness.

Professional with expertise in this field

Rating: 5

Hand in hand is by far my number one “go to” for parenting advice/support. If every parent had to take a course through hand in hand, our world would be completely transformed.

Maria P.4

General Member of the Public

Rating: 5

Hand in hand parenting has transformed the way I parent and relate to children.

1 Mansoor M.1

Client Served

Rating: 5

Since I started following Hand in Hand, I am way more aware of my children's needs and mine too. Being aware of them is the first step. This helps you with being compassionate towards yourself and others. HiH has helped me in many ways, it's helping me to be a better parent and a better human being. The best thing is there's no punishment for the child or the parent and no judgement towards them either; there's only love and understanding.

Heather G.6

Client Served

Rating: 5

Hand in Hand parenting is a vital resource for parents. It’s totally reshaped my view of behavior (and misbehavior).

Michelle K.8

Client Served

Rating: 5

I am so grateful for the work Hand in Hand parenting does. Parenting is hard work and imortant work and Hand in Hand has given me tools and support to be the postive parent I want to be. They are strengthening and guiding parents which in turn will bless generations. Thank you Hand in Hand for all you do!

1 Kirsty H.1

General Member of the Public

Rating: 5

Hand in Hand Parenting are such a great support and resource for parents, the online groups, the podcast, the articles and the book are all fantastic.
Both hopeful for being our best selves and realistic that we're human and make mistakes.

1 mfairhall

Professional with expertise in this field

Rating: 5

I was a struggling adoptive mum when I first came across Hand in Hand Parenting. I was aiming to be a therapeutic parent and falling short, triggered by my daughter’s big emotions. Hand in Hand not only provided me with practical tools that made sense for a child with separation trauma, they gave me support like no other parenting program had and they’ve been there for me ever since. I don’t know where I’d be on my parenting journey without a Hand in Hand. I am also in private practice as a therapist and parent coach where I share the tools daily with my clients and hear how they too are seeing the difference Listening and Connection makes.

1 Rebekkah B.

General Member of the Public

Rating: 5

I found parenthood full of many joyful moments. Also there are many overwhelmingly dark times. Hand in hand has had a dramatic effect on my family life. It had helped me find support and I've developed a sense of compassion I never had before, especially for myself.
The daily challenges of parenting feel less daunting now I'm armed with the wealth of information and tools that hand in hand offer.
I feel a deeper connection with my daughter and I'm hopeful for our future relationship.

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Client Served

Rating: 5

I found Hand in Hand when I was a desperate, isolated new mum. It provided me with support while teaching me to build my own support systems and tools which enabled me to bond with my baby and then adapt to each new stage he has reached. I have used those tools every day over the last two years and it has made our family connected and thriving. Others around me commented on the transformation and many of them started to seek support from Hand in Hand and have seen similar benefits in their own lives. I am so grateful to all those involved in developing these ideas and providing this invaluable support to families.

1 Emilie L.

Professional with expertise in this field

Rating: 5

I don't know where I'd be without Hand in Hand Parenting - they've given me and my family so much, we were so stuck with really challenging behaviours in our family before we found Hand in Hand, we knew the theory about how we wanted to be with our kids but we just couldn't seem to put it into practice! Hand in Hand offers workable practical tools, and awesome support for all parents, no matter where they're at on their journey - I'm just so grateful to have Hand in Hand in our lives now.

Professional with expertise in this field

Rating: 5

It is no exaggeration to say that Hand in Hand Parenting has changed my life both personally and professionally. As a therapist who often works with parents, and children, I knew a lot about how to deal with challenging situations in families. Except sometimes when it came to my own! I came across Hand in Hand about five years ago, and it really provided the resources and support that I needed to get through some tough spots in my own parenting, and in turn, deepened my clinical work. And I'm now a Hand in Hand Parenting Instructor Candidate myself (and my husband is in the instructor training program!). The people at Hand in Hand have been easy and a joy to work with, whether in training, consulting, or regarding logistics/administrative details. They have truly built something special.

1 Jessica A.5

Client Served

Rating: 5

I cannot adequately express the profound impact Hand in Hand has had on me, my parenting, and my son. I felt lost and lonely, and like I was losing control of myself, then I found HiH. They showed me I was not alone; they gave me tools to parent in a way that feels good in my heart; they encouraged me to keep striving and to forgive my mistakes; and they helped me find joy in parenting again, and a much deeper connection with my son. Hand in Hand are invaluable to parents, schools, and communities, and daily I am so grateful for the incredible work they do to support us.

Stacy Wilson H.

Client Served

Rating: 5

Hand in Hand has Hands Down change my life (no pun intended)!! They help families and anyone who works with children in real applicable and effective ways. Amazing place run by amazing people!!

Client Served

Rating: 5

The instructors and the founder are the most amazing kindhearted people. I had postpartum depression and was worried I couldn’t parent my kids the way I wanted to but the support I received turned it all around. I dread to think what it could have been like without these wonderful people helping me.

Ann R.2

Client Served

Rating: 5

Hand in Hand is an incredible resource. It has helped shift our family dynamic in so many positive ways. I now feel very much a part of a supportive community. My only regret is that I didn’t find it sooner.

1 Alya D.

Client Served

Rating: 5

This organization shaped the amazing relationship I have with my eldest daughter, who is now well into adulthood! I had the support of the amazing resources Hand in Hand put into my hands starting when she was an infant, and I am forever grateful. I am now parenting young twins, and I am once again feeling so lucky to have the tools and relationships that I've discovered through Hand in Hand. Since the birth of my twins, my family has been through several traumatic events and we are working folks on a really low budget, yet we find invaluable information in free podcasts and articles, and amazing support through the Parent CLub, which includes very regular support from their instructors through facebook live Q and As, live weekly calls, and daily access to instructors through facebook. I would highly recommend checking out their online video classes which have hours of rich material for a relatively affordable price. (Sibling Rivalry has over 4 hours of video content and is currently $39- though it is sometimes sale priced at $5!!! As a mom of twins where it is all sibling all the time, I cannot recommend this course highly enough!) If you struggle with an issues as a parent, or love being a parent, this organization offers a chance to resolve challenges and amplify your joys. If you want to change the lives of families for real and have a good impact in the world, contribute to Hand in Hand!

Client Served

Rating: 5

It has turned around the life of my family and made an incomparable difference for my children, the next generation. Very grateful to Hand in Hand Parenting.

General Member of the Public

Rating: 5

Gives parents real-life tools to do the best job they can at parenting

General Member of the Public

Rating: 5

They have useful and science-based information to raise kids in a positive manner. It has really shaped my parenting style as a first time mom!

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Professional with expertise in this field

Rating: 5

This program gave me the tools to meet my children's emotional needs & challenges, helped me heal & grow in so many ways and showed me how to build up my own support system so I wasn't trying to figure out everything alone. Every parent needs this type of guidance & support.

1 Emily46

Professional with expertise in this field

Rating: 5

Hand in Hand Parenting has made a tremendous impact on my family. The Tools are simple but incredibly powerful and the support is amazing and so helpful.

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Professional with expertise in this field

Rating: 5

The Hand in Hand Parenting Tools have been an amazing gift, not just to my family but in how I relate to others in all aspects of my life. Transformative isn't powerful enough a word to describe what finding this organization has affected me.
The tools are so simple and so flexible and so effective. I wish the Listen book could be gifted to every new family. I'm sure it would change the world.

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Professional with expertise in this field

Rating: 5

Hand in Hand parenting stretches across the world to Australia and has permanently improved conditions in family life for many hundreds of families here. It’s a lifesaver - for my family, grandchildren and also through my workplace.

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General Member of the Public

Rating: 5

Hand in hand was introduced to me by my mum. I swear by the techniques from hand and hand has helped me build a stronger connection with my twin girls.

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Client Served

Rating: 5

I can't imagine my life without the Hand in Hand Parenting listening tools! My oldest is almost a teenager now and the tools I learned when she was a toddler are still applicable today. Hand in Hand has shown me how to turn the hard moments of parenting into relationship-strengthening moments that build trust and gain cooperation. They have taught me how to appreciate my work as a parent, and how to build more support for myself and my family. Thank you Hand in Hand!

Natalie J.1

General Member of the Public

Rating: 5

Very knowledgable around understanding and being kind to your child

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Client Served

Rating: 5

The information and support I have received from Hand in Hand has honestly changed my life.

Anna C.4

Client Served

Rating: 5

I found Hand in Hand Parenting when my son was born, and my daughter was two years old. I was struggling to be the parent I'd hoped to be, and was getting triggered and losing it with sleep deprivation, lack of family support and unrealistic expectations on myself. I didn't like the parent or person I was becoming and it was a shock. I met a mom in a local playground who told me about Hand in Hand Parenting. I was too stressed at the time to make the regular Support group she was a part of, but I did become a regular 'Listening Partner' with this Mom and it turned my life around for the better, and continues to. I went on to learn all 5 of the Hand in Hand Listening tools, starting using them daily in my family, and went on to do their year-long parent training programme, it transformed the hardest times and made them times of hope, laughter, love and connection. The tools I have learnt at Hand in Hand have made an intergenerational intervention in family patterns that needed some changing. You can't ask for more than that from an organisation! Changing the future and as they say, 'changing the world, one parent at a time'. They deserve the highest accolades for the work they do on a shoe-string budget.

1 Elizabeth F.2

Client Served

Rating: 5

It has been instrumental in helping me find meaningful ways to connect with my very intense children.

2 Kathy277

Client Served

Rating: 5

Hand in Hand has really supported me during my son's preTeen and Teen years. I found Hand in Hand when my son was 5 - 10 years ago. My consultation with Patty Wipfler, the founder, changed our bedtime, my relationship with my son and our lives. Puberty hit my son hard and he really started to struggle. Hand in Hand's support helped me to continue to see my son as good and to keep reaching for him during some hard times. Our relationship is stronger today than it ever was because of Hand in Hand.

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Client Served

Rating: 5

I was trying my best to be a 'compassionate' parent when my son was little, but I felt like I didn't know what to do in the moment. Then I discovered Hand in Hand Parenting and the 5 Listening Tools, which changed my relationship with my adopted son and our lives. Here was an approach that taught me how to get support for myself so that I could support my son and deepen our connection. I have since become a Certified Instructor and am continually amazed by the amount of resources Hand in Hand offers to parents for FREE and the commitment Hand in Hand has to reach under served communities all around the globe. It may seem idealistic, but I truly believe that if every parent had access to the kind of support that Hand in Hand provides, we could raise a world full of peacemakers.

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General Member of the Public

Rating: 5

The information and support this organisation provided changed my life and that of my family!

1 Kristen A.

Client Served

Rating: 5

This parenting method has changed my life! My baby is growing up beautifully and is able to express himself in a healthy way. I have learned to really listen to him (and everyone else) and not feel like I have to fix everything.

1 Tracy Y.1

General Member of the Public

Rating: 5

Accessed primarily via its Facebook presence, I’ve found the posts and podcasts invaluable support & reassurance in what can be a really difficult role as an adoptive mum. Sharing them is also a great way to raise awareness of connection based approaches parenting or working with kids. Great work!

Professional with expertise in this field

Rating: 5

I am forever grateful for the support I found when I discovered Hand in Hand Parenting 10 or so years ago. I recommend this resource to every parent I meet! My family has stayed connected through great as well as troubling times because we have the listening tools gained through Hand in Hand. Our foundation is solid, from our practice of listening, even when life is too stressful to structure our connection plan into our lives. When the dust settles we return to it again and again. I have had a trusted group of Moms that created our own "Parent 911" which has served us through the years. We have held space for each other in celebration, grief, searching and confusion all while marveling at each of our own abilities to discover our own healing, solutions and resilience. Thank you Hand in Hand Parenting for validating my trust in The Process and trust in the people!!! With. So. Much. Love.
-Momster Poopins ;)

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Client Served

Rating: 5

This is a wonderful resource for families and has provided so many tools that have made a positive impact in our family already. Highly recommend!

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General Member of the Public

Rating: 5

Gives great parenting advice and helps parents and children stay connected

1 Monica B.2

Client Served

Rating: 5

So very helpful and insightful about children rearing. So much love and inspiration. They do so much good for mothers, children and families.

1 Steffi W.

Board Member

Rating: 5

Wonderful, caring and supportive people which love to connect!

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General Member of the Public

Rating: 5

A wonderful support for parents & children. Really compassionate people that want to make a good change in the world. Really changed my approach to parenting & myself as a parent

2 Stephanie267

General Member of the Public

Rating: 5

Hand In Hand Parenting has literally changed my life and saved my parenting.
Thanks to these amazing practical and brilliant tools I get to be the Mum I want to be,
I get the support to let go of tension and stress so that I can connect and be playful and loving with my daughter as well as help her with any challenges she has in order for her to be free and happy and enjoy her life.
I can't rate them highly enough.
They have huge integrity, kindness and compassion to help families all over the world no matter what their circumstances are.

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Volunteer

Rating: 5

Hand and hand parenting has changed my life. Not only has it helped me be the parent I want to be, it has helped me find my passion to make a difference to all children and families everywhere through this listening and connecting approach. It is by far the most powerful, practical and effective approach to parenting I have found.

2 Cathy G.2

General Member of the Public

Rating: 5

I've been following hih parenting for about 9 months and the tools and support have changed my life.
I'm a different parent - much calmer, more playful and more loving. I'm more self aware and able to recognise and address my triggers too.
The support from the instructors as well as other parents is invaluable and I can't imagine being without it all now.

2 Christine Elizabeth T.

General Member of the Public

Rating: 5

This has helped me immensely to be less aggressive and harmful in my parenting practices. So valuable it’s priceless.

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Client Served

Rating: 5

This non-profit does amazing work supporting parents. I have learned so much from their programs and I’m sharing that info with all of my friends. Parenting is not easy. The information they share has changed my family for the better. I highly recommend working with this organization.

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Client Served

Rating: 5

I was lost raising my kids until I found Hand in Hand Parenting! I "knew" what parent I wanted to be, and I just couldn't get there. Hand in Hand's empathetic approach was the missing link because it isn't just quick tips and hacks, rather it is an immersive approach that felt as caring and as helpful for my needs as a parent, as it is for my children. It made me see how I was parented affects the way I parent (and how to learn new ways if I want to), and how to understand children's emotions and what they go through in their toughest moments, that allowed me to respond in a nurturing way. I learned that I could listen to my child's feelings while setting limits. That I felt less manipulated and more in control. And that I felt supported every step of the way.

And then I discovered that the non-profit works with families from all walks of life, that its approach is effective and nurturing with families living in tough and extreme conditions. That is funds programs in Indian Slums and American jails. That instructors teaching the approach are not just parents, but counselors, doctors, and therapists working with kids after trauma. The work that Hand in Hand's founder, Patty Wipfler, has evolved over the last few decades is so inspirational.

1 Kristen B.4

Client Served

Rating: 5

With one child waking every two hours... at over 18 months old, and another on the way, I HAD to change something. Hand In Hand parenting taught me the value of listening to my child through all of her experiences: crying, tantrums, laughter and joy...

HiH brought laughter into my parenting when rage had been all too normal. The HiH instructors have "stood beside" me, inspired me, cheered me on and lifted me up. They are changing my parenting perspective, helping me heal my own hurts, and become the parent I want to be: firm and aproachable.

General Member of the Public

Rating: 5

Excellent source of free parenting guides and articles. I reference their work frequently to learn more about child development and how better to raise happy and healthy children. They've put together a great online collection of knowledge and experience for parents everywhere.

1 Mimi M.1

Client Served

Rating: 5

Hand in hand parenting changed my life. I felt a shift within me, in my son, in my husband- our whole family dynamic. We laugh more. We play more. I finally love being a mom. I have a support system, a tribe from all over the world. I found more than a book, a podcast, and articles on the internet...I found myself as a mother. I am parenting children who will change the world. I couldn’t be happier. Whether I’m over the moon with joy, sobbing, or fuming about common issues in parenthood, the Hand in Hand community is there for me 100%. It gives me such great hope for the future.

Client Served

Rating: 5

Just listened to a talk from them, it changed my relationship and feelings with my childs on just a week completly. Thanks to hand in hand parenting.

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Professional with expertise in this field

Rating: 5

I have been learning from Hand in Hand for many years. I use their ideas and materials regularly as a school social worker.

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Professional with expertise in this field

Rating: 5

Hand in Hand completely changed my family dynamics. More than tools in a toolbox, I got gems in a treasure chest. My daughter has overcome the trauma she was carrying from her birth, and is thriving, free from the fear that was holding her back.

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Professional with expertise in this field

Rating: 5

Hand in Hand Parenting turned my family dynamics from chaos and overwhelm, to incredible connection and closeness. Its tools work because they respond to the universal human needs to be seen, respected, heard, cherished and loved. After using them for three years they've become our way of interacting and they've helped us overcome many challenges, big and small. Our children have gained resilience, self esteem and assertiveness, and we, as their parents, have grown too. The Hand in Hand tools help families in marvellous ways. More parents need to know about them!

1 Deirdre B.1

Professional with expertise in this field

Rating: 5

I love Hand in Hand Parenting - the best source of advice about raising emotionally healthy people.

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Client Served

Rating: 5

Hand in Hand has helped me so much with my parenting and all my relationships. Such an amazing and caring organization. So many free and inexpensive resources for anyone who wants help to improve their relationship with their child.

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Client Served

Rating: 5

Doing amazing work supporting parents to raise the next generation with better emotional health and making for a better world

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Professional with expertise in this field

Rating: 5

OK, so ten years ago I was a totally overwhelmed new mama with two kids, lotsa love, and not so much parenting know-how. Ten years later, I am still a bit overwhelmed - bc let's face it, parenting and working is A LOT. But - I am happy, my kids are happy, we've got lotsa love and tons of skills and our family works well. No joke - this is because of Hand in Hand. They taught me SO MUCH, and helped make so many of my dreams come true. They are SO GENEROUS with their offerings and I have never known anywhere that helped so completely and kindly and generously. I believe in them so much I now even work for them, and couldn't be happier about it.

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Client Served

Rating: 5

life changing. they provided me with all the tools i needed and didn't even know existed. learning from them has changed every aspect of my life, even ultimately my career as now i even work for them. they are kind, amazing, wise and everything you could ever dream of. i would have been such a mess if i had never found them. and just think what a mess my kids would be, lol!!!

Client Served

Rating: 5

I moved to a new town with a toddler and a newborn, and my parenting took a nosedive. I first learned about Hand in Hand Parenting from their free online articles about sibling rivalry and sleep, which was very helpful. Then, as the sibling rivalry increased, I signed up for a class, and it honestly made me feel like there was light at the end of the tunnel. I wasn't doomed to fail as a parent, and my kids were not irredeemably aggressive-- I was just lacking some concrete tools. Instead of "don't do this, don't do that" it was "try this out and see what happens!" and "I see how hard you're working." My family life has its ups and downs, but I feel equipped now to handle the downs, and I make sure to enjoy the good times.

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Professional with expertise in this field

Rating: 5

I can’t say enough good things about Hand in Hand Parenting. The tools I have learned through Hand in Hand have drastically strengthened my connection with my children and have given me so much of the support I need to treat my children with kindness and love, even during challenging times. I am forever grateful for Hand in Hand.

1 Dixie-Ann H.

General Member of the Public

Rating: 5

Hand in Hand parenting has been a life changer in the parenting game. Not only for me but to the many people who I've shared its resources with. It's a vital part of my support system as a parent.

1 Kerri M.1

Client Served

Rating: 5

Hand in Hand has literally changed my family’s life! My kids are happier, they are doing amazingly well in school and activities, we laugh so much more, we have tons of fun and I get way less frustrated (and yell way less) than I did a year ago. Learning and using the tools is an ongoing process and the help that the book “Listen,” the courses, the parent club and the starter class (that I recently just started) have offered have been invaluable. Parenting is hard, isolating and lonely in this world and HiH is a community that is helping parents raise their kids using tools of connection and love. Before I found HiH, I remember wanting something exactly like this so badly - a way to become a better parent; the parent I wanted to be (calm, understanding, loving, connected, full of grace), rather than the parent I was, which was too often angry, frustrated and at the end of my wits. HiH not only gives tools to help parent, but it also helps parents deal with their own triggers and past hurts through Listening Time and THAT is changing lives: both the parents and the children. It is a lifeline! The world will be a better place for every family HiH reaches. I know that Is true for our family and I am so incredibly grateful that we have found HiH!