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Julia O.

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Review for Alliance of Hope for Suicide Loss Survivors, Evanston, IL, USA

Rating: 5 stars  

Unless you have been a suicide survivor, it is hard to explain how difficult it can be. You go through all the normal parts of grief, but you have other things to deal with. My best friend and the man I was planning to spend my life with, shot himself on December 2, 2010. I knew all the things he was going through, and I knew suicide was a possibility, but when it happened I was still unprepared. And I was even more unprepared for my reaction to it. In early February, I found the Alliance. I read the stories of others, and learned that my reactions were not unusual. I have found a community of other survivors who have kept me sane and helped me through the depression my grief has caused. I have found counsellors who could give me sane, solid advice. All this, at no cost to me.

One of the things surviving suicide can cause is PTSD. I could not sit in a room with more than 3 other people for months. But I could come into the forum and find people to comfort me and to listen to me vent. Ronnie, a trained therapist who founded this site, told me very early on that all I should focus on was getting through each minute, minute by minute, and then each hour. I shouldn't worry about the future, because I wasn't ready. That single piece of advice still resonates with me, and I can now get through days, day by day. I doubt I could have made it this far without the wisdom of other survivors -- and the counsellors and moderators on the forum are ALL survivors.

I've personally experienced the results of this organization in...

understanding that my (for me) very odd reactions were not unusual. I have seen those more isolated than myself find a community to support them. I have been part of that community, and I have recieved the support.

If I had to make changes to this organization, I would...

not change a thing.

Role:  Client Served & I came here for comfort and wisdom in the months following the suicide of my love.