In October 2009, My ex wife left me and used allegations of abuse as one of her tools.
The Advocate in the court room played the drama up and using " fear of " was able to limit my own input into the dissolution of my family.
A vistation sched ule was established and when I ended up with my girls over some holiday time fresh charges were alleged in order to have a TPO in place over the holidays.
After 3 times through with this nonsense, after a TPO was dropped AGAIN, I asked the judge If I was allowed to file charges based on false report, harrassment , PERJURY to get the harrassment to end. Instead of protecting my children and their relationship with me Judge Walker decided to instead protect his political career and defer any decision until my divorce. It was 2 years before I was allowed to enjoy a meaningful relationship with my daughters.
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SHOULD BE A CRIME NOT A DIVORCE TOOL
If the same case had been tried in a criminal court both sides would have been allowed representation and if a man was found guilty he would be place in jail with guards providing protection for the victim rather than a useless piece of paper
In an effort to put cases on their books and look useful this fraudulent organization ruined my life
I am a gay male who without PADV would still be in a violent relationship. PADV crossed barriers to help me retain my life an dignity. I get emotional when I. Think of all they helped me get threw. Ms. Laura Barton an staff has done a awesome Job and I pray that this organization is around for years to come.
Do you know what it feels like to have the man you love nearly choke you to death while your children watch? I do. During our four years together, I experienced all kinds of abuse at the hands of my husband, the kind of abuse that doesn't just break your bones: It breaks your spirit. Beaten and broken - and literally broke (I had $87 to my name) - I ended up in a PADV shelter with my two small children and one suitcase. It changed my life. For the first time in four years, when I went to sleep at night I felt safe because I knew no one was going to pull me out of bed at 2 a.m. and beat me senseless because I had not finished the laundry or the bathroom wasn't cleaned. For the first time in years, I felt like someone cared about me. I felt like I mattered. I lived with my children in the PADV shelter for seven weeks. From the support groups to the legal aid to the friendships I built while there, PADV helped me put the pieces of my life back together again. It wasn't just that they gave us sheets and towels and food - they gave women like me a chance to find ourselves again, to find our strength. Today, I co-own a successful business and am raising two "tween-agers" who are happy, healthy straight A students. I would not be where I am now withouth the support I received from PADV.
PADV is an organization that truly operates to help! When I arrived to Georgia in 2006 I contacted the organization ahead of time to let them know that I would need assistance in getting on my feet. They responded immediately to my needs. Once I obtained a living quarters they assisted with helping me get furniture for my child and I. Food, cookware, clothing, and toys because this was near Christmas.
To me the most effective thing this organzation did for me was the offer the weekly DV Support groups. There was never anything I needed in a timely manner that PADV did not give me. Even if it meant helping pay rent for me for a month or two because I was behind on bills.
Because of the support from this organization I am now in balanced more than ever before. I have learned potential signs of a violent partner through the groups. I have learned that I can make it and that help is out there when needed. Lastly, I have learned that now I can give back. With the support of PADV I was able to get back in school and obtain my biggest goal in Georgia which was my B.A. Degree within four years. They helped my transition be as smooth as possible and now I attribute my success to their labor.
Thank you PADV!