it is this organization that came up when I googled help for a victim. I was at the point of planning my demise and it is without doubt that this organization saved my life, I attended one of their weekends of recovery; and I was not alone. There were people that cared and wanted nothing in return. I left with with a renewed positive view and have continued to move forward. I know I am not the only one that feels this way, but they are great!
I kept my mouth shut for many years in fear, and tried a couple times to take my own life for what was done to me; but one day I went on the web and just put malesurvivor in google. What I found truly saved my life. I went to one of their weekend recoveries and was scared at first; but imagine being in a room with people who cared and wanted to hear, and wanted to listen. They did all that and more. I had something that someone said that I got triggered. For the first time in my life, I had someone stand by me and never left my side for over a hour. I felt like I mattered. I later went to one of their advanced weekend in Utah and these people rememebered my name and gave me a hug and meant it. Again I was with my brothers and regardless of race, religion, sexual preference, anything; everyone just exhaled and breathed. I remember what I said at the end of the first meeting. " I came with a brick wall and some of those bricks fell, but I feel great" I was asked to be part of Oprah's 200 men show in November 2010. I couldn't have had the courage to go if it wasn't for malesurvivior. When I was there, for the first time in 50 years I felt me feet planted on the ground, and that I mattered, and no one was going to tell I didn't matter. Oh, and by the way those feelings of doom; they are gone. I FEEL GOOD!
10 stars. MaleSurvivor is a one-of-a-kind organization with the best people imaginable. I've been to 3 Weekends of Recovery with them, and they have changed my life from victim to SURVIVOR.
As a survivor of childhood male sexual abuse, my first days of awareness were filled with terror as memories flooded my being and left me crippled to perform in the outside world. I had blocked out the traumatic events from childhood and they eventually surfaced as an adult. I ran across Male Survivor over a decade ago as I began to understand the realm and depth of what I was experiencing. I attended a number of retreat workshops and learned that I wasn't alone, that there was a brotherhood of affected men and boys who shared similar traumas. Male Survivor provided a safe and therapeutic environment in which I was able to explore those memories and fears without them destroying me, and eventually I was able to grow enough to be able to step back and give back to the community some of the gained wisdom and knowledge. Today, I have returned to work and am thriving doing what I love to do; my childhood dream of being an Electrical Engineer has come to light, and I am learning to coexist with the past and present 'me'. As much as I've grown, I've seen Male Survivor grow as well. They have always provided excellent support, but they grew as a voice and a presence that ended up giving them much needed exposure. The world began to understand that men are significantly affected by childhood sexual assault, and Male Survivor's core Board dug in their heels and focused on holding a strong administrative foundation in order to be there when the world needed them. I'm extremely grateful to Male Survivor for being there for me and showing me first-hand that it's possible to recover and thrive from childhood male sexual abuse.
When I casually mentioned I was sexually abused as a child, my therapist suggested I look at MaleSurvivor’s website. Unbeknownst to me, my abuse has led a lifetime of personal conflict. Through the website, the Dare to Dream Program, and Weekends of Recovery I have finally been able to, after 30 years of repression, explore and confront my thoughts/feelings of the childhood sex abuse. Without MaleSurvivor my secret would continue to weigh me down, suppress my self-worth, and made view the world in a very negative light. MaleSurvivor is the only reliable place for male sex abuse survivors to find support and resources. MaleSurvivor has helped me recover from innocence lost and to bounce back from the trauma with increased self-confidence, enthusiasm, and self-compassion. We all have personal dragons to slay. MaleSurvivor has been my tool on their journey to recovery.
I have been working through the effects of sexual abuse as a pre-teen for many years and MaleSurvivor has offered consistent support, empathy and compassion even when I have felt I needed to apologize for taking the occasional break. I can't emphasize enough how grateful I am that members "get it" no matter what I am revealing in my story or struggling with in terms of my emotions. The shredding of stigma, the encouragement, and the flexibility of writing on a message board or safely chatting with others bring together men from all over the world, with the experience of a wide range of resources. I always sign out of MaleSurvivor feeling much better than when I signed in!
This organization is literally one of the very few that "get it" in terms of the affects and damage done by sexual abuse and violence against males! Even organizations like RAIIN and PCAR just don't get it like MaleSurvivor does! In my darkest hour, when I was close to taking my own life, their website and programs helped me take the desperately needed steps toward healing and recovery! They continue this effort tirelessly and continue to help others and to raise awareness, even when the current tide in the public eye is want to try and forget about it! Thank you MaleSurvivor for your work!
WHen faced with the reality of my dis-functional life as a result of CSA (Childhood sexual abuse) and in therapy once again. I found Male Survivor on the web and they were having a weekend of recovery in Pennsylvania not far from my home. I attended the weekend and it helped me more than I can express in words. The wounded soul that I was began to really heal.
When I needed help in the Summer of 2008, I quickly discovered that there were almost no real resources for male survivors of sexual violence. While searching online, I was referred to MaleSurvivor and joined the forum. The postings, community spirit and free online resources were of great assistance to me as I began my healing. MaleSurvivor is an incredible resource and I highly recommend it to other male survivors in need of assistance.
Quite simply, MaleSurvivor is an organization that routinely saves the lives of men who have been abused to the point of wishing for any end to the intense and often life long agony they have suffered at the hands of the most wicked individuals on the face of the earth. As a fellow survivor who has taken advantage of the weekends of recovery offered by MaleSurvivor, I can speak firsthand about the incredible work done by the facilitators at these weekends. All the volunteers are truly committed and competent. The experience was nothing less than life changing. I shudder to think where I might be if not for MaleSurvivor. Instead, where I am today is a really good place. My recovery has been aided tremendously by MaleSurvivor
I'm a survivor of childhood incest. This site/organization made me realize I'm not alone and put me in touch with other survivors, support groups and counselors.
Male Survivor has helped me out and changed my life. I was able to attend a Weekend of Recovery and it helped me in my healing from being molested. All of the Members who ran the weekend were all volunteers and were there on their own time. That is so amazing and I am so grateful that Male Survivor is around. The Website is a big first step towards getting on the path of recovery and healing. Male Survivor gave me the hope that I was looking for.
As a male survivor of sexual abuse from the age of 5 till the age of 10, I have struggled my whole life with the fallout. I never understood my rage, feelings of guilt and shame, and the unhealthy behaviors and attitudes I used to mask my real feelings. Then, at the age of 55 I discovered MaleSurvivor through an appearence by Dr. Howard Fradkin on the Oprah Winfrey Show, along with Tyler Perry and 200 men who were all survivors of abuse as children. I wanted so much to be able to stand up there with them on that stage. I wanted to let people know what I have been through and to be seen and counted for the first time. Then on their website I learned about their Weekend Of Recovery programs. I attended one in Dahlonega Georgia, and spent the weekend with 28 men who were just like me, but from every walk of life, faith, color, orientation, and stage of recovery and relationship status. WOW! The support this organization has given me is overwhelming. And on these weekends the faciitators are the best of the best in their fields. On my first weekend Dr. Fradkin was there and so ill that he was hospitalized at the end of the weekend, but he stuck it out for us, we never even knew he was sick. Dedication personified! I recently returned from my second weekend in Utah. Same feeling, same support, same professionalism, same dedication. I cannot say enough. MaleSurvivor is one of my most important resouces along with my family and my local counselor. A real lifeline.