I'm a Clinical Psychologist in private practice and the set of tools offered by Hand in Hand has helped so many of my clients who are parenting children with adverse early experiences or developmental challenges, and it has been especially helpful for families struggling with sleep issues.
Hand in Hand parenting is the best tool I have added to both my professional toolbox as a therapist and my personal toolbox as a parent.
I started using the Hand in Hand "listening tools" when my daughter was almost 2. I've not looked back! It has changed my life personally and professionally; as a parent and as a mental health professional. Underneath of all the technique and theory is a very basic belief in the goodness of parents and children and in the wisdom inherent in each of us. When we are well-supported, we can access that wisdom. Hand in Hand provides that support and teaches us how to support each other; it is simple, yet profound.
I found out about Hand in Hand Parenting when my daughter was a baby. I was confused about why she wasn't sleeping, and hadn't found a solution that made sense to me. Then I discovered Hand in Hand, and their approach of listening to the emotions behind our children's behaviour. Within a few weeks my daughter was sleeping well, and we were feeling more deeply connected than ever before.
I was amazed by the Hand in Hand Parenting approach and how simply by learning to listen deeply and connect with our children they can be their natural, co-operative selves, no punishment or reward needed! I really appreciated the wealth of information that is given away for free in articles and podcasts so that money doesn't need to be a barrier to getting this important information about how our emotions work. And when I did want to start training with them and doing courses they were so fairly priced that I was able to.
Hand in Hand Parenting has been a wonderfully supportive resource for our family. I can't thank them enough for the change this way of parenting has brought to our family.
I am a social worker and parent counsellor in India. I came across hand in hand when I was at a low point and struggling with my children. Hand in hand was like a guiding star in that turbulence. It gave me simple tools which didn't restrict my own parenting but shaped it and refined it. I have since been sharing the tools with people in my community. Advantaged families as well as disadvantaged families. I love the ease with which it adapts into peoples lives and how quickly the children take to special time and stay listening! The support hand in hand extends is invaluable and so much of it is free!
I am grateful every day to have found this approach. It has transformed my family. The work they do in the world, in disadvantaged communities and with families in need is invaluable.
As a Social Worker, MSW, in an outpatient mental health clinic, I find this one of the better models of attachment therapy. Although no parenting approach will works 100% all the time, I find these strategies work with a child/teens emotions and connection to the parent,not just behaviour, and therefore; change can require more of a time investment, but will be long lasting.
Its founder (and those working for the organization), have done a tremendous job (over 40 years) making this approach accessible to all. Many of the free articles, videos and online support make this available to everyone. It's interesting to see many people from different places (UK, Romania, Canada) find value in the HIH approach.
I am a Clinical Psychologist and I work with families of young children (birth to 6 years) and Hand in Hand is my go-to resource for parenting support. The resources are accessible and affordable, and the tools are concrete, efficient and effective. The support I got for myself completely transformed my experience of being a parent!
My go-to site when referrring clients seeking parenting advice. Thoughtful, respectful, compassionate, effective, and eminently sensible ideas and people.
This information was the missing link for me that I didn't even realise was missing!! I've worked with children & families FOREVER & thought when I became a parent that my experience would be similair to my professional experiences.
Boy was I wrong !!!!!
It was so much more complex and emotional. Hand in hand gave me insight into the WHY this was happening and then tools to help me move forward!!!
And so importantly the ongoing support
Life changing! A fresh approach towards building connection between adult and child, far extending the dynamics of parenting. My family has greatly benefited of the valuable tools learned, and my confidence as a parent increased exponentially. Professionally, I have been able to serve families and supported them as they rekindle their true nature with their children. Just amazing!
Hand in Hand Parenting turned my family dynamics from chaos and overwhelm, to incredible connection and closeness. Its tools work because they respond to the universal human needs to be seen, respected, heard, cherished and loved. After using them for three years they've become our way of interacting and they've helped us overcome many challenges, big and small. Our children have gained resilience, self esteem and assertiveness, and we, as their parents, have grown too. The Hand in Hand tools help families in marvellous ways. More parents need to know about them!
WOW! I am not even sure where to start in expressing my gratitude and love of Hand in Hand Parenting. Before I became a parent I read all the books, took countless classes, even went into a field that would allow me to get loads of training on how children grow and learn. I thought I was all set. And then I became a parent... there was so much I didn't/ couldn't plan for. So many things that were outside of the box of what I thought parenting was going to look and feel like. Hand in Hand not only took my child and his individual self into consideration, but me, as well. All the feelings becoming a parent brought up had no where to go until I found Hand in Hand. We would NOT be the connected and loving family that we are without HiH. I am also a parent educator. Some of the clients I work with have had long histories of abuse and drug addiction. Many have lost custody of their children because they couldn't figure out another way to parent other than the ways that had been passed down in their families for generations. THIS approach works for them in ways that no other has been able to. They feel heard, cared about. These tools allow them to HEAL themselves and that trickles down to their children, literally breaking the cycle before my eyes. It is nothing short of awe inspiring. Truly revolutionary!
The Hand in Hand Parenting Tools have been an amazing gift, not just to my family but in how I relate to others in all aspects of my life. Transformative isn't powerful enough a word to describe what finding this organization has affected me.
The tools are so simple and so flexible and so effective. I wish the Listen book could be gifted to every new family. I'm sure it would change the world.
I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who specializes in child and family mental health and I am also a mom of two young girls (4&7). I was introduced to Hand in Hand (HiH) by another professional and friend two years ago and I can easily say it has been a hugely important part of my parenting and clinical work since then. HiH and the Parenting by Connection (PBC) philosphy speaks to the kind of parent I strive to be: loving, patient, playful, emotionally connected and regulated! I started out reading the wonderful articles on the website and the great newletter and was able to begin putting the PBC tools into practice. Next I attended a 6 week Building Emotional Understanding course and was totally hooked. Subsequently, I joined their HiH Instructor Certification program and spent the last year learning in depth about PBC and HiH. I want everyone to know about and be able to use Parenting by Connection because I believe it works, it is in line with current brain research, and it supports the family in a way that is strength based. It has helped me be a better parent because I know how to get support for myself, I am able to tolerate and even welcome my children's upsets as a healthy part of their emotional expression, I am more effective at setting limits, and I have learned how to play and have FUN with my girls!