Nothing but great things to say about Birth Mom Missions. I'm an adoption attorney with 19 years in practice, adoptive father, younger brother to an adopted sister, extended family to a woman who chose abortion over adoption, and friend to many birth mothers and birth fathers. I'm a proponent of adoption. I'm a proponent of birth father rights. As of this morning, assisting in court with the adoption of a sibling group of four (triplets plus one), I've been involved with 1,013 adoptions. I have seen personally and professionally the great joy and happiness that accompanies adoption. Conversely, I've also witnessed the pain, heartache, grieving, and the healing of birth parents as they travel the difficult but rewarding road of adoption. I've seen many Facebook groups and non-profit organizations dedicated to adoption, and birth mother related issues. I'm particularly impressed with Birth Mom Missions. High praise for the tremendous grace and professionalism with which BMM endeavors to accomplish it's mission to serve the needs of all those involved with the adoption process. I've "lurked" on the sidelines for some time, observing the communications funneled through BMM, and only recently become more directly involved. I could no longer stand idly by and not give BMM the recognition it deserves for addressing difficult issues head on. I could no longer consider myself a "good man" in any sense if I continued to remain silent. Edmund Burke's famous quote: "All that is necessary for evil to triumph is for good men [or women] to do nothing." I could do nothing no longer. Those who would oppose BMM in the pursuit of its honorable mission, while not overtly evil, and though otherwise well-meaning, misguided, and misinformed, should reconsider their motives, methods, and agenda. My faith in humanity is fortified knowing that organizations like Birth Mom Missions exist, and that they soldier on through all forms of adversity. Keep up the great work!
Many say they are pro-life and support human life in all forms from conception to death and beyond. The birth mothers not only say they are pro-life, they prove it with tremendous belief and sacrifice. This group validates that reality. To all birth moms, adopted children and adopted parents, may God bless you and keep you until some fine day when you all meet again. Ted
I wrote this message to someone I had friended on Facebook a while ago. I did not know her, but as an adoptive parent I felt a connection to her. She shared so much of her life to another family by being a birth mom. I stumbled upon this site and feel it is great that there is a place that supports birth moms for all they go through.
Below is the email I wrote:
"I have been your friend for awhile now on FB and have looked at your website as well. This might sound strange, but I want to thank you on behalf of the parents who adopted your child for the brave choice you made.
We recently adopted a little girl and she is such a huge blessing to our family! I think about the birth mother all of the time and the huge sacrifice she made when making this choice for her daughter. At this time she does not want any contact with our family and I have no way of thanking her. So, I thought I would pass it onto you instead.
You have given a gift that is bigger than words, bigger than any deed could be done to repay you. On behalf of the family who adopted your child, whoever they are, thank you!
You are in are prayers!"
As a hopeful AP, and an adoptee, I am so thankful for Birth Mom Missions' unique perspective and positive attitude. It helps in my own decision making process.
I just want to say how grateful I am that this group is here. I have been searching for a little over a year now for something like this, and finally I've found it. I have been a birth mom for 14 months now and not a day goes by that seems to get easier for me. I constantly feel like I have to explain my reasoning for my adoption to family, friends, and even complete strangers. I am at the point now where I don't feel comfortable even talking about my little girl to anyone. I just bottle everything up, which I know is not healthy, but it just seems easier than dealing with the judgment and hurtful things people say once they know. I am in a semi open adoption, and my daughter's AP are amazing wonderful people, but when I try to tell people about them they just scold me and call me naive and say things along the lines of, "Oh well one day they will just stop talking to you, I'm sure of it." I just want my family, friends and anyone who knows my situation to appreciate the fact that I have feelings too and I did not enter into the adoption because I didn't want to raise my daughter, I did it for her, because I loved her more than I loved myself. Is this a common thing for birth moms to experience, constant negativity from people who are supposed to be supportive?
I have been looking for a place to just be able to talk about my experiences without any one judging me for my decision. Birth Mother Missions is a great place as I can tell my story to others who have been through the same thing, or to adoptive parents who have a child or are waiting for one to be placed, and to women who haven't made the decision yet but are considering it. While my story has a bittersweet ending in that my son passed away after we met, I am thankful I have a place to go to talk rather than just keep this all bottled in. Thank you Birth Mom Missions.
Birth Mom Missions is intended as a place for all birth moms to come to share their stories and support each other, whether they had negative or positive adoption experiences. There are always discussions that anyone is encouraged to contribute to, or even start their own if there is something they want to address. While there are members who are at times rude and not supportive, there are always others who are kind and have helpful things to say. Despite negative members, Birth Mom Missions is itself is a great asset to birth moms who need a venue to express themselves and interact with other birth moms.
I am a birth mother and I DO think it is important to show the good and the bad in adoption. This is a comprehensive site that allows those mothers who have had good experiences feel welcome, among those that understand. Kudos to any woman who is strong enough to share her story and do it in an honest way!
This group is nothing more than a front for the adoption agencies and lawyers. It is not their mission to help Natural Mothers, but rather to convince mother's to surrender their babies. I find it disgusting beyond words that this happens in this day and age, when there is so much help available to young mother's. If you really want to help how about lending some real support so young women can keep their babies. Adoption is a permanent solution to a temporary problem!
Supporting a woman before and during pregnancy is an admirable goal. However this group does not do this. What this group does do is participate in the coercion and manipulation of vulnerable mothers to the end goal of providing a healthy infant for adoption. I believe the decision to place an infant for adoption cannot be made until six months after birth, just as any life decision must wait until six months after the death of a loved one. I would like to give a rating of Fail. That option is not available.