Becky's Fund was so helpful to me in my time of need. I only hope that one day I can pay all that she and her team did for me forward
I am still in the process of reclaiming my life.
I reached out to Becky Lee, founder and executive director of Becky’s Fund, after more than two (2) years of a downward spiral, following my domestic violence incident. I was in Texas, yet despite being on the other side of the country, Becky found a way to meet with me. One day later, she arrived with an SUV full of clothing for me. The packed SUV was followed up by a drop off of multiple bags and boxes of clothing.
Becky intuitively understood, the more I 'feel like me,' the better I feel. She encouraged me to keep eating and practice self-care. She had one of the most respected security risk threat-assessment consultants contact me regarding the safety issues all victims of domestic violence face. To help me deal with the aftermath, Becky assigned two staff, Sarah and Meghana, to help me. Meghana was in charge of ‘all things’ financial: saving, spending, and budgeting. She built a custom-made spreadsheet, based around my personal expenses, for me to track every dollar. Sarah was in charge of the legal aspects and my job search. I hadn’t been receiving any responses after sending out an unbearable number of resumes and cover letters. It was difficult to find and/or maintain a job during my long-term abusive relationship. My time gap was lengthy and needed explanation. Sarah helped me redraft my cover letter. The following day, four staff members of Becky’s Fund, conferenced me in and coached me through explaining the time gap and the domestic violence incident. A brief mock interview, so I was prepared to provide easy answers without expressing too much emotion. The conference call was auspicious. The following day, I received a call from a recruiter I sent my resume and newly ‘carefully crafted’ cover letter to, a few weeks back. She wondered if I was available to start temping tomorrow, for just one or two weeks. It was in my field. It was Sarah’s cover letter that maneuvered me past the gatekeeper. The first day, I impressed my new ‘temporary’ boss so much, he offered to let me use him as a reference. That was a month ago. We haven’t figured out the logistics yet but he wants to keep me. I am now working for a boss who inspires me daily to both become better at what I do and become a better version of myself. I have kept track of my finances, per Meghana’s instructions, and am more than halfway to my financial goal. Halfway home…
In such a short time, I realized, Becky was much different than the other domestic violence advocates I had reached out to for help. Becky truly wants to make a difference. Her work and dedication prove it. But Becky didn’t try to control me, as other advocates had. Control, too similar, to the control my abuser had exerted over me in my long-term abusive relationship. Becky advises and holds you accountable but she places you in control of your own destiny. Becky and her team, in just a few months, had made more of a difference than all the DV advocates had, put together, over more than two years. Becky and her team at Becky’s Fund are brilliant at their respective roles and dedicated - answering emails, calls and texts on the weekend and working tirelessly into the night. They are so supportive; I don’t feel alone anymore. I have a small but powerful village behind me. I haven’t gotten to the other side yet but I know with Becky and her team at Becky’s Fund behind me, I am going to make it. They just don’t fail.
Becky’s reach is long; her resources are widespread; and her heart is all in. I couldn’t begin to articulate my gratitude and appreciation for all they do, continue to do, and who they are. And the intentions Becky has set for herself on who she’s to become. Becky and her team at Becky’s Fund are the true Gladiators in DC.
Please support Becky Lee and Becky’s Fund. You, too, can help her make a difference for victims of Domestic Violence. For more information, her website is here: http://www.beckysfund.org
No words can clearly express the gratitude I have for your charity. In a time when it seemed my world was falling apart, opened doors were quickly closing and my cry for justice from abuse was falling on deaf ears, it was through the recommendation of a friend that I found Becky’s Fund. This still has been the best recommendation I’ve ever received.
As someone who, fortunately, was unfamiliar with domestic violence until it happened to me, I felt misunderstood and was so excited to be able to see and know that there were advocated out there for survivors such as myself. Becky’s Fund showed me that you cannot only survive from domestic violence, but you can thrive! Your organization taught me to thrive in a time when I didn’t think that was possible; to fight through the tough times and help solidify that leaving my abuser was the right thing. Your organization somehow made such an ugly topic, which was swept under the rug by generations past; into a realistic problem that plagues our city. It can happen to even the most unsuspecting people.
While I am happy to say that I am a survivor and continue to thrive it would have been possible without supporters such as Becky’s Fund along the way to validate my self-esteem and guide me in the right direction. I only hope that other will not only survive but also thrive through breaking the cycle of abuse and landing on the solid ground that they do deserve better.
I continue to admire all of the efforts through Becky’s Fund and though there is not a price to put on having even just 5 minutes worth of support from someone who understands first hand I would like to donate to your cause. I hope that my donation would help in making another person’s life better and healthier. I am interested in how I can volunteer with Becky’s Fund because I am very passionate about helping victims of domestic violence, sharing awareness, and fighting this pressing issue.
I can't thank Becky's Fund enough for the all of the help, love, and support they brought back into my life. If you're like I was: Broken. Hurt. Angry. Sad. Know this: YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Thank you, Becky's Fund. For everything!!! don't know where I would be without you.
I first was introduced to Becky's Fund while volunteering as a model in their 2009 Walk This Way fashion show. Although I was a victim of abuse as a child and had developed PTSD from the trauma, I had not been able to comprehend the common factors from my past experiences that were related to domestic violence. A few months after being introduced to Becky’s Fund, I found myself trapped in a controlling relationship, which quickly escalated to consist of regular and extreme abuse. After barely surviving 20 months of multiple brutal incidences, I miraculously gained enough strength, through the little bit of hope I had left, to leave the situation no matter what it took.
Despite being completely alone with no support and nowhere to go, the feeling of freedom that I gained for escaping that relationship made it all worthwhile.
This is not to say that everything in my life was suddenly remotely perfect. The reality proved to be quite challenging. Nonetheless, the self-confidence I had obtained through my experience left me knowing I could get through anything life was to put in front of me. This time around, I could feel something was different; I had a choice and had finally gained a voice. Since those events, I have had an immense passion to get involved and reach out to others in similar situations. I recently contacted Becky, the founder of Becky’s Fund, after being reminded through Facebook what this organization is all about. Becky’s immediate response, which showed so much interest, compassion and understanding, is the reason I have come to feel comfortable with speaking out, opening up and sharing my story with others. Thanks to the support of Becky’s Fund, I am now being given the opportunity to learn valuable tools that allow me to share my message in a more efficient manner and, most importantly, to continuously be educated on domestic violence, awareness, and prevention.
Having always viewed myself as a very strong independent woman, I never thought i would fall victim to domestic violence. During this difficult time, a friend had suggested I seek help and guidance through Becky's Fund. Not only were Becky and her volunteers extremely helpful in getting me out of that situation, but they were also genuinely concerned for my well-being. This is a great cause being ran by an amazing woman.
I guess I would be under Client Served and Volunteer. I will put client served though because that is the capacity where I have benefited most. I met Becky about 2 years ago, around the year anniversary of my rape. Since then, she has been a true friend and source of support through my struggles with that experience and dealing with other domestic abuse situations from before and since. I have especially appreciated her efforts to kick me in the ass so to speak, to push myself further to be of help to myself and to others. She believes in me and that has helped me have confidence that I am on a healthy road in dealing with myself and others. I am forever thankful that she pushed me to write for the Becky's Fund newsletter about an event that related to my experiences. I was so angry that she "made" me write! And it was one of the best things anyone has ever done for me because it helped me to move on in a way I had not been able to do for over a year. And she has had faith in me to give back by way of assisting with her Workshops for girls and young women. It has been such a rewarding experience to help inform young people to be self-aware and supportive of others. I did not have this kind of support at a young age and I feel blessed to have an opportunity to help children in any way.
More recently Becky has yet again been pro-active in helping me deal with more recent developments. She personally keeps up with me and encourages me. Through her organization I meet other like-minded people who have been a great source of support. Whenever I am around this group of people I feel so positive about the direction I am taking in my life. It has been a difficult road but one made easier to travel by the people at Becky's Fund.
I am looking forward to again helping with the "Becoming your own Heroine" workshop.
I've had the honor of working with Becky Lee with an event that my colleague and I were throwing in DC. I work in a PR firm and one of my clients is the founder of a cosmetics line whose very passionate about the eradication of domestic violence through education & prevention. We thought partnering with Becky's Fund was the right & perfect choice and we're glad we did. Having worked intimately with Becky for about 3 months organizing this event, she has gone above AND BEYOND her role as Founder and partner for this great cause. She took the initiatize on every aspect of the event from liqour sponsorship to advising on guest lists, to coming to help out (along with 4 of her interns) the day of the event to help stuff gift bags. Not only is she extrmeley dedicated to anything she attaches her name and her organization to, but she also this way of making everyone around her feel comfortable and relevant upon first meeting. She's respectful in every way imaginable. She listens to every suggestion with full attention and gives the best possible feedback for all parties involved and not just wants what is best for her organization. Truly selfless and a trait hard to find in DC.
I've also had the honor and pleasure of being invited to her events and each is different and each is successful. And yet, through it all, she's humble. Another characteristic extremely hard to find especially for someone so coveted by the media and holds considerable influence over the social scene in DC. I cannot sing enough praises for Becky & Becky's Fund! So vote for Becky!