As an adoptive mum, Hand in Hand Parenting has provided me with simple tools that are empowering me to lead as a parent in the way I intended but struggled to achieve due to my own early life traumas. I can see how developing this parenting practice is building and strengthening my relationship with my daughter, facilitating healing and enabling me to lovingly support her in being herself. I cannot recommend the tools or the support the organisation provides highly enough. With my psychotherapist hat on I have recognised the therapeutic benefit of parenting in this way, for my child and most importantly for myself, so I have certified as an Instructor. I want the world to know that Hand in Hand Parenting ROCKS!
I encountered Hand in Hand in a moment when I didn't know any more what to do in the relationship with my son. I took a class and my life started changing. I could understand my boys needs and emotional moments. I am deeply grateful for the loving way and support they provide for parents and their children.
WOW! I am not even sure where to start in expressing my gratitude and love of Hand in Hand Parenting. Before I became a parent I read all the books, took countless classes, even went into a field that would allow me to get loads of training on how children grow and learn. I thought I was all set. And then I became a parent... there was so much I didn't/ couldn't plan for. So many things that were outside of the box of what I thought parenting was going to look and feel like. Hand in Hand not only took my child and his individual self into consideration, but me, as well. All the feelings becoming a parent brought up had no where to go until I found Hand in Hand. We would NOT be the connected and loving family that we are without HiH. I am also a parent educator. Some of the clients I work with have had long histories of abuse and drug addiction. Many have lost custody of their children because they couldn't figure out another way to parent other than the ways that had been passed down in their families for generations. THIS approach works for them in ways that no other has been able to. They feel heard, cared about. These tools allow them to HEAL themselves and that trickles down to their children, literally breaking the cycle before my eyes. It is nothing short of awe inspiring. Truly revolutionary!
Such a blessing HIH is. The tools are good and rooted to long term benefits. Strongly recommended!
I'm a mama to 3 boys. I was raised in a harsh authoritarian way and I don't want to replicate this. Hand in hand parenting gives invaluable advice and support to folk like me who don't have the knowledge to parent lovingly and gently, as it wasn't our experience. It gives reminders to be attached and loving even when we feel like screaming - or worse - at children, reminding us gently and firmly that its often our own stuff thats getting in the way of attachment. lots of great articles and posts on facebook too.
I was first introduced to Hand in Hand though my mother who is a board member. She had been touting their great work for years, but like every kid who wants to be the complete opposite of her mother, I ignored her praises. Finally, a flip switched and I hopped on board, and am I glad I did!
The Hand in Hand office is full of love, compassion and joy. Everyone here works as a wonderful and complimentary (and complementary) team, and is quick to help one another out. I think we're lucky that our specialty is communication, because it allows the team to communicate in a really seamless way. Which makes working here such a joy!
Hand in Hand has helped me build a stronger, healthier, closer relationship with my children. Through good times and bad, I have the tools to connect and support my children and other parents. They teach the only parenting method I've run across that helps really connect with children as the unique individuals they are rather than being sidetracked with classifying their behavior or using carrot/stick approaches that don't really work and just sublimate issues and problems.
As a Board Member for a number of years, I find myself getting more and more excited about the work Hand in Hand Parenting is doing. We continue to hear stories from our customers about the life changing effects of the Parenting by Connection approach.
Many parents of young children find that they feel more patient after learning our approach, and they can set limits without being angry or upset when their children cry and protest. They calmly hold the limit.
Our Certification classes are growing and the word seems to be spreading to more and more communities around the world.
In addition to being on the board, I also teach classes in Parenting by Connection and Building Emotional Understanding. I am currently providing support to a group of Spanish speaking grandmothers who have custody of their grandchildren, and one of the most valuable aspects of our program for these women is the listening time they receive in a focused, respectful and confidential setting. They feel like someone knows the challenges they face, and they feel more connected to each other because the structure allows each person an equal amount of time and attention.
Hand In Hand Parenting offers a wonderful set of parenting tools that break away from the traditional methods in which I was raised (blame, shame, guilt, non-connection). Instead, it offers parents a way in which to connect whole-heartedly with their children through a child's best and not-so-best times. Hand in Hand Parenting helps parents to truly understand that when children act out/misbehave/don't listen/etc. it's because of a loss of connection....a need of the child that is not being met. It is our duty as a parent to maintain, re-establish and foster those connections. Hand in Hand Parenting has made me a better parent that sees my children for who they are.
My family is so much happier and more relaxed because of Hand in Hand. The tools they offer to help build close connections between parents and children really work. I am so grateful for their work and can't imagine how I'd be coping as a mum without them!
Hand In Hand supports parents and children. They offer information and support that make you feel connected. My relationship with my children is amazing and partially because of what I have learned through Hand In Hand. I am thankful for finding them.
I discovered Hand in Hand Parenting about 20 years ago when my youngest child was 6. My children date my parenting by pre and post contact with this organization! I learned how to set limits while being kind. and i learned the importance of allowing my children emotional release.
I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who specializes in child and family mental health and I am also a mom of two young girls (4&7). I was introduced to Hand in Hand (HiH) by another professional and friend two years ago and I can easily say it has been a hugely important part of my parenting and clinical work since then. HiH and the Parenting by Connection (PBC) philosphy speaks to the kind of parent I strive to be: loving, patient, playful, emotionally connected and regulated! I started out reading the wonderful articles on the website and the great newletter and was able to begin putting the PBC tools into practice. Next I attended a 6 week Building Emotional Understanding course and was totally hooked. Subsequently, I joined their HiH Instructor Certification program and spent the last year learning in depth about PBC and HiH. I want everyone to know about and be able to use Parenting by Connection because I believe it works, it is in line with current brain research, and it supports the family in a way that is strength based. It has helped me be a better parent because I know how to get support for myself, I am able to tolerate and even welcome my children's upsets as a healthy part of their emotional expression, I am more effective at setting limits, and I have learned how to play and have FUN with my girls!
Hand in Hand is simply wonderful at helping parents be better parents and there is little that is more important than that. Better parents raise emotionally healthy children into emotionally healthy adults and that helps all of us! I get frequent inspiration for dealing with my son and other children from reading their email list and their articles. All parents and children can benefit from the wisdom of Hand in Hand Parenting.
A day that passes without me using Hand in Hand as a resource, is typically not a very good day. As parenting challenges change from moment to moment, hand in hand is right there to solve every issue I come face to face with. With three children under the age of 4, those challenges are aplenty. But I've never felt more equipped then since I found hand in hand. Not only that, but their methods give me confidence that I will spare my children some of the cripples that I carry from my own upbringing.
Hand In Hand Parenting (was Parents Leadership Institute) has been one of the most profound influences on my family and my career. I received the set of booklets as a baby shower gift - the best thing I ever received. The booklets describe a shift in thinking about children's behavior, especially crying and tantruming. Crying is a perfectly natural and 100% effective way a child can shed fears and heal insecurities - if they are listened to and accepted warmly and not rejected, shushed, or treated harshly for it. My daughters were just 8 months old when my husband and I went to a Play Morning with them. We were coached and supported through listening to the babies cry, while reassuring them they were safe and loved. It was tough! We are not the "cry it out" kind of parents! The difference is that the girls were supported through the shedding of their fears and emerged afterwards as very happy girls. Over the past six years, we have continued to implement the Hand In Hand tools (Staylistening, Playlistening, Setting Limits [this is NOT permissive parenting!], and Special Time. Our daughters are very expressive, able to work with their emotions rather than suppressing them, and genuinely happy people. I've changed careers to become an elementary school teacher. I look forward to using the respectful and empowering tools I've learned from Hand in Hand in my classroom this fall.