When my husband died, it was the most painful, unimaginable thing that could have happened to my children and myself. We didn`t understand it, none of my friends understood it, but mostly noone wanted to talk about it. I felt like the white elephant in the room. I didn`t know anyone who had been through the grief of suicide, and when I look back now I am glad noone did know about it. I had noone to turn too, I thought I was the only one that had lost their husband by this tragic death. I started looking around for support groups in my area, I didn`t know how to deal with the grief and loss I was feeling, there was nothing, no single meeting, no suicide support groups, in fact as soon as I said my grief was suicide grief, they couldn`t wait to get me out of the door. It was 3am and I was a wreck, i hadn`t stopped crying in days, I felt so alone and in a really dark place emotionally. i went online and found this group. I posted `I lost my husband to suicide, i am broken` ... with in 3 minutes Ronnie replied, told me I wasn`t the only one who was on this journey and the group would support me, people told me their stories, all sad tragic tales of their loved ones. The group held my hand as i dealt with the legal side and the emotional side, my grief, my children`s grief, I felt normal, I wasn`t alone but mostly I felt accepted to tell my story. I have made amazing friends and have become very close to another lady whose friendship is amazing. This group, was my crutch, my life line and understood me as I walked beside the members in my darkest hours
Finding the Alliance of Hope was the best thing that ever happened to me. I live in a small community where available resources are scarce, especially to the survivors of suicide. On the Alliance of Hope you are able to reach out to others who know what you are talking about, when others do not. It is a safe place to ask questions, that others who have not had this experience would find unthinkable. In short, it is a safe place to come where you are not judged, only fellowship and compassion are offered. No matter what time day or night, someone will answer. At the absolute worst time of your life, it offers a safe haven, for one minute, one hour or for one day. Whatever you need at the time.
The alliance of hope for suicide survivors is an essential on-line, necessary, website providing incredible emotional, social and intellectual support for suicide survivors. It is a place for sharing, for hoping for a better future, and, more importantly, a place to find answers to the untinkable. With 30,000 suicide victims a year in the US alone, and almost a million world-wide, there are at last 6 persons on average per suicide that are devastated by the event. This website is extremely important in reducong the stigma of suicice, which is an important step in the grivieng process, as well as a first step of any suicide prevention program. This website brings together new survivors with older, more experineced survivors who have lived through it all and gives new survivors a better perspective and helps them recover more quickly and become ambassadors of suicide prevention At the minium this website assures them that suicide is a mental health issue and nothing to be ashamed of.