This organization continues to be exceptional. It is led by a group of professionals who understand the reality of sexual abuse against adults by religious leaders. There are not many people talking about sexual abuse against adults, so those of us who are affected by this are often misunderstood. This is why The Hope of Survivors is so important. We need this ministry. Everyone I tell about this ministry who has heard of it agrees that it is excellent. So grateful for them.
I saw how they cared for my friend and her daughter who were in need of support through a difficult journey. They provided them much needed resources and direction, as well as counseling services. I highly recommend this valuable resource to those in need.
I've been supporting The Hope of Survivors for over a decade, and in that time, I've witnessed firsthand how this organization has transformed lives. Despite being limited in financial resources, they consistently deliver professional and compassionate support to victims of clergy sexual abuse. The dedication and commitment of their team are truly inspiring, helping countless individuals begin their healing journey and move forward with their lives. The support provided by The Hope of Survivors is a blessing to anyone enduring the trauma of clergy sexual abuse.
It has been my privilege to be a peer support for The Hope of Survivors for the past year. As a survivor of clergy abuse myself, it would have been a wonderful help to me had it existed when I turned in my abuser, but that was before THOS existed. Being abused by clergy is like having your soul murdered. My late Pastor (not my abuser), the Reverend Professor Peter Gomes of Harvard Memorial Church called my perpetrator a "charlatan".
There aren't words to express how important support is during this time of discovery, recovery and healing from such a devastating experience that leaves you with PTSD. Many books have been written on the subject. However, the support, prayers and encouragement I received from others that God put in my life far surpassed the books I read.
THOS is a very needed and important ministry which I believe should always exist in this sin filled world where Satan would have his way as much as possible. God says NO, not on his watch. I volunteered to work with THOS as soon as I heard about them, and I highly recommend The Hope of Survivors to anyone needing help or wanting to educate themselves on clergy abuse.
While I deeply lament the need for the services offered by The Hope of Survivors, I am very grateful that it exists. Seeing the selfless commitment of the volunteer who I am personally acquainted with, I know this ministry is making a difference in the lives of those who have been hurt.
Im so thankful that this need is being filled. I had the privilege of consulting with this organization and they put so much thought and care into their work!
The counsel and support I have received has a ripple effect that will last generations. Leaving an abusive situation I was told I would go back to my abuser 6 times until I finally left. I have discovered the biggest group encouraging me to go back has been my abusers church, where he pastored, and his former church members/family. Liberty and safety has only been possible with a community surrounding me and my kids encouraging us to be safe. The Hope of Survivors has been the only church ministry that has been helpful in achieving safety and liberty. Please, please, support this well needed ministry.
This website has been absolutely essential in helping me recognize and process the abuse I experienced with a pastor. It has opened my eyes and helped me realize that I am not alone in this situation. Despite living in the UK, the volunteers have gone above and beyond to communicate effectively and support me. They’ve given me the strength to pursue justice and begin healing. They’ve also recommended helpful books and even offered to send them to the UK free of charge. I couldn’t be more grateful for this charity—it has truly been life-saving for me after the trauma I’ve endured. Thank you.
I have become very familiar with The Hope of Survivors over a number of years, as a member of my family has volunteered in various capacities. The volunteer leadership of The Hope of Survivors is dedicated to their mission and works so hard to provide compassionate emotional support through the processes of recognizing, processing, escaping, and healing from this kind of abuse.
This organization has been a blessing to me through the years as I have seen the wonderful ways that they reach out to those who have been deeply hurt by trusted leaders. It is so important that people who have been abused by pastors have a place where they can find hope and healing for their wounds. Quality people volunteer their time and effort to provide services to victims and valuable information for churches. I have supported this organization with financial gifts for many years and I will continue to do so.
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I am thankful to God that I had the early intervention and ongoing support of The Hope of Survivors in my situation. I am sure that I am healing as well as I am because of the godly and sound counsel provided through The Hope of Survivors.
The Hope of Survivors has been my safe place during a very difficult time of my life. Their care has been freely offered and they have made a very real difference in my life.
I Think it’s time some one came forward and Told the story how the church isn’t going to help the victims especially now that in NY so many filled a claim last yr. August 2021 the CVA. I did file a Claim. Because I was Already investigated fully by the church and a independent investigator and all my allegations checked out fully. The bishop also met me on a zoom call and did apologize sincerely I do believe. As well as he told me that the church would take responsibility for my abuse 40 yrs prior. It was a great call until. He asked how he could make my life better and I told him that I read that some the victims had got help financially to help them recover and live a better life with out going homeless and be able to deal with are recovering. He did reply that at that time he could not offer that kind of assistance and that we could discuss it in a couple months after he returned from a trip. As I was confused and Even angry at the situation because he did know i was possibly going to be homeless again soon. I didn’t know what else to do but not let the CVA act pass by in two weeks from our meeting. And now even after all that Im still struggling and my lawyer says there is going to be no possible solution for years. This to me is totally unacceptable because we have victims going hungry and homeless and there is not any one doing anything about it. It’s truly unreal that Is happening when we were convinced to come forward. The problem is also we the survivors/victims kept out secrets for so long that we had learned to live with the pain and. Suffering and many many are even dead now. And it turns out I read all over that that’s what the church wants to out live as many as possible. That does not sound like helping the people who suffered this awful abuse. That clearly we see could have been avoided if some one just stood up and did something to the church long ago. Instead of letting them Lobby with politicians to let them handle there own problems. It’s not ok and if they will not step up and help than the government surely can. And find away to fine them
all the billions there trying to protect so hard by hiding the Money. And it’s common knowledge on top of all of it.
So if there made to give up all the money that the government can find and im sure it’s an unbelievable amount and just freeze all of there assets and make them start over with out a penny. The Church would be forced to not ruin Children’s life’s with there selfish acts of sexual abuse. There would Never be any one powerful enough to cover up the sexual predators so they have the Same consequences as all the rest of the convicted sexual assault people in the world today. The only reason they got away with it is because of all the billions of dollars they have collected from no other than the life’s the
Destroyed.
Thank you I Guess I got pretty angry at the end as I did not rehearse a word.
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I have been praying for some answers because I’m just getting to exhausted to keep fighting and begging for help. I don’t know how much more I can do. Of course I’m not blaming you i just keep getting up every day to more misery. Thank you if you had a chance to read. It’s not personal attack on anyone just so frustrated.
Hello sir. So I don’t know what.else to do I send 100s of emails I even started a go fund me page and no luck so if there’s anything I could use to help me. I would be incredibly grateful. Thanx. Below are emails
I keep sending. Most do not reply because they know the truth.
I send out emails to all the people who either are running non profit organization that tell me that they do not help individuals. So why so much government funding if they do not help us. As well as all the donations. I am truly not happy about my situation as a survivor. But there doesn’t seem to be help for us. Clergy sexual abuse survivors. The CVA act got us to file now what the church is going to stall us for yrs. There has to be a solution better than being homeless again it’s terrifying me.
survivors that are now going hungry and homeless because we waited unit we were older. Im 57. Broke down with all kinds of physical. Emotional and spiritual problems. You realize almost every site like this one is sponsored by. Big government grants. . I asked for help because there isn’t a government of state of NY Program to help us survivor's with a penny for help And when I’m on the government sites it sends me to same places that will not help or say they can’t or do not help individuals. That’s so crazy it’s the individuals that were abused. Is why they have the site to start with. And the big government grants they do with what they wish. I did ask one lady who was very mean telling me I probably was a fraud asking for financial help. Then I sent her a copy of the suit i filed in Albany ny. In august 2021. I didn’t get another response from her. I did tell her if it was against her policy than maybe a $10. Or $20 donation to my go fund me page would help me get some food. But she was quite rude and that’s one of our non. Profits. Getting paid to help but being rude. Idk but that’s not right.
I like to know why I read this in the news and the diocese claims to be settling there claims. I have been. Upfront honest and Also investigated since the fall of. 2020
By the diocese and a special investigator that I had to tell every single detail too. And was going completely credible by every one in June 2021. And I can say the diocese did everything by the book. And I did get. A zoom meeting with the bishop and he did sincerely apologize and it helped me very much But as I have told the bishop office and my lawyer that I am now doing my best to recover and im in a pretty tough spot.
As I cannot hold a job. And im in quite al a lot of pain. Pinched nerves arthritis in my neck that’s so bad some times i can’t do much. And i am tryin to also heal from the clergy abuse that I kept secret 40 yrs. So All that and now even behind on rent I could be homeless at my age. Again and I can’t get any help from the government there is no help for my situation age and pains recovering from all that. And The answers I'm getting are it may take maybe years before anything or any answers to the civil suit I filled last yr. Will be settled if there is any thing done at all to help me. To me some one is not telling the truth my lawyer says since last august there has not been one move forward what so ever.and I read the article that says the diocese is continuing to help the past survivors. I must be reading that wrong The most upsetting thing is I already have been investigated by the diocese and they had a board meeting and I was found credible and I have all the texts and emails. Why do I have to go live on the streets again. And maybe not live through that this time. I’m upset and not going to go quietly with out trying to let people know. That nothing Is moving forward with my suit. And I was investigated what about the other hundreds of people in the
Same spot. That are starting as of last august that are hurting. Isn’t there a time period that the church must respond and try to help us or there lawyers are that smart they can keep pushing this off as long as they want. Idk if that’s the case I guess I will never get help and they all hope I just die off and that’s it. I do not to let my brain work that way. Because as I sat the bishop was very kind and respectful to me but no one has offered me and kind of financial help or I definitely would have not filled a suit that I thought Atleast there was a fund set up to help us survivors. Get a chance to recover and not on a park bench. I don’t know what else to do or say. But if they diocese Is truly trying to hell us. They sure know how to get to my lawyer because I’m not aloud to talk to there lawyers. Or I would go Right down to there office and put them on the spot.
Thank you for listening and if there is anything I can do. Or make any statements about any of this. I don’t have much more to lose now. I think being homeless again is as far down i can go. Or death
I have tried to get help from every single government and state agencies. It seems As now there isn’t a type of funding for this sexual abuse yet in the data base. Especially after filling last year. Not one thing has been done to help the survivor as these law suits may drag on for years for some of us. Thank you for listening and I posted my fund page as it gives much more of my story.
https://cash.app/$RobertLescault
https://gofund.me/dd2ca1c2
518-368-2856. Cell I will answer any questions i can If necessary
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Hi my name is Bob. I would like to share how my BIG SECRET.
Kept me sick and almost killed me.
I have created this page to ask for help after 40yrs of silence of clergy sexual abuse. My support system has assured me asking for help and helping others is the best way to recover from almost anything. Since the day I shared my secret Oct 7th 2020 I have had no desire to take a drink or figure out a plan of suicide. that’s a miracle for a guy like me who went to every length for all those years to keep my secret hidden. I would do almost anything except to share my secret and truly ask for help. My biggest fear ever was living because dying became a natural thought.
Today I share open and honestly my story of hope and how working with other sick and suffering people is giving me another day of recovery. I am here raising money to support myself and help others by telling my story and what ever financial help I am able to raise here. I know it’s going to be a long process because I never had any social media pages and I’m told that is part of most peoples success here. I’m 57 now and have lived a life of pain and suffering so not very much can scare me now. I did everything possible to be as self-destructive as possible because I could not bring myself to share my secret of abuse. I have been homeless a few times and that is a hard way to live but it did not stop me I tried to get help for years with my sobriety and I did everything accept tell my secret. Eventually no mater how hard I tried my secret would lead me back to alcohol because that was the only thing ever to take away the pain even if it was for 1 day.
I am going to share my story here what happened what it was like and what it’s like now. It’s how it works for me today.
I am taking full responsibility for my life now and also asking for help for donations to be able to live a life of hope. I could never let anyone really know me or help me ever before. Today I can ask for help my ego and pride no longer stand in the way of living.
So any financial help I can raise here will be helpful for me to keep a place to live as well as help others who are sick and suffering.by sharing my story with others and those who are in desperate need of some cash to help them with even a little bit to make it through another day. People like me know there is help for them online and going through programs. The places I go to speak most often there are people that are towards the end of hope.most of the people who have gone through what I have and are so far away from reality that a program is not going to help. Unfortunately there are many that will not survive. Because they could not tell there secrets and there minds are controlled by drugs and alcohol or anything other form of addiction and the idea of death is very normal. I believe by me telling my story even if one person who has already made a plan to commit suicide. And hear that I was there and almost succeeded. May ask how they could get help and take one more chance at life. That is worth anything to me
To be able to give back what was given to me by a power so much greater that I am.
I have learned from almost every one who are successfully recovering from almost everything. that helping others is the biggest part of there recovery. I could never understand that because I was in denial my whole life. It’s truly amazing when I share my story with others and a person tells me afterwards that they have gone through the same kind of horror that has dominated there life’s and maybe the act of suicide is not the only answer. That is what keeps me going every day now. I do not know any other way to stay sober today and i can assure everyone that I tried everything I could think of. Our minds convince us that the only answer is death.
My story is probably not unique in many ways. I was an impressionable young guy and very trusting. So when I met father Romano a very nice man I would have no reason not to have trusted him. He was always very helpful and I could talk to him about most anything and I thought that being able to talk to a priest about the things we did was really something. As I know now that’s what is called grooming.
One day he offered me an opportunity for some driving lessons as I just got my permit. I was happy to get the chance because I had no other ways of learning. and having a car to take my driving test. Would be very helpful.
Although I had no idea this day would change my life for 40 yrs. We did our lesson and when we finished he offered to buy me lunch and i agreed. The best part I thought was that he thought it was ok for me to drink as much alcohol as I wanted and I did. That day was different as I drank a lot and really drunker than usual. We left and then the next thing I knew we were at his place where he suggested I take a nap. Well the rest is very obvious. And I won’t speak of the whole act and what Happened next.
I can remember that when I figured out what happened I had an absolute fit and said some nasty things. And ran out the door and I got down the road where I was safe. I only remember that I told myself this did not happen and I tried to block it out of my memory completely. Of course that didn’t work that great.
But I did find that if I drank enough alcohol that I did not feel the pain as much and I did my best even at 16 yrs old to drink as much and as often as I could. I found away to get a job at a bar when I was 17. And learned how to be a bartender. That was perfect for me as I could drink as much as I could and make money. I was drinking to live and living to drink. It was so awful, but I was locked into this way of life to protect me and my secret. I did have many legal issues lots Of fights and drunk driving. One thing happened that would turn out to save me but I did not know it was I had a choice between rehab or jail. I went to the rehab and I did learn a lot about myself but I would not tell my secret and that would come back to hurt me over and over. A few years later is about the time I was told by a girl that I dated off and on that she was pregnant, and I was the dad. I couldn’t believe that this could happen to me I couldn’t be a father I am a mess. She told me that I would not have any responsibility of raising the child but I had to promise to not come around ever again. At the time I thought I was off the hook and move on with my life. But after months passed and I found that something deep inside of me a feeling that I never thought I had before compassion I believe. So I waited until she was born and I showed up. She let me see her for a few minutes and told me that because of how much of a bad person I was and my drinking that I passed up a chance Of being a father. That day would turn out to be a start of trying to change myself. I knew I had to get help and be a father. I did go to Rehab again. But I did it to get the real help I needed and all through my time there. One thing was I could not do was tell my secret no matter what and that was a big mistake. So I did end up fighting her mom in court for visitation rights it took some time, and then we eventually had weekends together. I stayed sober for a few years but the Secret I had buried deep would come back to haunt me. Thank god this relapse did not last long my daughter was still very young at the time. I needed to take care of her and be there for her. I did go back into rehab and I got more strength I did every possible that was suggested. I still had that secret Deep down inside I could not talk about it. I was so determined This time I stayed sober for 12 years and my daughter her name is molly and I had a great relationship over the year's.
I fought as hard as I could to stay sober and I did everything right but tell my secret I had so many chances I just could not do it. I had some great guys around me at that time any one of them would have helped me I’m sure it. I don’t even know why to this day why I wouldn’t tell the one thing that destroyed me for years and struggled through years of pain and suffering.
Now molly was 18, and I was just struggling so hard my pain would get greater all the time I spent days In bed. Depression had taken over and I could not take the pain anymore as the thoughts of suicide were now daily. But I could not do that to her. I eventually ended up drinking again this time was 10x worse than years past and I did everything possible to self-destruct myself. Now the choice of suicide would get stronger and the pain greater. Molly had her life and Although she noticed I was not the same i just lied all the time. Then a couple years later she decided to enroll into the Air Force and left for Texas. Now nothing could Stop me and it wasn’t long before I lost everything, and I was homeless and still could not have the courage to tell my secret. How far I let this secret control my whole life. I believed at that time that I would be better off dead. My thinking took total control of my life and led me to dark ugly days for years now.
Molly came back home from Texas and it wasn’t long before she was sent to Kansas for 2 yrs. But the little time she was home she saw how awful I looked and figured out that I was in really bad shape. She asked me to get help because she was afraid how far down I had gone and at this point she was aware that I was drinking daily and in and out of hospitals it really hurt her to see me go from the dad she knew and loved to losing a business and nice place to live and now broke and homeless. Even until this day that little girl made a difference between going through with plans Of suicide and for me to keep trying to get help. I could not end my life and hurt her like that I’ve seen stories of those who did and how much there kids had to suffer. And of course I had an unconditional love for her that I had never before experience..
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We desperately need organizations such as Hope of Survivors to assist clergy abuse victims and to educate churches on how they can better support victims when these tragedies occur. I was taken advantage of by a therapist and church elder years ago and felt utterly alone and hopeless. Knowing there are people out there who get it and who are willing to help is sometimes all we need as victims to keep going, to keep fighting another day. I have now joined Hope of Survivors as a volunteer so that I can be that lifeline for someone else. Thank you Hope of Survivors.
This organization is a Godsend to so many. They live out their core values of care and support for the vulnerable. Just like their name, they give "hope" to survivors. I am forever grateful for the role they played in helping me find my voice and expose abuse.
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I have been personally blessed by the support and love felt from THOS. I was just telling someone today that Samantha Nelson is one of the most compassionate persons I know. I have referred several hurting women to her and I know that they will be received with love and kindness.
I have been amazed of the commitment of the volunteers that help victims find healing and leave behind a painful experience.
I am fulfilled that I know I am contributing to a great organization that has hard but important mission.
THOS was extremely helpful to myself and my fellow plaintiffs when we sued our abuser. They helped us find ways to fund the inevitable expenses that came with our lawsuit and the countersuit our abuser filed against us (he lost). They filled a huge need we and offered encouragement and prayer along the way. Would definitely recommend them and look forward to assisting them in their purpose in the coming years. I'm very grateful for the work they do on behalf of so many.
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I first became aware of The Hope of Survivors in 2006.
While so many churches and other organizations decline to stand firmly in support of victims of clergy sexual abuse, I have great admiration for The Hope of Survivors' courage and its unwavering insistence that the safety of God's flock demands that clergy sexual abusers NEVER be returned to pastoral ministry.
Thanks, and keep holding that line for victims and for the vulnerable!!
I happened across the Hope of Survivors 12 years ago. They took the time to listen, give my experience a name & that I was not alone. Years later I was able to give back in being a representative at their booth at a convention. The most rewarding part being when women, men & youth stopped to share their stories of directly or indirectly as family member being helped by THOS. They also shared how they were now helping others. They said thank you both by word & donation
Over the years I have had opportunity to meet three volunteers who are now the new leaders. These folk have served THOS in previous positions for a number of years. I have come to trust them. & believe Steve & Samantha Nelson, the founders, have passed the leadership to a group of very qualified caring people who will continue this much needed work. They have my continued support
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Ten years ago while attending a convention, I received material from The Hope of Survivors’ booth. After reviewing it, I returned and, with great difficulty, talked with the couple there, who turned out to be the founders of the organization. That was a turning point in my life.
I have remained in contact with THOS. My life has progressed to the point where, in 2019, I was one of those volunteers staffing The hope of Survivors’ booth at a convention. Besides being a time for us to educate and help, both women and men stopped by to say thank you.
Near the closing of the last night, a teenager hurried past appearing to be on his way to buy a last minute item. He turned and came back. With tears in his eyes, a smile on his lips, and with a heartfelt “thank you,” he donated his money to THOS, then turned and left. The impact struck me—a teenager felt a donation to The Hope of Survivors would be a more meaningful gift than the thing he had previously in mind.
Without HOS, I would not have been able to fly to the courthouse to face my abusers. I am forever grateful for their help and support. That day was priceless: to meet with the other victims face-to-face, to be able hear the judge support us and admonish our abuser. This was a turning point in my own journey to healing after abuse. Thank you, HOS!
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When I received notice about the court date, my heart sank. I did not have the money for an airline ticket to face my abuser or for a hotel room. I did not know what to do. Through the donations given to HOS, I was able to make that trip and witness the judge's support for all of us (the victims) in the lawsuit. I cannot thank HOS enough for their support. The healing that took place was priceless.
This organization continues to be exceptional. It is led by a group of professionals who understand the reality of sexual abuse against adults by religious leaders. There are not many people talking about sexual abuse against adults, so those of us who are affected by this are often misunderstood. This is why The Hope of Survivors is so important. We need this ministry. Everyone I tell about this ministry who has heard of it agrees that it is excellent. So grateful for them.
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This is a ministry helped bring me through the hardest, darkest moments of my life. It’s a ministry with integrity and so needed. It’s a shame there aren’t more ministries that address the issue of clergy sexual misconduct towards adults. This ministry is a gift from God and led by godly leaders. I cannot recommend this ministry enough. May the Lord continue to prosper this ministry for His glory!
Fourteen years ago I became acquainted with The Hope of Survivors at a religious conference when reporting my doctoral research about young adults leaving the church. Afterwards I was invited to join THOS' team of volunteers. I was so impressed with their work for victims of clergy sexual abuse that I accepted the opportunity, and have been part of this organization ever since, participating in Hope & Healing conferences for victims and their spouses. Recently I was elected president/chairman of this wonderful organization, and we added an attorney and social worker as volunteers so we can optimally serve victims of CSA.
THOS has been a lifeline for me; if they hadn't been there, I wouldn't be any more either. During a time of extreme despair and pain, my THOS contact was the first person I felt really understood the process I was in and helping me understand what was going on. That made all the difference. How to heal when your soul has been raped requires só much time, patience and hard work. For me it is unbelievably valuable that THOS is there along the way, just listening, comforting, explaining, praying.
THOS came along side me and others with support through our court process that eased the load and stress! Plus helped me get into much needed therapy/counseling.
It would have been almost impossible for me to have gone to court to face my abuser and gain the healing I did without the aid of HOPE OF SURVIVORS. Their help truly gave me hope and aided greatly in my ongoing healing process. I’m am deeply grateful to them.
This organization is the real deal. They care about each and every one of the victims they support, and they do so with grace and kindness.
When my abuser counter sued me for speaking out against him (he lost!), HOS helped me with costs involved. They truly stood in the gap for me and my fellow plaintiffs and made a very stressful situation less so.
The Hope Of Survivors website information helped me discern what really happened to me and why. Because of the information they provide regarding Pastoral grooming, I was finally able to recognize the process and identify him as a predator. Unfortunately, it was too late to save my marriage and my family, but I found the courage to save myself from that relationship and move forward. I only wish I had found this information sooner. I would encourage all counseling professionals to be better informed about this type of abuse to help save others from making devastating decisions.
The Hope of Survivors educates and supports regarding victims of clergy abuse or abuse by anyone in church leadership. I was actively involved with the organization in the past and found that the need is real and the non-profit has certainly helped and benefited so many people in a number of countries as well as all across the United States. I keep in contact with THOS and fully support their outreach. This is definitely a needed organization!
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I have worked with women officially world-wide for many years and know how prevalent this abuse can be and how often the victim cannot get support. I remember one case in Romania; it was heart breaking. And another in Australia--I was surprised how difficult it was there then to get help. I so wish there had been a Hope of Survivors then! That is one of the reasons I support THOS now
No one could understand what I was dealing with. No one could possibly relate to the emotion, the shame, the hurt, the confusion & the betrayal I was experiencing. No one did, until I found The Hope of Survivors! They truly became a source of HOPE. I began understanding the what & why to my story! I started to heal! I’m forever thankful for this amazing group of people and the resources available!
As a senior pastor it was deeply disturbing to hear from a congregant that she had been sexually exploited by a former member of our clergy staff. With few local resources available to assist, it was wonderful to hear of the support she received from your charity, support that has continued over the 10 years since. I'm pleased to be able to thank you through this word of support for the ministry you continue to offer to victims of clergy sexual abuse. God bless you!
The Hope of Survivors gave me the definition for what happened to me. I had no idea what I had been through. The session of my church labeled it adultery, while at the same time using the terms “he was grooming you” and “that is textbook sexual abuse”. I had never heard the word “grooming” so I immediately googled that word as well as church abuse. The website that popped up was the Hope of Survivors! It was here stories of women that matched my own! As tears fell on my cheeks, I found myself experiencing mixed emotions; thankful to finally understand what I had been through, yet mournful at the realization! The Hope of Survivors is where my healing began! I will be forever thankful! I am proud to promote this organization they will have my financial support so other women like me will have a place to go and learn about what they’ve been through so healing can begin!
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Had it not been for the Hope of Survivors I would have never been able to make sense out of what happened to me at the hands of my pastor! They offered light in the midst of darkness! A willing volunteer lovingly wept with me and helped me through so many dark days! Offered me hope on days that felt hopeless. When I plead for help for my husband, Mr. Nelson called him personally! The Hope of Survivors was a life giving resource when life seemed hopeless! I thank God for their tireless, sacrificial ministry to anyone who seeks help, whatever their denomination.
Hope of Survivors offered a place of healing and hope when there was no where else to go. The organization continues to be a place where people fi comfort, encouragement and connections with others who have faced the disappointing reality of abuse in the church. God continues to use Hope of Survivors to direct people to the truth and open the eyes of many who are unaware of what is happening to women and men everyday.
The Hope of survivors has been a lifeline for us when our lives were filled with chaos and confusion. They brought godly clarity to our situation, and helped us see hope into the future.
Thank you!
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My wife was abused by our pastor. We could not find anyone with the expertise to deal properly with this type of extreme betrayal. I am grateful my wife has found the website Hope For Survivors. It has helped her to see the situation of pastoral abuse properly, and to be able to forgive herself.
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My story is not as dramatic as many others which have come through Hope of Survivors. But having been on the edge of a similar event, I can relate to those who Hope of Survivors has helped.
When I was just out of graduate school, I married a young lady whose parents were what I think of as "hyper-fundamentalists," people for whom their religious system was all-important, even more so than anyone with whom they were in contact. The mother in this family believed that everyone she knew should be a worker in God's kingdom, so devoted that they should become full-time ordained ministers in the denominations she determined were "selected by God." My brother-in-law actually did become a minister, in a couple of denominations selected by my mother-in-law, and, as he put it, "The voice of God only came through my mother.!" He wasn't terribly successful as a minister and he is now a customer service representative for a large chain-store.
It turned out that my in-laws were devotees of Bill Gothard's Institute of Basic Youth Conflicts, and along with my then-fiancee, I was forced to attend. It was very strange, since Gothard's teachings designated the man as the absolute head of the household, and the woman was to be subservient to him. My mother-in-law said that that was the only part of Gothard's teaching she didn't agree with.
My mother-in-law tried to force me to become a minister also, offering to pay up to half of my wife's and my living if I did. But I refused to do that since I did not feel I had anything even resembling a call to the ministry. My mother-in-law started actively campaigning against me by constantly telling my wife that I was not a Christian, and that I would desert her in the future. This abuse took an emotional toll on me, and I tried to reconcile with my mother-in-law, but she would not have that and continued her criticism and denigration to my wife. When I suffered a nervous breakdown because of the mental abuse, my mother-in-law forced my wife to divorce me and it left me almost completely unable to function as a human.
There was a couple my parents knew who understood what had happened to me, They were a college religion professor and his wife, and they were compassionate and active in helping the people they knew. I was fortunate enough to be under their ministry, and was able to recover and regain my ability to function.
Sometime after this, I ran across Hope of Survivors, and learned that Hope of Survivors was helping people by accomplishing the same mission that my benefactors had accomplished with me. Hearing the stories of people that Hope of Survivors has been able to help impressed me and led me to make them a ministry that I support. To know that there is a resource that can help victims of religious and clergy abuse has made it possible for me to stay in the community of faith, and I support their ministry as much as I can.
At a time when I was being ignored by everyone, The Hope of Survivors was a beacon of light that gave hope to a hopeless situation. Very few people can define what clergy sexual abuse is, let alone help you through all the levels of turmoil it creates for your life & those around you. This organization deserves recognition for the pioneering work its doing among the hurting & abused within the church that should not exist. Their understanding & the information on their website is lifesaving to say the least.
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The Hope of Survivors is one of a kind! It is a much needed life support for many that find themselves in a horrible situation of being betrayed by their spiritual leader. Without this organization, their staff and volunteers, and their amazing website, many in this sad situation would find themselves without any help or support. I was a victim of pastoral sexual abuse and when it came out, I became a victim of an ignorant church that rallied around the abuser and ignored the victim. The wealth of knowledge found on their website, along with someone to talk to who understood, was what saved me from feeling like the only answer was suicide. They offer truth in the midst of so many lies and hope to what seems utterly hopeless.
The Hope Of Survivors is a great Organization! They helped me get through one of the most difficult times of my life. Thank you for everything!!!
THOS came to my family’s / friends needs in a time of crisis. Their emphatic help helped us navigate the difficult times. Highly recommended!
The Hope of Survivors have been faithfully, skillfully, and patiently helping victims of clergy sexual misconduct for over two decades. I served on the board at one point and know the inside of the organization. Let me testify to the fact that while so many "ministries" are buying their next jet, THOS staff are giving blood, sweat, and tears for oh, so little in return.
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I'm a riotous supporter of The Hope of Survivors. Why? Because I believe in small, sacrificial, professionally-run, non-pretentious ministries that are long on substance and short on hype. THOS fills an important niche (which is more like a gaping wound in the body of Christ). They've been frontline helpers for countless victims and nemeses to many perpetrators. Besides the work of educating the public about clergy sexual misconduct--a topic that, however well they speak on it, many avoid--they command a team of volunteers, some of whom are survivors they helped once upon a time. Given their complete lack of personal benefit from the organization, their motive can only be pure compassion.
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THOS was hugely helpful to me when I was struggling to leave an emotionally abusive situation ten years ago. I have continued to support THOS financially, and would encourage others to do so.
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This is a very effective and compassionate organization whose work deserves recognition and support. I have donated to them every year since 2009.
The Hope of Survivors in my experience was as a life raft to one trying to keep their head above water in a stormy sea. I had stumbled out of an abusive situation and was reeling with the words of my former boss and ministry leader that what he had done to me was an affair. With how traumatized I was I could not put words to the fact that THOS at a conference made clear to my heart: it was not an affair, it was predatory abuse. The support and clarity THOS has given me since has been a part of what has helped establish my feet and rebuild my life.
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From the first I heard of this nonprofit I have found their work to be beneficial and supportive to those involved in saying no to abuse and giving clarity and definition for those who are reshaping their lives with kindness and dignity after deep harm has been done.
The Hope of Survivors (THOS) is the greatest source of hope and healing for every person impacted by clergy sexual abuse, but particularly for adults. Unfortunately, when a spiritual leader has a relationship with an adult member of his flock, the overwhelming majority of the church places the blame on the congregant. This lie from Satan is what causes the most damage to the member who was abused, her family, the church, and the Kingdom of God.
Finding the truth that my relationship with my pastor was not an affair, but was in fact, an abuse of power, was the first step in my recovery. Several other myths were dispelled that brought additional healing. The truth sets us free. THOS has helped free countless lives who were bound by the brokenness caused by clergy sexual abuse.
THOS provides hope and encouragement that guide a victim to become a survivor. They offer support and truths that help survivors rebuild and strengthen their relationship with God. They have been instrumental to the healing my husband and I have experienced.
Every person impacted by clergy sexual abuse will find hope and healing from The Hope of Survivors!
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The Hope of Survivors speaks truth that sets victims free to becoming survivors! Their constant message of abuse of power versus an affair is the foundation that allows victims to begin healing. My husband and I have benefited greatly from this organization. Every person who has ended up in a relationship with clergy will find hope and healing through The Hope of Survivors!
The Hope of Survivors provides a service for victims with infinite needs. I don't like that I have not yet recovered from what an ordained man did to me. But Denial does not work. It does not help me recover. Over the years the cost of his abuse cannot be measured in dollars. While it feels like the pain will never go away, it comforts me to have a place to go, knowing I can trust THOS will believe me. I am telling the truth. Years after the abuse I still need someone to help me accept it did happen. Not easy to do in a world that tells me I am lying. Without THOS some of us die, spiritually if not physically. THOS meets a need that is real, no matter how much we don't want to face the reality of that.
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Hope of Survivors is saving lives. at a time believers/survivors of clergy sexual abuse need their religious/spiritual community more than any other, they are shunned. it reminds me of The Scarlet Letter. Hope of Survivors does not fail survivors the way a church can. Hope of Survivors does not betray survivors the way a church can. Hope of Survivors leads survivors to recovery, not to spiritual suicide.
This not-for-profit has personally helped me when I felt more alone than I ever have in my life. They continued with me in support and love for almost two decades.
Hands down amazing!
I first learned of this organization through the testimony of a friend. I immediately shared with another friend that benefited so much through their services. Later, I needed them for myself. I was hiding from everyone, a terrified victim of clergy sexual abuse. This organization connected me with counselors that helped me stand up and walk through the emotional valley of the shadow of death that I had fallen in. They helped me find a new life free from fear. It was hard to decide which role to select here because I am now a regular donor and a board member in one of the international divisions of this organization. I recommend them to every survivor of clergy sexual abuse.
When Clergy Sexual Abuse happened at our church I called The Hope of Survivors (THOS) for advice. Their advice gave me courage to tell the truth and be the voice for the voiceless. This organization is much needed ministry for churches all around the world. It's incredible that the website is in multi-languages to help and educate people. That is why I volunteer for this precious organization. Thank you, THOS!
I am acquainted with several cases in which The Hope of Survivors gave more than just hope--they gave real concrete help. I totally believe in this ministry and wish it were better known and promoted; I think Samantha does a great job and needs help, financially and from volunteers.
Samantha and Steve, The Hope of Survivors, literally saved me in many ways. Although I'm no longer religious in any way, I truly love and respect how they help survivors of pastoral abuse. They are wonderful people. I've had cancer before my abuse and went through pastoral counseling for my child abuse and was abused again. Had 3 kids I raised alone and went through this in 2000 to 2001. I was breaking down completely. They were there for me...even financially. I love The Hope of Survivors! I praise their dedication to victims. I've since been through almost death and a liver transplant then death again 5 times. I got through all that thus far the last 4 years and it was a lot because of the faith they had in me. I also try to give back.
Samantha and Steve have been such a godsend and blessing to me, God is working through them no doubt!!!
The Hope of Survivors fills a vital, mostly over-looked role. Serving those who have been abused by the very organizations and leaders who are supposed to serve them with integrity and godliness. They are totally dedicated and committed to leading survivors to a life of wholeness and healing.
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Clergy sexual abuse is one of the most misunderstood types of abuses, and unfortunately, victims are horribly blamed and shamed. The Hope of Survivors is the one place where victims can go for real answers and genuine, compassionate support! I don't know what I would have done without them!
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Like many people who contact the Hope of Survivors, I too was a victim of spiritual abuse and clergy sexual abuse. When the abuse was first discovered, I was blamed for seducing the pastor into having an affair. I was so confused because I had gone to him for counseling, not an affair. I felt like the church had set me up to fail and offered no support for someone in my situation. Even worse, I began doubting myself, feeling like I was losing my sense of reality and feeling like God was angry with me. Thank goodness there is a resource out there that can explain clergy sexual abuse so effectively and help victims heal from this type of trauma. I have personally contacted a representative from the Hope of Survivors, and she was so supportive in a beautiful, non-judgemental way! If it wasn't for this organization, I don't know what I would have done. The Hope of Survivors is a much-needed outreach for those who have been hurt by the church and who need to know there is a compassionate God who is for them!
Several years ago I went through ordeals (trouble, suffering) of sexual abuse by spiritual leaders. Keeping quiet & stuffing memories seemed the only way to struggle through. Others who experienced such came to me for guidance. Sadly at the time I the only thought that helped myself that I could share with them. “We are not alone.” I did learn what my denomination said was suppose to happen. But sadly reality was different. Without help from rare people such as The Hope of Survivors (THOS) I know at least one of the other has died.
Recently “clergy” sexual abuse (csa) has come up in conversations. I am very grateful that I can share THOS information & material with them. Just the other day I experienced THOS from a different prospective that greatly pleased me. Someone else brought up how THOS had helped folks in a church in their community.
The Hope of Survivors’ influence people far beyond those in personal contact or attending a seminar or stopping by THOS booth. Folk in communities are learning of THOS resource even before they have a direct need.
The needs are great. Resources are stretched. To me The Hope of Survivors definitely worthy of help.
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Do you know the feeling of being emotionally alone, abandon? Have you ever felt God left you or was like some two faced person? I have
Directly & indirectly I have been affected by clergy sexual abuse (csa) all my life. I have been part of churches who keep cycling through sexual abuse by spiritual leaders. Few in the churches acknowledge there are wounded. No one, including me, seemed to know how to cleanse & heal or stop the cycle.
Why didn’t I leave? Because I want a relationship with a loving God who I felt safe getting close to. Other options appeared, to me, less likely to find that relationship than in my “sinking” churches. I clung to the hope that somewhere I would find at least one safe person who had the answer & would share with me.
While attending a convention I came across The Hope of Survivors booth.I found more than one safe person who shared. That was a turning point. I did not experience instant healing from a lifetime of csa. But The Hope of Survivors did not abandon me. They have walked beside me for years since then.
The Hope of Survivors does more than help those hurt by sexual abuse by spiritual leaders. They help others learn how to create safe places, build relationships & lend a hand. This also requires time & money.
I gladly contribute time & wish I was in a financial position to also contribute a lot of much needed money.
How much would you give by word, action or money not to feel alone or abandon? How is your relationship with God? Could you, would you share that relationship with a hurting person?
My pastor was mentoring me while I led a women's Bible study. He began dropping sexual comments into our conversations, and they were so subtle at first that I wasn't sure I'd heard him correctly. He began telling me that he loved me, that I was his soul mate and spiritual advisor, and he said we were having a "spiritual affair." He wanted to talk about intimate subjects rather than Scripture. He groomed me relentlessly. I needed his help so was afraid to tell anyone what was happening, and I began feeling emotionally bound to him. My husband confronted me about 8 months in, and together we went to our Bishop. During this time, I couldn't have survived emotionally without the help of THOS. They were the ones who told me the truth about what had happened to me - that this was clergy abuse - and the ones who helped piece me back together again. They were there for me every step of the way with kindness and patience. I am forever grateful to Samantha Nelson and THOS for saving my sanity.
Sex abuse is horrific. A place no one ever wants to be. Then for it to be a "trusted" representative of "God" when you are seeking help!
The mental, emotional and psychological anguish is overwhelming. IN COMES THOS ... without which there is no survival. They are professional, informative, and supportive. And then continue to provide support and information ongoing.
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FEW HAVE ANY UNDERSTANDING the magnitude of SPIRITUAL SEXUAL ABUSE !
The devastation that follows having not only threatened neurological / physiological impact of a human body, but the mind and spirit after years of RELIGIOUS grooming, bonding, and associations of GOD and a charismatic man who many refuse to believe that not only did he "groom" one but MANY [who often fear to come forward due to the repercussions and implications for that person/ 60% of sexual assaults are not reported to the police; 97% of rapists will never spend a day in jail.] This man's child found videos of multiple victims and still people wanted to excuse "affairs".
I could not have recovered (and am still in the process years after....medically, emotionally, socially, and SPIRITUALLY) but HOPE OF SURVIVORS
-educated me.
-held my hand.
-visited me.
-attended confrontations with staffs.
-provided support GROUPS and online services (24/7)
and honestly was my ONLY HOPE!
I'm so thrilled for their
I am a survivor TODAY because of Samantha and her team
An absolutely invaluable resource of hope, truth and healing.
Would not be here without The Hope of Survivors.
The Hope of Survivors is an incredible resource for survivors of clergy sexual abuse and their family members! They are there to counsel and guide individual survivors out of the horror they have experienced. They educate survivors and the general public, and to help prevent CSA like no other organization that I know!
We used their expertise when presenting a bill in Maine making clergy sexual contact with congregants illegal, joining 12 other states and D.C. which already make it illegal. One of those states, Texas, has such a law which Pastor Andy Savage could have been tried under, had the Statute of Limitations not expired. Their bill was signed into law by then Texas Governor George Bush.
We will be going back in the next regular session with an amended version based on Minnesota law, which has been on the books for 33 years. It has withstood all legal and Constitutional challenges, and it is very effective in reducing clergy sexual abuse.
The Hope of Survivors has been and will continue to be with us every step of the way as we seek to get the law passed in Maine. All other states should enact CSA laws, as state borders should not dictate who is protected and who is not.
Keep up the great work that you do, THOS!
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THOS is an incredible resource for individuals who have experienced clergy sexual abuse, and for ministries struggling with the after effects of it being made public in their respective communities of faith. They helped my wife and me understand the truth of CSA. They have been a great resource in our efforts to bring legislation here to Maine; making sexual contact by a clergy member with a congregant illegal. 13 states and D.C. presently have such laws, with a number of CSA survivors starting the process of initiating bills in their respective states. Keep up the great work The Hope of Survivors!
When I told my story to a licensed therapist I thought I was confessing to an "affair". Through her words I began to see what I had experienced was CSA. But I couldn't wrap my head around it. How could I not be guilty? He had told me that we were having an affair even though I had never wanted any of it. I started to do some research on my own on line. And I found THOS. Praise God I did. Their information was a true God send and helped me during the worse 2 years of my life. I thank God for them and this resource.
I can't go into the details of my experience at this moment, but I can say with confidence that THOS was absolutely vital in helping me break free of the chains of an abusive "pastor". I was under his control from the age of 19 for almost 7 years. I endured the worst of the abuse in the last 3 of that, but I am SO thankful for THOS. It helped me fully realize that what I experienced was in fact abuse and nothing less. The peer counselor provided to me by them and the amazing resources on the website were and continue to be invaluable to me as I continue to heal from this experience. Thank you THOS for doing what you do. You were pivotal in my rescue from abuse.
THOS has always been there even 7 years later. They never leave you to deal with emotions you thought you had put to rest. Im thankful everyday i know at anytime i have someone who knows my pain and can help.
Words cannot express the gratitude that I have for the profound kindness that The Hope of Survivors has shown my husband and me during some of the darkest days and nights of our souls. Their experience, knowledge, faith, and deep care provided us with the essential spiritual nourishment, guidance, and support that we desperately needed after recovering from years of clergy abuse. THOS is led by a truly dedicated and loving team of people who have either been there themselves and/or have deep compassion for those of us experiencing despair from the horrors of clergy abuse. My husband and I are forever grateful to THOS.
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THOS and its people are truly sincere, compassionate, and deeply dedicated to supporting anybody who has been devastated by the exploitation and abuse of spiritual leaders. They are willing to help anyone in crisis or need and will pour their hearts and soul into offering hope to survivors of clergy abuse regardless of their religion or denomination. They care. They really care. And they will remain at your side the entire way. I know and my husband knows how precious this organization and its people are. They walked beside us both during some of the darkest days of our lives, and we are forever grateful.
I did not know this existed until I googled looking for help and I do mean help to overcome the utmost betrayal in my life. Mary Jo listen and when I needed to talk she was their. I not quite were I need to be yet but I have came along way away from that horrifying place I placed in. Li
This nonprofit has not only been a well of information to my experience with CPSA. Samantha has been faithful in helping me to fulfill Ph.D requirements for my dissertation topic. I look forward to being a blessing to them in a tangible way. Their services and information sources are invaluable. Thanks Hope of Survivors for all you do and for the many souls that are being blessed by and through your ministry.
Karen Reid
The Hope of Survivors has been a safe place for me that provided the support needed after being deeply hurt by my pastor. Having experienced clergy sexual abuse, I did not find help or healing from my church. There was nowhere to turn for answers until I found The Hope of Survivors. It is a community of survivors working to regain a relationship with God in a safe environment; people who understand the damage caused by clergy abuse. It is a lifeline and a bridge to help victims become survivors.
I was being mentored in a new program by an elder in my church. I became emotionally involved with him and told him to stay far away from me, which meant no more hugging, no more telling me he loved me, and no communication, period. He would not leave me alone and eventually invited me to have a "physical affair without emotions." He said he had been looking for someone to have a physical relationship with him. I told him I could not do it and told my husband and pastor. The pastor was understanding at first but eventually turned on me and told me to keep quiet about the whole incident. He did not tell the other elders and allowed the affair seeking elder to continue in his position. My Pastor blamed me for allowing a person of the opposite sex to mentor me and swept it under the rug. I left feeling ashamed because of my emotional involvement and because I had allowed the elder to mentor me. I was devastated because I had been in my church for 20 years. Tammy, from Hope of Survivors, helped me understand it was not my fault and the elder is in a position of authority. She even called me by phone twice to be sure I was ok. I received no support from my pastor and he even gave my husband the name of a church he thought we would like. It will be a long time before I trust another pastor. We have left our church. I am thankful to Hope of Survivors for the amazing service they provided. Tammy went above and beyond in a way I never expected from someone who didn't even know me. Thank you so much for this support!
The Hope of Survivors is exactly THAT.... hope in the midst of hopelessness. There is a need for education to the public and churches regarding the CRIME that has been committed against an innocent victim . Understanding the vulnerability of a person who was seeking support only to meet abuse is such a delicate issue and we know often goes unreported. Knowing that THOS is not only a website with significant information but is backed by real people who show up at your home to provide the education and emotional support needed at a time of devastation is valuable to transform to survivor. I don't know how I could have survived without this information and people to communicate with, classes to attend and HOPE beyond abuse.
Changed my life. I don't where I would be today without this organization. I wish there were more out there like this.
The abuses they deal with are very real & damaging on many levels. Samantha has helped several of my International friends who were dealing with very painful Clergy abuse.
I am so greatful to have this Godly group of helpers to recommend to my friends/acquaintances, to come along side during the most painful time of their lives.
The Hope of Survivors has helped countless people. They provide vital resources through their well-designed website, and give personal care to people who call and write in. The organization is well-run, efficient, transparent, and in perfect line with its mission statement. Staffed largely by volunteers, it exists because of the passion and vision of those involved.
The Hope of Survivors is the only safe place we could turn to, when my wife was exploited by the pastor for his selfish gratification. We were both betrayed by our trusted pastor. Our church was of little help - partly because they too were shocked and confused by the horrific actions of the pastor they have been calling "God's Chosen Man" for years. Our church was ill equipped to deal with this tragedy, or provide any real help to us.
That's why I am so grateful for the Hope of Survivors for providing hope and healing during our darkest times. May God continue to bless you and give you strength to press on.
This organization is amazing. I am a clergy sexual abuse survivor and was in the midst of a bad flashback when I reached out - knowing I needed additional help. Their response was swift, and personal. It helped immensely in the short-term. They paired me up with a local support person, who is sweet and understanding. It was nice to have another non-judgmental ear.
I had been told prior to contacting THOS that I probably wouldn't resonate with their theology. This turned out to be true. But, I found some of the spiritual advice and resources to be helpful in using my relationship with God to heal from wounds caused by human beings claiming to represent God, and by human beings who couldn't be loving about my clergy abuse trauma because of their own limitations.
Hope of Survivors helped me move forward in healing after my experience with pastoral abuse! I read so many survivor stories and new that I wasn't alone! This organization is vital to the Body of Christ! It addresses a need that is prevelant but rarely acknowledged. I thank God for this organization and continue to share its ministry with others who have faced similar hurts and pains. May God continue to bless them and supply all of their needs according to His riches and glory!!
The Hope of Survivors is not just an organisation. They are real people making a real difference in real peoples lives. They have helped me immensely through difficult times of abuse AND by pointing me to Jesus and showing me what a true relationship with him looks like. To God be the glory for the great things they are doing in so many lives!
I have had such a wonderful experience with The Hope of Survivors. They have always been patient, encouraging, and helped get me through my abuse. It helped to provide healing and know that I still have a future. They were always here for me when I needed them and they will always be dear to my heart :)
I don't know what I would have done without help from The Hope Of Survivors when I left my church because of clergy sexual abuse. They were very understanding because they knew what I was experiencing. Thank you so much for what you do. God Bless.
This organization was there when no one else could/would help. Without their care and support, my life and marriage would not be where it is today. They were a huge step in the healing process and continue to be in our lives years later. You could not ask for better people as CEO and Co-CEO.
I have had immediate response to any emails that I have sent, and was able to connect with a volunteer in my city even. The information provided and the counselling and support have been invaluable to me.
I am a survivor. Have reached out a few times and have always gotten a response even though they couldn't really help. They have been supportive and check on me from time to time.
Hope of Survivors was a much needed resource to help me through the darkest days I had ever experienced at the hands of my pastors and the church leadership team. There are many resources for predator pastors but very little for the victims they have spiritually, emotionally and sexually perpetrated on. It was good to find the support that I needed when I really needed it. THOS has given me the courage to stand up, educate and fight for truth on this subject right where I am. Thank you so much!!
The Hope of Survivors saved my life and my marriage. I was desperate and when I reached out for help, The Hope of Survivors immediately answered my message and they have been there for me ever since. When there was no one to tell, no one who could possibly understand how trapped and hopeless I felt, The Hope of Survivors listened to me and helped me to understand the dynamics of clergy sexual abuse, and helped me find the courage to put my life back together. I will forever be grateful to them.
Few understand the depth of SPIRITUAL SEXUAL ABUSE.... to invade a person's soul as well as their physical body. It is a violation so intense that it is difficult to "rebound" / "recover"/ "restore" any sense of sanity. Nothing makes sense after violating these realms. ANOTHER SAID IT WELL= "THOS is a voice for those silenced by shame. THOS is a refuge of healing for the wounded soul. THOS offers hope to victims and their families who have been pursued, used, and abused by men whose responsibility is to protect."
The very person who is to protect has now pursued those who are already abandoned and abused and have no voice. HOPE.... is lost.... and HOPE restored comes from people at THOS!
I was a secondary victim to the sexual abuse and manipulation that my wife was suffering from our minister.
The information that I gained access to, through The Hope Of Survivors website, has enabled me to become a survivor !
The help and support that we have received from THOS has been immeasurable, a real life line to us.
After a number of years learning about this kind of misconduct through THOS I have become fully aware of the devastation that it brings, not only to the victims but also to the wider body of the church.
I now have a real insight through my own experiences and can now show much needed empathy towards other victims particularly husbands and other secondary victims.
Through my experiences I am now able to try to help others to understand what has happened and to be able to support them and give them hope, and also to show that it is possible for a family to survive these ordeals.
My wife and I are now the UK representatives for THOS. We hope to be able to give the support, love and care that we ourselves where blessed to receive to others ,who will unfortunately go through these experiences.
I was referred to HOS by a friend. I spoke with one of the counselors who gave the website information. I was impressed that organization was international. I also communicated with a counselor who personally told me about the resources the organization offers for survivors. The volunteer was not judgmental and could relate to my story. I felt understood and relief about something so secret and painful in my life. I was afraid I would be dealing with fake christian people. Having been through severe spiritual abuse I told her I have a hatred for Christians and the church itself. She understood. I explained my story of sexual abuse and the same pastor had a sexual affair with my mother and other women of the church. The counselor helped me to understand the mindset of a predator, narcissist who preyed on me as a teenager and made sexual moves at me when I became a legal adult. So much of my guilt was false and nothing was my fault. My parents did not help me. So I had to help myself. I am grateful this organization helped save my life.
Hope of survivor's website helped me when there was no one to turn to for help. I was confused and lost in my situation. I received clarity and wisdom after reading the material on the website. Being able to understand what had happened to my family and I helped us to begging the healing process almost five years ago.
THOS saved my marriage and my life. The personal care and truth received by this organization helped my husband and I to finally walk through everything that happened during the abuse. We finally understand one another better within our own pain and walls. I do not feel anyone would be better equipped to do what Samantha and Steve Nelson do within this ministry.
I was referred to the The Hope of Survivors by a friend right after I came out of the hospital. I had just tried to kill myself due to being kicked out of the church because my pastor was wanting to have sex with me. I took the fall for it all. The pain and shame was unbareable. I began reading the website and learning that my story was almost the same as other women's story. I learned why I felt the need to end my life, why I felt I should protect the pastor at all cost to myself, I learned how I was groomed for this relationship, and that I needed forgiveness of my sin. I no longer today carry that load of guilt and the words of the survivors and their support brought me through the hardest time of my life. I can truly testify to the fact this group saved my life! I am forever grateful!
Thank-you so much for your help and support to our family thus far, we really appreciate your very quick response to our email thanks so much. May God bless this ministry in a might way.
Steve and Samantha reach out to help victims of clergy sexual abuse through their organization The Hope of Survivors. They are a loving, caring couple who were victims of clergy abuse and have dedicated their ministry to assisting other victims in recovery from clergy abuse. They are professional in their presentations and can be very helpful to congregations to be proactive against clergy abuse as well as helping victims.
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The Iowa-Missouri Conference is pleased to have The Hope of Survivors ministry located within our conference territory. Steve and Samantha are an exceptional ministerial couple that have been a blessing to the members and pastoral families within our conference. Their ministry is timely and life changing especially for those who have been victims of pastoral abuse. The quality of training and education they deliver is such that they are in demand as speakers nationally and internationally. Join me in praying for God's continued blessing upon their unique ministry.
From victim to volunteer! People from all over the world are having to turn to this vital organisation for help, because there is so little support for them locally. The Hope of Survivors is the only understanding and hope offered for some victims. We will never know how many people are not victims because of the work they do in educating Churches. I look forward to being a small part of making THOS known about and helping victims all over the world.
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After my relationship with my pastor had gone from professional to personal I came across THOS website. The things I read on there were so helpful I can not begin to describe it. The things I read were so accurate and after reading them I was able to really absorb what was happening to me. I was able to show the site to close friends, then my husband and my church leaders. I am in no doubt that without the help of THOS I would never have exposed what was happening to me, my husband would have struggled to gain any understanding and my friends would not have had enough knowledge to support me and my family. A predator has been removed from ministry largely because of the work of THOS. The work they do is absolutely critical and there are so few organisations out there in the world that can really help like they have myself and so many others. I am in the UK and still they were able to reach out to me from the USA.
This organization is utterly unique in its purpose and so responsive to the people it serves. They do everything possible both to help survivors and to create systematic change. If you email them, even with a rambling email about what you've been through, a real person responds within 12 hours. They make you feel like a person. Even when I donate, I get a personalized email from the founder asking about my family and how I'm doing. They are ambitious in their dreams, creating a new recovery center that I wish had been there when I was suffering. Every year they help anonymous thousands. I cannot recommend them enough.
When I emailed the co-founder of The Hope of Survivors, she called me and prayed with me and listened to my story. I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse at the hands of a pastor. I found the HOPE of SURVIVORS website when I was doing research for my screenplay about a survivor of clergy abuse and I am so grateful for the helpful articles, videos and booklets The Hope of Survivors provide on their website. I look forward to attending their retreat in Iowa and working with them to help survivors of clergy abuse around the world.
Early in my journey as a survivor I went to the Hope and Healing workshop in Indianapolis and Omaha. Those were life-changing experiences. It was a blessing just to be in a room with other survivors of clergy sexual misconduct. Now, with significant healing, I still stay in touch with THOS. I appreciate the helpful articles on the THOS website and facebook page. I'm very excited that they now offer retreats at a beautiful, safe location -- I know that will make a life-changing difference to many survivors.
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Because I filed a complaint against a pastor who crossed sexual boundaries, I experienced not only the trauma of abuse, but the trauma of isolation and loss of community when my church community shut me out. Like most survivors, I felt completely alone and utterly helpless. When I went to the Hope of Survivors' 2011 "Hope & Healing" conference, I found myself in a room full of people who understood my experience. I heard over and over, from every speaker, "This was NOT YOUR FAULT." I can't begin to describe how helpful this was! Over the next year, as that truth sank in, genuine healing happened -- and when I went to the 2012 conference, I could feel how much stronger I was.
I hope I never have to recommend The Hope of Survivors to a friend -- I hope no friend of mine ever goes through what I went through. But I would recommend it to any victim or survivor of clergy sexual abuse.
This is very hard to write a review but I would be deeply negligent not to write a review! I will just say I was frantic for help and information when I sent them an email. They responded immediately with acurate helpful compassionate information which made a huge difference in my life. I will be eternally grateful for this ministry.
I am a survivor of pastoral sexual abuse and a supporter of The Hope of Survivors. No such program existed when I was a young married woman who needed counseling for marital difficulties. I told my fatherly Godly pastor that I wanted to talk to a psychologist but he insisted that I talk only with him. I had no understanding of the grooming and manipulation and sexual abuse that I experienced from my God-representative pastor. I blamed myself and lived with a lifetime of emotional and relationship scars. When I was a middle-aged woman, I happened upon The Hope of Survivors and immediately made contact. As I read the materials, the years of pain poured out in nearly uncontrollable sobs. Meeting Samantha and experiencing her loving personal approach and understanding was a very healing experience. If just one woman can be helped and protected from a predator pastor, my financial support will be worth everything I give but there are so many who need help and so many leaders who need to be educated.
I was greatly embarrased by a pastor through him asking me intimate questions of a sexual nature, when i was on my own with him in a bible lesson when i was 16. Years later i e-mailed with The Hope Of Survivors, just to deal with this issue. Each of my e-mails were always answered immediately. I never had to wait. They were very, very helpfull to me. mustakallio

help 03/20/2014
Thank you very much for sharing!
I'm a survivor in a very concrete sense of the word: after being sexually assaulted, I attempted suicide. I continued in a severe, often suicidal depression that lasted over a year. My family and friends ostracized me quite a bit through this period, and so often I had literally no one I could talk to -- except for one person at the Hope of Survivors, who would sit on the phone with me sometimes for hours. He talked me through some of my darkest moments -- talked and listened, of course. The Hope of Survivors was one of a very few factors that prevented me, I think, from killing myself. This organization helped save my life.
The Hope of Survivors is particularly special because I believe it's the only one of its kind: advocacy and support for adults who have been abused by a religious leader. Being assaulted within the context of one's own religious community is an experience that requires a specific type of support. They are specialists in dealing with cases that combine religion and sexual abuse of adults. This is a unique set of expertise.
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The Hope of Survivors reached out with an incredible amount of time, patience, and understanding when a clergy member in a mainline Protestant denomination violated pastor-parishioner boundaries with me. THOS stayed in close contact with me during an eight-month, painful disciplinary process that traumatized me more than the original alleged sexual misconduct. THOS's counselors were available, seemingly 24 hours a day -- I'd call, distraught, sometimes on weekends or at night, and always received a prompt response. They donated many hours of their time on the phone with me. They reviewed my case, wrote an endorsement letter for the church authorities, and defended me publicly against people who belittled me and other survivors of clergy sexual exploitation when the case went to the newspaper. What is special about THOS is that its leadership really understands something of the subjective, psychological experience of an adult parishioner whose boundaries are violated by a pastor. That understanding allows them to do a very specific and unique kind of counselling. As such, it is a one-of-a-kind non-profit. Surviving my case was a very tough ordeal, but THOS made it easier because its staff were very genuinely dedicated to helping me through it.
It was August 2013 while I was counseling a young lady who was being groomed by her pastor that I realized the same words that were being said to this young lady were the same words that were once said to me by a young pastor in the late 90’s. It was then, that I realized the burden that I had been carrying all these years because one pastor decided to beguile me into believing God chose me for this pastor. After falling with this pastor, he turned tables on me and telling me that I was a sinner and not fit to marry him. Thankfully, I had forgiven him since because I thought I was in the wrong, but it was August 2013 and after speaking with Samantha that I understood what really happened to me and why I felt unworthy of God’s forgiveness. Since, I chose to forgive the so-called “pastor” for being a predator pastor and I asked God to forgive me for being so hard on myself. It was The Hope Of Survivors that helped me on several issues and I am thankful. So, thankful that I am now a volunteer for The Hope Of Survivors.
The Hope of Survivors is what many consider a Dove ministry. Most recovery ministries will usually fall into three categories. First there is the Lion recovery group where the ministers trying to help actually end up roaring accusation at all who are involved. They swing wide the church doors to show the sin of the clergy or the weakness of the wounded to all who will listen. With their lion-like jaws and claws of so-called justice, they rip everyone and everything to shreds.
Second is the Ostrich ministry group, which works in the absence of the light of truth or even finding out the truth. They have only one objective; they try to keep everything quiet. The let’s don’t rock the boat crew. This group is the one that will do all to protect the offender but very little for the offended, not realizing that burying their heads in the sand will not cover up sin.
The third group is the Hope of Survivors. The Hope of Survivors is a Spirit led Dove Ministry, one willing to pour in the oil and the wine. They get the facts and make sure the facts are real. Then they confront all parties without ripping and tearing like a lion or trying to appease those in authority. For the sake of the survivor, they refuse to bury their heads in the sand like an ostrich and pretend it did not happen.
A survivor is someone who has endured with power. The Hope of Survivors is a Dove ministry that gives the mistreated and wounded that power from on high.
Pastor Hal Steenson
West Frankfort, IL.
I am a former board member, a pastor closely associated with the Nelsons, and a supporter of "Hope of Survivors." I have watched this ministry from its infancy and am so pleased to see it grow to an international resource for clergy and parishioners alike. Steve and Samantha have worked so hard, without any personal benefit other than restoring broken lives. Born out of their own pain and struggles this has become a truly healing ministry.
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As a pastor for over 37 years I have seen more times than I want to recall the tragedy of clergy abuse. I have also known Steve and Samantha for several years and am well aware of the countless lives they have touched with this ministry. As they serve from experience they also serve with tremendous skill, sensitivity, and professionalism. Too many churches and organizations are reluctant to address this problem and as a result many lives have been severely damaged. Hope of /Survivors can not only help victims, but can also effectively help pastors and church administrators avoid the problem before it starts. THOS is a powerful tool across denominational lines.
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This is one of the best nonprofit organizations in the world. The cause they are combatting is so prevelent but is so hidden and disguised that it makes their job that much more difficult. There should be an award given for the kindness and acceptance that is shown to each victim by each and every volunteer. I was given the pleasure of meeting them and counseling with them in 2010 and my life will forever be changed and blessed by the healing that came from their counsel.
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I was personally helped by The Hope of Survivors after being a victim of abuse in my teens. After their loving guidance and counsel, I have now served as executive assistant for over a year.
The work that this organization is extremely critical and important. The victims that they counsel on a daily basis have been through hardships and trials that no one else understands. THOS offers free counseling for anyone who needs it. No one is ever turned away. Their expertise in the field is backed by years of experience, with many volunteers being victims themselves.
It has been an extreme privelege to work with The Hope of Survivors on a personal and volunteer level.
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I had previous knowledge of Hope of Survivors through a Pastor's Convention we had gone through. Few months later I was having a lot of family troubles with my abusive Dad, a previously fired minister. I decided to contact Hope of Survivors. I emailed and explained that my case involved no sexual abuse, however I was being emotionally abused and stalked along with my husband by my Dad.
Shortly after a volunteer attorney contacted me and helped represent me in court with restraining orders against my Dad. That was early last year. Our attorney was so attentive, he sounded more like a counselor, psychologist to me, and helped me deal and process with those issues almost better than any counselor had done for me before, in the sense of helping me put boundaries once and for all. Ever since, my Dad has left us alone, finally! Even my husband's boss is not getting harassed by Dad anymore! Yes I had to grieve the loss of relationship which was extremely hard, but I finally have peace and am not suffering from constant depression anymore. I am actually a much happier person around my husband and children.
I want to thank Hope of Survivors for coming immediately to my aid.
I have since recommended other cases, that I have come in contact with, to them, and in a short period of time, I will get a confirmation email that they have contacted the referrals and that they are currently hands-on the situation. That is always a great relief!
They are supporting and helping so many people heal from abuse and torment. They need all our help and support so that they can continue with this magnificent ministry!
Thank you Hope of Survivors!!!!!
Hope of Survivors delivered me out of pastoral sexual abuse last year. They provided my family, friends, and myself with invaluable counseling and helpful materials. I was being abused for over 10 years by my pastor of a small independent church that had all power and no accountability over our little flock. Hope of Survivors helped me to see the truth, expose the truth of what was going on, and set me free from this horrible abuse. My husband and I went to a wonderful seminar last August that was so informative - giving us even legal counsel for the harassment we were receiving also.
I will always be so thankful for the courage, wisdom, and support that they have given to my life even to this day. This ministry has truly been life-changing for me and my family. All abuse is terrible but when a trusted pastor abuses a little sheep he is supposed to protect - it is so wicked. I do not know where I would be without Hope of Survivors. I have been set free due to their ministry!
The Hope of Survivors has helped my tremendously through their articles, testimonials and most of all through Samantha's prompt attention to my initial letter and her counseling. I am so glad I found THOS as I am a survivor of abuse at the hands of clergy. THOS has been life changing!
Samantha is very prompt when responding to contact. They are genuine, warm, hospitable, and ever dedicated to this ministry. I appreciate how very knowledgeable they are in the subject of clergy sexual abuse and committed to providing quality reference material both in print and online, through social media, and in conferences they present. They increased my awareness; I now know that this does not only happen in my church, but in every church, not to mention the secular realm. It is a human problem; and they are advocating to rectify the situation. My experience with them has been only positive.
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The Hope of Survivors educated me and others I knew about clergy sexual abuse. As a young woman, this has made me much more careful in my interactions with men in authority over me. I am not paranoid, but more aware of the dynamics which can come into play. They taught me that this kind of abuse of power and social standing does not only happen in my church, as I might first have thought, but in every church, not to mention other social settings, such as in businesses and schools. This knowledge helped preserve my faith in my church and our beliefs.
Steve and Samantha, the founders, are personal, caring, and wise in their care of victims and others affected. It always amazes me how quickly Samantha responds to email requests, and I have heard others report the same. I first came into contact with them after sexual abuse incidents left a spiritual leader disfellowshipped from our church, displaced in his career, and in legal trouble. They supported everyone involved, encouraging our church to respond Biblically to the crisis, and seeing us through the entire trying process to the end. Thank you to all the volunteers at The Hope of Survivors! We remain grateful for your invaluable support.
As a member of the clergy when I first heard about this ministry was skeptical. It felt like they were out to damage the reputation of clergy. After many conversations with Steve Nelson i finally decided to give the ministry a chance. When they were working on translating information about the ministry in spanish I volunteer to help. Through this experience I learned about their story, what let tgem to engage in this ministry and the journey of healing that GOD had let them through before thy were in a place where they can help any other victim of clergy abuse. It was as I learned their stoy and joirney and eard from people that the ministry had helped that I became convinced that GOD is leading their ministry and enabling it to be a source of hope, peace, and companion on a joirney back to GOD to victims of clergy abuse.
Pr. José L. Medina Jr.
THOS has helped me and my husband beyond our expectations. Samantha's and Martin's compassion and dedication surpassed our immediate months of crisis. Throughout our time of crisis which was over two years ago, they were available and responsive to us, and they have remained with us as loving and ready sources of support and friends since. They are truly sincere in their efforts to provide healing and education to both survivors and perpetrators and incredibly skilled in their spiritual and counseling roles. We were fortunate in meeting Steve (co-founder) this past summer and were impressed with his noble character as well. Everyone who we have met and/or dealt with at THOS have shown utmost integrity, sincerity, professionalism, respect, consistency, and complete commitment to our well-being. I am certain that they extend these same virtues to anyone who has the fortune of coming into contact with them. There are some people of rare beauty and courage behind the name THOS, including, I am certain, their volunteers and other associates who we have not yet met. THOS deserves recognition and support for their continued efforts in confronting clergy sexual misconduct, a devastating and heinous act.
Well what can I say. Hope of Survivors has helped me and my family so much. We would be a broken family if it wasn't for Hope of Survivors. Even though I am a man was so affected by what had happened to my family. They educated me to what was real and where to put my hope. I am so greatfull for them. Hope of Survivors was the only ministry that is activly working hard to support and help those affected. from the victims to the churches to find hope and healing thank God for them kepp up the great work.
THOS were there to give me moral and spiritual support when no one else understood my circumstances.
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I felt isolated and trapped in my situation of abuse. I googled and found "The Hope of Survivors" - and became a survivor of Pastoral abuse... I have found the encouragement and support I have received from the Nelsons has allowed me to grow to be a happier, healthier and stronger person, and only this week I have commenced proceedings to make an official complaint about my abuser. I cannot imagine where I would be without their support and counsel over the past 18 months or so. I had no support structure here in Australia and I am very grateful to have "someone" who understands and accepts me unconditionally.

help 07/20/2012
Thank you, Judy, for your comment. We are so grateful God used THOS to be a blessing to you! :-) Samantha
Having been sexually abused by my youth pastor at age 16 and waiting over thirty years to finally confront him for his actions against me, it was The Hope of Surviors who was able to help me to continue in my journey of healing. Having been sexually abused by someone you have such trust and in a place where one should feel the safest, the church leaves a hurt and confusion so profound finding one's way back seems impossible. It was through the Hope of Surviors I found understanding and support to guide me and allow healing to begin. The Hope of Surviors is exactly as they describe themselves...."A ministry of compassion, support, hope and encouragement."
I appreciate "Hope for Survivors" for covering a special territory that has to do with human dignity. Setting no geographical, social, cultural or denominational limits, makes this ministry even more powerful. The healing process in the life of those who experienced abuses from the spiritual leaders, is not an easy one and ministries like "Hope of Survivors"are needed to bring hope in the life of the victims. Please, continue to ministry for those in need.
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It was good to have available professional help with the situations people face when they become victims of the clergy sexual or emotional abuse.
I know few people that were glad to find Hope of Survivors organization and to receive the appropriate help for their specifically needs. Unfortunately there are not many organization offering a trusting and holistic type of help like Hope of Survivors does. I hope that others will copy their example.
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I work in mental health. I was not a victim of clergy abuse, but my dad abused me sexually. I am Samantha's mother and I am so very proud of the work she and Steve are doing. Please don't discount my review just because I'm related to Samantha and Steve. I truly believe they are doing great work!
Hope of Survivors was a life line to me at a time when I needed help the most. Samantha was a listening ear on so many occasions. They walked me through challenges, understood my situation, and encouraged me that things would get better. When I experienced Clergy Sexual Abuse I thought my world would end and I would not be able to function again. I knew that the one place that would always listen was only an email away. Samantha and Steve have watched me heal and grow. They wept with me and they now rejoice with me as they see God restore every bit that was stolen. Hope of the Survivors has been a light in the darkness.
The Hope of Survivors helped me to know that I was not alone. Before I found The Hope of Survivors website and Samantha, I felt like there was something wrong with me. I had been counseled following my abuse by a Christian counselor who presented what happened to me as me being a "weak sheep" and needing to become a strong person. This made me feel like the pastor preying on me was due to a flaw in me and that it was my fault somehow that he chose me to prey upon. The Hope of Survivors helped me to understand that what the pastor did was abuse and that it wasn't because I was weak and flawed, but that it was because HE was. I found a healing through Samantha's counsel. I would recommend the Hope of Survivors to anyone affected by this type of abuse. I found out that I was not alone in what I went through and that the pattern that my abuse followed was indeed a pattern that many pastors use to prey upon adult women in their congregations. I am thankful to this organization for the help that they provided to me and the work that they continue to do in so many people's lives.
When my pastor abused me, I blamed myself. I had no idea I was even being abused. When I mentioned what was happening to a friend, they searched the web and found The Hope of Survivors. These wonderful people gave me a way to frame what happened to me - in short, they provided education, gave me hope, and set me on the path to healing. They were with me every step of the way, like a trusted best friend. I wouldn't have been able to move on like I have without their help. The Hope of Survivors was and still is a godsend.
I had been victimized and had no where to turn; my UCC church family, for the most part, ignored my pleas for support, validation, and the truth. I lost so much: work, health, family, friends, and was re-victimized by anonymous church members who wrote letters to my home and to my work place accusing me of being something that I was not. I thought I was alone and had suffered through something unique. In my research, I was led to The Hope Of Survivors; it was there that I was given the healing words of validation and healing. Faceless strangers who assisted me from being a victim to a vocal victim advocate and survivor. With faith and support from THOS, I am able to actively tell my story in the hope of preventing the cycle of clergy abuse and professional misconduct. (www.thehopeofsurvivors.com)
The Nelsons show great compassion for everyone they meet though this ministry. They truly care for each individual. Keep up the good work.
I have been so impressed in this past year at the professionalism displayed by Samantha and Steve Nelson as they have led The Hope of Survivors. I have noted Samantha's care and her going the second mile to help a victim and to reach out for solutions and to help for those who need it, as well as seeing that perpetrators are dealt with in such a way that they will not be able to continue harming others. I just wish the word would get out more widely that this help is available.
I was at my wits end and boarding suicide until I decided to google what was happening to me only to realize there was a name for it. If it was not for the love, grace and mercy of God and the volunteers of this great organization I would be dead.
My wife and I founded a clergy sexual abuse website "PastorsWhoPrey.org" in 2001. After 5 years of running it and reaching out to many clergy sexual abuse survivors we decided to discontinue it. We have referred many survivors to the "Hope of Survivors" over the years. They do a great job educating and reaching out to those who are deeply hurting from the horrific clergy sexual abuse they have experienced. They also play an extremely important role in educating the general public on what clergy sexual abuse really is and encouraging the media to cover this very important subject. The more the spotlight shines on it, we will rejoice in seeing fewer survivors in the future.
The Hope of Survivors (THOS) has been extremely influential in my life. Samantha and her husband Steve have been so supportive of me. I first contacted Samantha in December 2005. I was trying to get out of an extremely violent and abusive relationship. I never told Samantha of the ongoing pastoral abuse in the beginning. Because at that time, and for a long while afterward, it was my dark secret and I believed was ALL my fault. The word “abuse” never entered my mind. I did not realize how desperately I needed help for that, as well as the violent relationship I was in at that time.
The pastor I was involved with came highly recommended to me by several family members, even one who had worked with him in the past. A few friends of mine who knew him, his wife and kids, personally, also recommended him to me. I went to him embarrassed to explain all I had been involved with over the years. But, I was desperate for help! By the third session, he had made sexual advancements toward me. Even though I was uncomfortable, I did tell him this was not what I came for. It still quickly ended up in a sexual relationship. He threatened me from day one what would happen to my family if they found out. He said no one would believe me—not a woman like me! He gave me many guilt trips of how I had ruined my mom’s marriages by having sexual relationships with my biological father and my adopted dad. I believed I was a tramp and I was getting what I deserved.
After getting to know Samantha, and her helping me work through my abusive relationship that was getting more violent by the day, she also began helping me deal with sexual abuse from my family growing up. I don't remember how we got on the subject of pastoral abuse. I think it was from her sharing her story with me early on that opened door for me to tell her about what was going on in my life. All of it! I remember her sending me a couple workbooks to work through. She sent me some CD's and ALWAYS remembered my birthday over the years, and has sent me several encouraging cards over the years. Which meant the world to me! I still have every card to this day. Samantha (THOS) DID this knowing I had no money to give them.
They’re so amazing! Not just Steve and Samantha, but their whole team! They all have prayed for me when I needed it. A year can go by where I don't stay in contact but I know if I need anything THOS is always there for me. They truly have become my family. I wish I had millions of dollars to give to THOS but I do not. All I can say is, if you choose THOS, you won't be sorry. Your money will be given to a cause worth giving to because THOS ALWAYS gives back to those in need. And let me tell you, there are many, many more woman and kids out there waiting to know that someone else has been through it and someone cares. But, more than that, that a cause like The Hope of Survivors will step up, step out, and take action! I know—they've done this for me many times!
I found The Hope of Survivors website after searching the net, I thought I was in the wrong but THOS showed me that I was a victim and that I wasn't alone and that with help and support I could be healed of the suffering. THOS is there to support, encourage and help people to heal and provides such a wonder service. You just have to read the victims stories on their website to be encouraged and see that you are not alone. THOS is showing the world was is happening and showing the way to help deal with the issue, it's not afraid to stand up and be counted and offer help and support to people who have been abused, people who are shunned by churches and families who don't understand or don't want to deal with such issues. It provides a service that is very much needed and very much wanted by the people who use the service and have been healed and are being healed. It’s a blessing to have such a service and to have such commitment from its founders and all its staff volunteers.
My wife was sexually exploited by our pastor while seeking counseling for depression and anxiety. Over the years he had positioned himself as a close friend and kept me as an insider. However, our relationship was usually strained and confusing as he would take advantage of me and several close friends in a variety of situations.
After a failed attempt at suicide, I finally I began to dig. While our pastor had been counseling me to not ask questions concerning her worsening depression, claiming that much of it was due to my "neediness," I finally found evidence of him speaking to her in an inappropriate tone online. In way that could be taken as the playful joking of close friends, but my spirit knew better. I asked her the right question, and our world fell apart.
There is not room here to properly tell the story of how this unfolded. The aggression. The manipulation. The denial. The loss of friends. How our church nearly died. How it is still limping a year later. How the friendships that did survive were horribly wounded, changed forever.
Not to mention, we were the lucky ones. Most predators in the powerful position of spiritual authority are not held accountable. The sensitive issue or sexual abuse makes it more than difficult for anyone to know what to do. The work of The Hope of Survivors, Baylor University, and the Interfaith Sexual Trauma Institute at St. John's Abbey and University can help educate churches and congregant and prepare them for these situations. Without them, I do not know what we would have done. We were lucky that our elders had the integrity to stand up for us whatever it cost.
Many churches feel powerless and are afraid of what it would cost to stand up to abusers who stand behind the pulpit each week. The Hope of Survivors is one of the (very, very) few resources available to them. They offered us help and asked nothing in return.

help 03/02/2011
Just to clarify, The Hope of Survivors works with victims and church leaders of all denominations. The fact that the founders are Seventh-day Adventists, as are many of the board members, should be a non-issue, as The Hope of Survivors is not about a denomination or set of beliefs. Many of The Hope of Survivors' volunteers are not Seventh-day Adventists, but are from many other denominations, and our board of directors is looking for qualified Christian individuals of other faiths to participate. We are Christians providing a service to those of any religious faith who are in need. THOS is about providing Biblical counsel, support and materials to victims and church leaders. We reference many other denominational websites on our Resources page--from Methodist to Orthodox and many other religions/denominations in between. We have worked with Buddhists and Muslims as well. While we may include quotes from Adventist authors on our website (we include quotes from other denominational leaders too) and in our materials, these quotes are Biblical and only lend credibility to the seriousness of the issue of clergy sexual abuse and provide encouraging and comforting words to victims.
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There is a great lack of resources in the area of clergy sexual abuse and misconduct. I was fortunate to find THOS by seaching the internet, and was personally helped by the caring concern and biblical counsel available. There is truly no other organization to my knowledge that provides this personal counseling approach to such a specific and poorly understood area of abuse, and it certainly was a breakthrough moment in my healing from being abused by my pastor. The written materials and information on the web site were also very useful.
One of the reasons this organization is so important and effective, is the personal experience of the founders and many of the volunteers. When someone can not only understand objectively what you've been through, but also related and understand through the lens of personal experience, it really makes a difference and provides much needed support and the foundation for trust and honest disclosure for the victim.
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I first contacted The Hope of Survivors when I was supporting a friend who had been abused at our local church. This organisation provided me with support and education to cope with what was happening at our local church. The help was invaluable and help that could not be found elsewhere as their resources are so specific to this problem. After time I joined the organisation as a volunteer to share the hope and support that I had been given with others.
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I came across this website while I was searching for information about clergy sexual misconduct. The information found on their website and contact by email was crucial in helping me understand the signs of what I was starting to suspect that my now former pastor was trying to do. Because of the information I received, I was able to tell my husband of the pastor's behavior around me and our daughter also confided in us that he had acted inappropriately with her as well. We were able to leave the situation before anything more damaging was done.
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When I first stumbled across The Hope of Survivors, I was looking for a translation job English to German. I had no idea about the amount of clergy sexual abuse before. As I read about an estimated number of some ten thousand cases in the US alone, I imagined a huge map of the United States and ten thousands of needles covering it. In my mind, I could not see even a little town in which no needle was stucking. It was this picture of broken souls and lifes which reinforced my decision to do my job voluntarily.
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I never thought that I would be an victim of abuse. I heard one person from the organisation at GC 2010 in Atlanta, GA. Its sad that things like this happen but, it does, even in our church. I didn't realise I had a problem till I began learning to drive. It couldn't understand why I had no confidence in myself. Someone said to me to forget whatever day you've had and enjoy the drive. I love driving now! I wish I got that kind of encouragement and involvement from others years ago. One person told me "It shouldn't take more than a 20 one-hour lessons." They were no help. Its affected everything from work to church, how I relate to my friends & family.
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When I first heard about the Hope of Survivors I couldn't believe my eyes! Finaly somebody cared about these situations!
As a victim of abuse for a very long time in my life I told myselve: God is sooooo good and finaly somebody dared to do something for the victims of abuse. But what is more specific for this precious organisation is the fact that it deals with a very dangerous and subtle kind of abuse, the clergy abuse. This should never had happen under the sun!
I had the honour to edit the book written by Samatha Nelson for the edition in the Romanian language. Romania is a country which bears the consequencies of the communiste regime which meant abuse in all corners of life, including the church. Even today, after 20 years of communisme, nobody dares to speak up about his/her suferings. It was a victory that this book could be translated and be distributed in Romania. Many people, victims of abuse or friends of these victims welcame with all their heart this precious book.
I am praying day and night for the difficult work that Samantha Nelson, her husband and their team are doing for poor people who are so confused when in trouble with abuse. May the Lord have pitty of everybody !
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When no one else we reached out to could fathom the devastating effects of the clergy sexual abuse we had experienced, THOS helped my wife and I through the most emotionally shattering time in our lives. THOS understood the trauma my wife was suffering and pulled her through that experience with their dedicated and skillful counselors and professional resources that are based in true human love and care. They helped me to understand the depths of that betrayal and to come to terms with my own role, confusion and mix of overwhelming emotions. I honestly don't know where we would be today if THOS had not been there for us with their deep care, ready support and experienced understanding.
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THOS, Samantha Nelson and one of their volunteers/pastors have provided essential support to me and my husband in our recovery from clergy sexual abuse. I first contacted THOS in April of 2010, while seeking support for the devastation that my husband and I were facing.
The aftermath of our experience probably marked the darkest periods of our lives, having been betrayed by a spiritual leader toward whom we we had both given our total trust and devotion. Samantha immediately responded to my desperation and grief with the sensitivity, care and respect of a loving mother to her child. She was also able to provide guidance coming from direct experience, having been a survivor of clergy abuse herself, as well as wisdom born from her deep faith and commitment to her own spiritual growth.
One of their volunteer pastors who was assigned to me as a counselor was just as amazing, kind and skillful in his guidance. An experienced and learned, deeply spiritual, wise and compassionate man, he was able to provide clear insight and guidance to my husband and I. It is obvious that THOS only seeks volunteers and personnel of great integrity, faith and compassion.
Since that day in April of 2010, Samantha has remained a steady support to my husband and I, from our most painful days to the present in our continuing recovery and healing. I have become much stronger, but it wouldn't have been possible without THOS's dedicated help.
I feel as though we have made friends for life in THOS and their loving stewards.
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I come from a well thought of family. Neither family or church members believe that clergy sexual abuse could happen to me. Actually I grew up being abused by religious leaders. And again as an adult. I learned changing churches did not guarantee safety.
At a convention last summer (2010) I came across The Hope of Survivors booth. Unexpectedly I immediately felt safe. I did get acquainted with Samantha and Steve Nelson, founders, and a few of the volunteers. They listened and believed me. When one learned something said had inadvertently hurt me a genuine apology was quickly sent. The volunteer who is working with me gives freedom of choice, believes me! For me an important thing is knowing I'm daily prayed for.
I appreciate their balanced approach. That they realize that more than the two involved are affected. But also their families, friends, and church members. Besides getting great benefit myself I have told others about this organization.
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After my wife was the victim of clergy sexual abuse by the Associate Pastor at our United Methodist Church, Hope of Survivors was the best organization I found to help both of us understand what happened and to heal and recover. Hope of Survivors provided excellent resources as well as support via phone and email. They also provide resources which we will now use to push for changes in our church's policies and practices to protect our congregation and other pastors from this in the future. (The pastor who did this to us resigned after I confronted him, so he is no longer there.) I will be an on-going supporter and donor to this vitally important organization.
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I have been personally blessed by this ministry in so many ways! I have received personal counsel through this ministry concerning my abuse and I attribute my the beginning of healing wholeheatedly to the work that they do. I am a survivor of pastoral abuse. If I hadn't have come in contact with this ministry I would still feel like a victim with little hope. That is why the name of their ministry is so great because i don't have to be a victim or be hopeless anymore.
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We were introduced to Hope of Survivors two years ago when dealing with the abuse perpetrated on my wife by our "Senior Pastor". I was one of his staff pastors for 17+ years. His abuse of my wife nearly destroyed her, our marriage and our home. When we blew the whistle on this predator there was absoulutely no help from the rest of the staff that I was a part of for the better part of two decades or the fellowship that I had served in (and grown up in) for 23 years. Everyone was lost in a fog of disbelief, their own hurts and betrayels (the whole story is incredibly ugly with 10 women having come forward at this point, with stories that covered the entire span of this mans 30+ year ministry.) And the prevailing wisdom was to try and cover things up as quietly as possible. Even though the monster involved lost his credentials and his position all of the leadership at every level was absolutely useless to any of the victims. Still are at this moment over 2 years later. Hope of Survivors was a lifeline. We attended a conference with them that year and were sorrounded with love and compassion that was instrumental in our healing process. We were sorrounded by others who understood and were not driven by their own fears, insecurities or politics like we experienced with our church and fellowship. Those two days were a catalyst for freedom and healing. The THOS website in and of itself is an incredible resource that we have been able learn and grow from. It has also been a place that we have sent numerous people who need teaching and training regarding an evil that is usually covered up and ignored. THOS has been and still is a tremendous avenue of support like nothinig else that we have experienced or have been able to find as we have walked out the last 2 years. THOS is providing an avenue for healing and exposure for an need that has been ignored and swept under the carpet for way too long. They are meeting a serious need in an area with catastrophic wounds with love and mercy and grace. THOS is an amazing organization!
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Hope for Survivors has helped me tremendously. I experienced Sexual abuse from my pastor at 20 years old while living with him and his family. It was such a tramatic experience and I almost lost my sanity!!! I did everything that I could to reject his advances but nothing worked. Satan used him and he twisted scriptures, lied, and used manipulation to keep his control over me so that I wouldnt tell anyone about my situation. God delivered me when another girl spoke up and after that about 8 other woman came forward with the same story. But I thank God for the Hope of Survivors because I was so ashamed of my situation that I held this secret in for 7 years and it was eating me up inside. Because of them I am now going through my healing process
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I attended a Christian youth conference a few years ago where I met a Minister who was giving away literature about his ministry I took what he gave me and emailed later…At When I first started emailing he sent prayer requests, information on prayer etc… things seemed fine as conversation centered around Bible topics mostly. After awhile he began to introduce questionable comments in the conversation which should have warned me there was something wrong such as calling me darling or dear and adding kisses at the end of a messages, when I tried to addressed it he would just avoid explaining what he meant by it; and since he was so old compared to myself I thought it maybe saying kisses etc just an old person thing. But he soon turn out to be a very nasty mean old person pressuring me with explicit messages to submit to things I’d rather not do and would get mad if I didn’t talk to him. The Hope for Survivors helped me no longer feel powerless and trapped but safe with a strong protector to comfort him for me when I was too scared to. This ministry taught me many things to help me learn better how to not get myself hurt. Listening is the hardest lesson because it’s up to me.
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The Hope of Survivors has been a tremendous support and help to me personally when I experienced the trauma of clergy sexual abuse. The hope and healing they provide is invaluable. I am now a victim support volunteer who works with THOS reaching out to victims of all denominations, in many different countries, who are also going through CSA. It is very important to have an organization such as THOS that is so readily available to women, men and teens who have no other place to turn to. They offer hours of free counselling to hundreds and no one is ever turned away. Since the founders of The Hope of Survivors, as well as many of the volunteers, have personally experienced the devastation of clergy sexual abuse they understand the deep dynamics of this misunderstood and particular abuse. I highly recommend them!
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My daughter was the victim of Pastoral Abuse (indecent assault) from the Youth Leader at our Church - he was 24 years her senior. He adamantly denied being involved with anyone else ... since she spoke out at least 17 other victims have stepped out of the woodwork .... victims over 25 years, including minors. His Church and most of his immediate family whom we trusted and loved like family refuse to accept his Pastoral Abuse and instead have turned their ire onto us who they now choose to see as his and their abusers. Hope of Surviours almost literally saved our sanity and spiritual life ... to know that we were not alone, not making more out of the issue than was really warranted, and that this man has (he is still in denial) serious mental health issues and poses a real danger to our Community was just wonderful. I thank God for the organisers of Hope of Survivors.
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My daughter was a victim of abuse at age 16, by her youth pastor. I too found this info helpful because of my own abuse history of people in power. My daughter has not looked at this site yet but I hope she will when the time is right. It covers loads of misconceptions, lies we believe, and validates our feelings of the wrong down by those who are suppose to protect. I appreciate the info and I looked at it often to encourage myself.
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I was introduced to Hope of Survivors while searching for healing sites for victims of abuse.
I found their information to be extremely helpful as it shines a light on a very delicate and touchy topic, (pastoral abuse and abuse in the church) that in my opinion needs to broadcast on every highway bulletin.
What I found interesting is an opportunity for pastors, ministers, leaders to receive help, counseling and support as well as victims that have experienced abuse from pastoral or ministerial leadership.
When dealing with domestic violence both the abuser and the abusee, they both need help, support and counseling in safe environment where they will not be ostracized, criticized or rejected.
Hope For Survivors is a dynamic ministry that is treating those seeking help, with dignity, honor, love and respect and I applaud them for the work that they are doing!
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I was a victim of clergy sexual abuse about six years ago. For many years I blamed myself for everything that occurred. I ran across The Hope of Survivors through a counselor's recommendation. THOS has been an excellent source of information and comfort to me. Not only did THOS help me understand that the abuse was not my fault, but they have helped me heal from this situation through the love and support that everyone has shown. I have found that the people are extremely supportive and always willing to help me during my struggles. The website provides lots of great information about clergy sexual abuse and I have referred nearly my entire family to the website to help them understand what I have been through because my words would not be adequate enough for them. It is sad that THOS needs to exist, but there is such a need for them. I can only hope that they will continue to provide support and comfort to the hundreds of victims that are sure to come their way in the coming years.
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I have only been acquainted with this NPO for about a year now. I recently saw a dvd on their story. I have been introduced to the horrid fact of life that this is a very needed help!!! In this day and time, events that should not be are happening daily. People need healing and help in their time of great need! This organiztion recognizes that need and reaches out with loving, helping hands to do all they can for those around them. I am so glad they do what they do. Be a part of someones healing. Be a hope to those survivors!
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For a victim of clergy abuse The Hope of Survivors provides such an important resource. When you find yourself in this situation it is a completely "taboo" subject and at times it feels like there is absolutely no one that you can talk to. THOS provides a safe place to share your experience. Reading the experiences of others has brought such healing and strength. When I experienced this abuse I didn't know of any resources like THOS provides. It would have made such a difference to know that there was someone else out there that had experienced this and could talk with me about it. It takes real courage for THOS staff and volunteers to share their experiences, but what amazing blessing it brings.
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The ministry of THOS has been invaluable to me and my family. I became aware of them through the internet. I continue to share with others about the ministry they do and the hearts they are healing.
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I first became aware of THOS through their website and, soon after, they happened to run some workshops and training for Church pastors and leaders near where I live in Australia. As a social worker, investigator and educator who has worked in this field I must say I was impressed with the depth, balance, and practical approach of the training. It was clearly evident that the pastors and leaders from many denominational groups found the training by THOS most helpful indeed. I totally recommend their training programs and the approach taken by THOS.
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I became acquainted with Hope For Survivors at a world convention i was exhibiting across from them Samantha told me all about their work. This is a much needed work. There are so many hurting helpless women that need the help that HFS offers. to bring the healing that they need. To help them begin again in their lives.
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I admire the work that Hope of Survivors is doing--abused women need this kind of support group. I know support groups helped my mom, who was in a similar situation.
This organization adresses an issue that is rarely looked at by the majority of church goers. It provides a healing environment for women to recover what has been lost (or taken) from their lives. All in all, I'd say that this organization is one of the most caring organizations I've come across. I want to volunteer with them.
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I discovered THOS many years ago while working through the aftermath of an abusive clergy. The directors were very helpful to both me and my husband. Since then, we have had the chance to attend one of their conferences and are still very grateful for the help they offer to us and to others.
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Several years ago we became acquainted with the ministry of Hope of Survivors and were impressed with Samantha and Steve's love and understanding extended to hurting women. Their desire to reach out and give HOPE by pointing the wounded to Jesus has been just the encouragement that was so desperately needed . May God continue to bless them in their ministry.
Dona Mae
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During a short meeting I had with one of the staff, I was happy to discover that Hope Survivors had the solutions to one of the challenges we were facing in our church!~ and the situation has since improved. This is a great organization with more potential than words can describe!
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The Hope of Servivors has been a blessing to thounsands of people in the USA and around the world. They do their job with passion, compasion, and love.
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Sam and Steve's story was similar to our own clergy abuse path, and just that alone was of immeasurable comfort. However, they did much more than that. Sam's wise and timely counsel offered us reassurance during desert times, and tools and language to persevere for justice in our case. This is a serious issue everywhere and in many church denominations and affiliations. Having their expertise available to countless victims/survivors is a true God-send.
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I was so wounded when I first contacted Hope of Survivors. And many places, just talk. Hope was all action. They have never left me.
I am a Survivor. When I feel bad, I go to Hope.
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I am a member of a church in which I wasn't a victim, but I know of two other people that were victims of a pastor's sexual misconduct. When these indiscretions were brought before the church, the church split, with some members following him and actually supporting him. They justified his actions by saying they didn't see him in the act with their own eyes, or that he's just as human as anybody else and makes mistakes---no man is perfect. In 2009, he was accused of raping an 18 year old, but the authorities discovered the act was consensual. His new church ran the young lady out of the church and still supported him. Last year, he and another member explained sexually explicit cell phone pictures. When he was caught, again, the church supported him and ran her away from the church.
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Samantha has demonstrated a keen ability to motivate and challenge people to speak out against a unique form of sexual abuse within Christian circles. Hope of Survivors provides excellent resources and support to victims of clergy abuse.
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I'm a volunteer who's also been a client served by the ministry of The Hope of Survivors.
I discovered The Hope of Survivors through an online search. The support and understanding that I received helped me to know that I wasn't alone; that there were others who'd suffered through the same type of circumstances as myself.
I consider it a true privilege to work with this ministry. I'll never forget how desperate, shame-filled, and alone I once was, and how difficult it was to explain my troubles to the people around me.
With the prevalence of pastoral sexual abuse in Churches today, we need to educate our religious communities about the damage to wounded souls involved in this type of abuse. Bringing these issues out of the darkness and into the light is a big step toward both healing and prevention.
Thank you for your years of hard work in this area, THOS!
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The Hope of Survivors saved my life! During a frantic internet search for help concering the pain I was suffering while being abused by my 'pastor' - I came across THOS website. After thoroughly reasearching the information offered, I came to understand and accept the fact that I was in an abusive situation. I reached out for help, and was immediately contacted by Steve and Samantha Nelson. They offered to me their sincere love, support, and understanding of the abusive situation I had been suffering with for years. Through counsel, and the information offered at THOS, I was able to recover mentally, emotionally, and even spiritually from the from the damage caused by pastoral abuse and am now helping others do the same. THOS plays a vital role in the recovery process of pastoral abuse victims!
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When my husband came across THOS on the internet, it was the starting point for my healing from clergy sexual misconduct. The counseling I received from THOS helped quiet the shaming voices that were telling me that it was all my fault. I was able to unburden myself in a safe environment, receive education on CSA/CSM, and have hope that tomorrow will be a better day. With the Lord's help, THOS saved my sanity - and my marriage.
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Even though I knew in my heart that other woman where involved with my pastor, I didn't realize fully the extent and number of pastors that lead woman into illicit relationships. The Hope of Survivors web site information educated me. For whatever reason, I found it difficult to see the evilness in my pastor's attentions. I wanted to believe the best of him. The Hope of Survivors counsel via Samantha allowed me to see that what happened was Pastoral Sexual Misconduct. I'd thought of it as an emotional affair. Now I realize that not only did my pastor neglect to set professional boundaries, he also carefully and secretly crafted, at the church no less, opportunities to seduce me into a sexual relationship with him. His colleagues and wife covered for his sometimes blatant come-ons toward me.
When I complained to the conference officials my report did nothing. The pastor was believed and I was not, because I hadn't collected enough evidence to substantiate my complaint. THOS has provided support to me when no one else would. After dealing with the one pastor who manipulated me, I've met other church leaders that behave in a similar controlling manner. Most recently at a church school where I worked, I endured sexual harassment and discrimination. My only place to turn has been THOS. Anywhere else I was sure to be seen as unstable. Needless to say, my health has been negatively affected by these experiences. The on going ministry of THOS encourages me. I believe the Holy Spirit is using the ministry of THOS to not only help victims, but also to bring change in the church by their presence at General Conference meetings, television appearances, and their dedication to help and educate about this problem. A problem that has been in the church far to long.
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The need for reform in the clergy abuse field is shown in the fact that The Hope of Suvivors has gone international in such a short time. We have all known for a long time that an intervention to help these victims move on with their lives is so important. THOS helps the victims regain their self respect and their lives. Hopefully I will never need their services....but, for those that need to obtain council for clergy abuse, we can only pray they find THOS. Finding them will be helped by grants and donations that allow them to send out information and for seminars.....this is a chairity that helps abused victims everyday.
Freda
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After it was exposed that my Pastor was in MANY abusive relationships and I was only ONE who suffered, Hope of Survivors was a rare gem that guided me, encouraged me, admitted with me, and informed me.
SO MANY expressed hopelessness..... "why would you tell this?" (to stop the abuse) and "what do you hope to accomplish?" (stop the abuse) "How could you HURT his reputation?" (to stop his sickness and stop his abuse) ... Thank you HOPE for Survivors for restoring HOPE!
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I have attended many conventions in which The Hope of Survivors have set their booth up, it is amazing how many hurting people out there who have experienced some type of private abuse issue in the past and have no one to share with. THOS turns nobody away. It is a powerful ministry.
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Samantha and Steve were there for my fiance' and his family when he couldn't find anyone else to understand the devastation and resulting destruction of his family unit following the manipulation, grooming and betrayal of their trusted pastor. Samantha's emails enlightened him and enabled him to see that he wasn't alone in the despair that he felt. Steve counseled him and got him to understand the importance of forgiveness. The Hope of Survivors came to be at the same time my fiance' was looking for someone to help him through his crisis. Was it divine intervention? We think so!
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I am very thankful for the services that Hope for Survivors is providing. It has been encouraging to me in my personal abuse situation. Sexual abuse by clergy is a serious problem. Usually the victims are told to be quiet or something bad will be done to them. I personally have had that situation. Many religious organizations don't want to admit any of their clergy have a problem nor will they deal with it. Hope for Survivors has been and encouraging program to me for the last three years. Thank you so much.
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I will never forget the help Samantha and Steve gave me during my times of trouble with our church. They are a Godsend and I pray they will always be able to continue with their ministry. It is very important and I can't stress enough how much they were of service to me. I don't think I would have made it without their many calls. I was on the phone with them for days it seems and I was able to go on with my life after my experience with my pastor. They helped me to realize that he was not the "good person" I claimed him to be and that an experience with a pastor is not an affair but pastoral abuse. Please consider them for this grant.
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