I joined when the trauma I had repressed for 39 years woke in me. The years of misunderstanding myself has become better since I joined MS. There are many common issues shared on the forum. MS forum is a place to focus on personal growth, and giving support to others.
Malesurvivor.org is a good resource for men who want to connect with others to discuss and learn about their experience as victims of sexual assault. The forum discussions are quite helpful for this, and the "chat room" provides an opportunity to connect immediately.
The "Weekend of Recovery" events have excellent reviews from those who have attended. They are very expensive, but the organization has a program that assists those who request help in covering the fee.
Malesurvivor.org does suffer some flaws. The board of directors and executive positions consist of a small group of individuals who have served for years, highly qualified and respected professionals in the field. The organization's momentum has somewhat stagnated the past few years and would benefit from new perspectives among leadership.
Volunteer opportunities exist for unlicensed and untrained individuals to serve as moderators and related positions for the website community. As with all nonprofits, this type of hierarchy has opened the door for the occasional territorial individual to work into a position of authority over other volunteers, discouraging the participation of those they may perceive as a threat. The "chat room" and "healing circle" features are a point of concern, as these are headed by volunteers lacking in leadership and community-building skills. Although it takes only one or two of these folks to mar a good thing, malesurvivor.org has enough good people to keep the ship on course.
Considering these few weaknesses (which, again, are common to every nonprofit driven by unprofessional volunteers), malesurvivor.org is one of the most popular programs for men who are victims of sexual assault and has made a notable contribution in raising awareness of this issue.
Malesurvivor reaches out to a group of victims and helps them to resurrect themselves, reconcile with themselves, and renew their zest for life. The organization's workshops for other professionals and their weekends of retreat for survivors are days of hope for the members of the population which they tirelessly serve. I am a survivor of childhood trauma who has benefited so much from this excellent group.
Very empowering experience at the Weekends of Recovery. They provide a unique experience not available through any other organization. I have twice travelled well over 1,000 miles to be able to participate. Having professionals donate their time makes this more accessible to a wider range of incomes.
I attended and received a great benefit from a recent MaleSurvivor Weekend of Recovery. I highly recommend connecting with MaleSurvivor if you or someone you care about was sexually abused as a child.
I am a 64 year old male survivor working on recovery for 4 years.
Who knew?...I sure didn't.... I thought the incest, rapes, abuse and being pimped were my fault!!! Thanks to MaleSurvivors Weekends of Recovery, (WOR), I discovered they are not my fault and I am not alone. The WORs gave me the opportunity under the guidance of highly skilled therapists in a co-created safe environment to confront the demons and fears I kept secret for over 55 years. i sincerely hope that young men are reading this review and will consider the incredible confidentiality of MaleSurvivor and not wait to come forward for their own freedom. MaleSurvivor is a lifesaver.
I have been in recovery for the past two years going to therapy and engaging in mutual support groups but one of the most dramatic experiences I have had was attending the Male Survivors weekends and participating in the online forums. Male Survivor is an organization that cares and is making changes in the life of people that had no hope or way of coping with the effects of both male childhood and adult rape and abuse.
For so long I was searching for something to connect with, an organization that would not only help me get through this dark stage of my life, but a place to connect and be comfortable to share my story...Male Survivor helped me during my recovery and Im so glad I finally made the decision to go.
The Male Survivor website is the a treasure chest of information, the “Google” per male sexual victimization. It promotes validation and support and prompts survivors to overcome sexual abuse and soul cancer via direction and support with:
● Clarifying Definitions and
The Males Survivor Website appears to be the most esteemed, respected, embraced, referred to, and trusted worldwide provider of its kind.
Male Survivor's goal is somewhat akin to the way Danny Thomas attacked childhood cancer with awareness and hope via the St. Jude’s Children's Hospital;
Except with Male Survivor, the disease and those they attack is evil, darkness, victimization, sexual predators and bullies, power and control dynamics, and soul murder / cancer.
I encourage all sexual abuse survivors to muster the strength courage the explore Male Survivors' plethora of inviting and uplifting resources to start, and sustain their roads to resiliency and happiness.
Extraordinary weekend seminars. Life changing! Professional staff and counselors. Well organized events. A first class operation!
They are amazing! They have helped me through some of the toughest things in my life and I will be eternally grateful!!
So very valuable, a true life saver. Books, life lessons, discussion boards, conferences and healing retreats-so much help-I am so very grateful.
This place was a life saver for me. 6 years ago I was completely isolated, scared, & had no idea where to go. I came across this site shorty after seeking help and got connected with therapists & support groups in my area. I also went on a few weekends of retreat as advertised. Male survivor is truly nothing short of a life save for me. Life has gotten so much better I never could have imagined.
Male Survivor has played an immeasurable role in my healing journey. Male Survivor has provided help, healing, and support. I am forever grateful.
To whom it may concern,
I am writing as a survivor committed to recovery from trauma and abuse. My traumatic past consist of three different painful/horrible experiences; childhood physical and emotional abuse, multiple rapes/sexual abuse, and cancer.
For more then a decade I have been in counseling utilizing a variety of therapy models. During that process I was directed to join groups with a focus on healing and facing the sexual abuse. As such I have been trying lots of different sources. Although I somewhat benefited from them, my experience with Male Survivors was uniquely different and better.
Male Survivors approach is unique and was beneficial via:
-Emphasis on comfort, acceptance/tolerance, and none judgmentalism of the "healing" journey.
-Embracing the past abuse and grow with and from it, instead of hiding from and with it.
-Incorporating a humanistic approach to "healing", unlike any other program with special, dedicated, and committed assistance, (even financial) to ease the difficult and challenging recovery process of sexual abuse.
-Healing and strengthening the abused persona.
-The most understanding, dedicated and professional staff.
While acknowledging and even writing about this part of my life and journey has been challenging as it stired up traumatic haunt's, after my Male Survivor experience I can do just that.
Male Survivors truly stands by its motto " Dare to Dream" for those whose dreams have taken!
I am enormously thankful to Male Survivors and all those involved with running and supporting such a vitally needed organization, for those recovering and living with the challenges of sexual abusive experiences.
it is this organization that came up when I googled help for a victim. I was at the point of planning my demise and it is without doubt that this organization saved my life, I attended one of their weekends of recovery; and I was not alone. There were people that cared and wanted nothing in return. I left with with a renewed positive view and have continued to move forward. I know I am not the only one that feels this way, but they are great!
I kept my mouth shut for many years in fear, and tried a couple times to take my own life for what was done to me; but one day I went on the web and just put malesurvivor in google. What I found truly saved my life. I went to one of their weekend recoveries and was scared at first; but imagine being in a room with people who cared and wanted to hear, and wanted to listen. They did all that and more. I had something that someone said that I got triggered. For the first time in my life, I had someone stand by me and never left my side for over a hour. I felt like I mattered. I later went to one of their advanced weekend in Utah and these people rememebered my name and gave me a hug and meant it. Again I was with my brothers and regardless of race, religion, sexual preference, anything; everyone just exhaled and breathed. I remember what I said at the end of the first meeting. " I came with a brick wall and some of those bricks fell, but I feel great" I was asked to be part of Oprah's 200 men show in November 2010. I couldn't have had the courage to go if it wasn't for malesurvivior. When I was there, for the first time in 50 years I felt me feet planted on the ground, and that I mattered, and no one was going to tell I didn't matter. Oh, and by the way those feelings of doom; they are gone. I FEEL GOOD!
I have attended numerous conferences and Weekends of Recovery and am always amazed by the power of survivors of sexual assault coming together to find ways to heal. Providing the opportunity for both survivors and professionals to work together to heal and spread the message that healing is 100% possible is the focus of many of our activities.
As a survivor, being able to give back by serving on the board has an honor.
I encourage everyone who has been a victim of sexual assault to find ways to heal in community. if you are a male survivor of sexaul assault, then the community of MaleSurvivor is a great place to find Hope, Healing & Support.
Working on MaleSurvivor's board, I continue to be impressed by the volunteers that support our organization. Professionals from the therapeutic community, survivors of sexual assault, and those who love the men who have been sexually assaulted continue to find ways to encourage healing.
Our 2012 conference brought together all parts of our community to learn new ways to more effectively heal and share our message of Hope, healing and support.
2013 is filled with Weekends of Recovery, more use of the website's discussion board and many opportunities to increase awareness at conferences and Dare to Dream local community events.
I attended the "Day of Recovery" in Portland. It's obvious these folks care and are really knowledgable regarding Male sexual abuse. I wouldnt hesitate to recommend this organization to any male survivor I come in contact with.
I've also read the blog on malesurvivor.org... lots of support and good information there as well.. I believe the website is affiliated with this organization.
Male Survivor has been instrumental in expanding its scope of support to include males victimized by the commercial sex trade and human trafficking. An integral component to male victimization over the lifespan.
I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, and I attended a Weekend of Recovery session this past May. It was a life changing experience. Not only was I able to connect with other survivors, the program was a tremendous help in moving my recovery forward. I did not even start therapy until age 45 - a few years ago - and the program brought my recovery process to a whole new level