I was involved in a domestic violence situation and was referred to Hope House in indep. After leaving work on the 13th Sept. I was stopped and taken to jail for a traffic violation. The first place I called was Hope house after getting out I called to get my belongings only to find out they gave them away. Now I'm homeless, abused, and only have the clothes on my back. I feel worse now than I did when I first went to Hope house, I feel hopeless because now they refuse to let me come back and give me clothes and they have donated clothes.
What a blessing for those who need a place of refuge and safety!
I am apparently an unusual survivor of domestic violence, for Hope House anyway, in that I am male. During the marriage, I would regularly flee my ex-wife's yelling by leaving the house for a few days. Against my better judgement, I always forgave her and returned. Eventually she filed a divorce petition in which she claimed I was the abusive one, and then she parentally kidnapped our children. The Guardian ad Litem appointed into our divorce at Mother's request suggested I engage hope house's guardian program as a place where Mother would bring the children so they could see me, which I agreed to do as otherwise they would not see me at all. Hope House Guardian program from the beginning has treated me like some kind of threat or dangerous criminal, and hope house's "court" and "civil legal" programs have been completely non-responsive to my requests for assistance, since I have exhausted my savings on lawyers, and am emotionally distressed to where I cannot hold a good-paying job trying in vain to fight Mother's frivolous, spiteful, and poorly formed allegations, which she somehow convinced the family court judge to go along with, even though in doing so the court ignored the court's own impartial experts and gave a judgement beyond the authority granted in RSMo Chapter 452.
Contrary to their own brochures on "what domestic violence is," Guardian Program turns Mother's unfounded fears into additional rules of conduct during visits at guardian program -- rules which must be followed under pain of losing the one time the children can see me. In conclusion, they may be doing a great job when it comes to couples who actually hit each other, but in a situation where the domestic violence consists of the woman yelling at the man (and at the children) and then abusing the court system to further her agenda of abusive control, they seem dumbfounded, and absolutely refuse to provide me the assistance their promotional material claims they provide to survivors, in particular the "attorneys who are well versed in the complex issues of domestic violence" who are supposed to be "available to represent domestic violence survivors in the civil legal system at no cost" which is listed as part of Program 2 at http://www.guidestar.org/profile/43-1265685 from where I clicked to get to this review form.
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My husband and I were assaulted by three men and two women several years ago on New Years Eve. They were subsequently found guilty of assault and property damage after a day long trial. As part of the court imposed punishment the five were to do community service. We received verification from the Court that an affidavit had been signed by Kelli S that one of the defendants, RA whose wife is a personal friend of Kelli's had performed his community service at Hope House in Independence. We were doubtful that RA had performed community service at Hope House so we called Hope House. In four separate conversations with four different persons associated with Hope House we were told that because Hope House was a shelter for domestic violence victims and their families that NO one with charges such as these would be allowed to do community service at Hope House. While talking to these people at Hope House it was obvious that NO one could remember a time when men were allowed to do community service for Hope House. We could find NO one except Kelli Stallman who would say that RA had performed community service at Hope House. The conclusion made was that either RA performed his community service without anyone knowing about it OR Kelli and Ryan were not being honest We contacted members of the board at Hope House where we were told that in all probability NO one found guilty of assault would be allowed to do community service ay Hope House. Based on this information we were told that an investigation would be forthcoming. We never heard from anyone again. This program while being beneficial for those who needs it's services is being operated by people who are not honest or transparent. It is our opinion that Kelli filed false documents with the court thus possibly committing perjury. We feel that as victims of this crime we deserve an honest answer from Hope House as to the circumstances behind these events.
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