I have had the privilege to be a part of this organization for over 7 years now. It's extremely rewarding and the families have become part of mine. Despite their losses, they share a special part of themselves that no one can take away. Their loved one's made the ultimate sacrifice, and they are proud. They belong in a space of this country's gratitude, each and everyday.
This group is the meaning of "family not by blood." We all share a common bond, we have lost a loved one due to or in war. We are a unique group and its great to know others "get it" and we can grieve as needed. We meet up 2-3 times each year with different events and keep in touch through social media, texts, emails or calls.
The best group you never want to be a part of.
I have had the privilege to interact with this organization and the families that they serve; for the past years. The families are extremely inspiring. Through their experiences of tragic loss of their loved ones, they uplift themselves and others in similar circumstances, to memorialize and transform their painful losses into beautiful living legacy's of hope and meaning. Their hero's will always be known for their selfless service to our country and standing for our nations freedoms. The families provide support to one another, as they simultaneously, receive mutual support in good kind. It is amazing to watch the interactions of giving and receiving being a means for positive growth and transformation for the survivors and for us, as those that serve these precious families. The board members are of the most committed and talented servants imaginable. I am honored to humble assist them; when called to do so and blessed beyond measure to call them my friends.
Reverend Eva Overholt, Creative Ministry Center Brookfield, Wisconsin
This organization is leading the way in connecting families of our nation's fallen heroes together. Through personal experiences, this nonprofit demonstrates an overt sense of compassion that is unmatched. Never have I met such a fantastic group of people so willing to serve others.
Since my son was killed in Iraq they have been there for me. They kept me in the loop on up coming events and support for my wife and myself. They were there for me when my wife died two years after my son was killed. I can't really say enough about the good they do and the information they forward.
My sister was a veteran and spent much of her life serving in the military. When she tragically died in a house fire, along with her beautiful daughter of 16, my world was forever changed. One tries to find comfort anywhere and everywhere, and it was graciously offered from cards from strangers. After a little digging, I found the source of several cards and prayers from a little known nonprofit called Being There, Reaching Out, where people support people who have lost loved ones in military service. Even though my sister didn't die in action, her memory was considered just as precious and her service valued. I cannot say enough about this nonprofit and how wonderful it is. God bless them and all who have tragedy they must face.
Such an amazing group of people. This charity arranges gatherings, outings, and more, and provides help to the families of the Wisconsin fallen Military. It's such a great way for the families to work toward healing, while helping others at the same time.
Having an organization that schedules events for those of us who have lost military family members is so much more important than I can even put into words. Having others around you who truly understand your feelings and can help you deal with them has been the most amazing gift. After the loss of my brother, my mom joined BT/RO. I never thought it would be something I was interested in, but I have found it to be the most amazing group of people I have ever met. Having group activities for the Gold Star families helps us in so many ways, and we are all able to talk about our loved ones in a way we can't always do on a regular basis. It's a sad way for such a wonderful group of people to come together, but I feel so fortunate to be a part of it.
Having lost my son from the results of Afaghinstan/Iraq war, The group has supported me and my husband with love and support!
This group is about helping families of love ones that have been lost in the Iraq and Afghanistan War.
It is not just for the heros that died there, but for the heros here, who whether accident or self inflicted due to their PTSD.
We all need support and our group is some one who is willingly to listen and care.
We all suffer losses differently, but to know someone with similar experiences helps!
Hello. I've been SO BLESSED to be a part of this Mission of Love!! I've lost troops in the US (CONUS - Ft Hood and to suicide) and Overseas (OCONUS). They remain in my heart and prayers as do ALL the Families of the Fallen.
Please know that the troops who have served with your loved one, grieve too. Our Fallen are our Brothers and Sisters in Arms. We loved them and we mourn with you.
Please also know, we Serve because we really, really want to! I've been blessed to have served in 3 theatres of war. I may have been scared sometimes but I was never prouder than to serve for Our Country. That is why I'm Still in after 28.5 yrs. But, I'm still not the oldest in my Unit (smile!).
May God bless you all. Thank you for your sacrifice. Freedom is not free.
With love, LTC "Marge"
I have been involved with BTRO for many years. I have met the most incredible families who like their loved ones are my heros. They are just like all of us but with one thing in common. They have lost a large chunk of their hearts. I only hope I have been able to give them the opportunity to know that their loved one will never be fogotten and I will do everything I can to make sure there is someone to listen to and be there for them when they least expect it. I love these families as my own with all my heart. God Bless them all. Dorothy
I don't remember when or how our family originally connected with Judith, Joe, Dorothy and Marge, and it really doesn't matter, except that they 'gently' "Reached Out" and let our entire family know they were "There" for us when our son, LCPL Rich Warner, USMC, was killed in Iraq in 2004 and continue to Be There for us these past nine years. This group,based in Wisconsin, through opportunities and activities/meetings they provide, help us to heal the aching, gaping hole in our hearts from the losses of our loved ones. They don't push an agenda or ask for membership dues; they let you know you can share, laugh, grieve, or obtain help at one's own rhythm. They care; we care. They/we all have a special connection, a bond of a loss of a fallen family member; there is unconditional love, compassion, care, and support to entire extended family members. Through this group and all the activities they provide, friendships evolve. We have opportunities to reconnect, to decompress, to share, to laugh.
We can't always be at every event, but our entire family wouldn't want to miss our annual Families of the Fallen/ Being There-Reaching Out gatherings. We've had excellent speakers, great locations geared for families, activities (baseball, golf,making hats, bracelets, tours of Lambeau, camp outings,grief sessions, etc.), meals, raffle items. We have a network of support groups, people who care, such as The Safe House in downtown Milwaukee, Kapco of Grafton, Wi; Dry Hootch in Milwaukee, WI that assists our veterans, the Patriot Riders and many more. We look forward to a Fisher House of WI being built at Clement Zablocki VA Center; the same VA center where we have our annual "Walk for the Fallen" in August.
We are so fortunate to have this group touch our lives. Our veterans of past conflicts, especially the Vietnam War, did not have the opportunities we have with Being There-Reaching Out. Like our sons, daughters, husbands,wives, brother, sister, grandchild, aunt, or uncle who "gave their all", who have made a difference in the lives and places of the less fortunate, Being There-Reaching Out also makes a difference to each and every one of us. We thank them.
This organization provides a loving safe place that helps the families of the fallen on many levels.
The lifestyles and freedom we enjoy come at a heavy price. The children, wives, parents and families of the soldiers who fell here and abroad have a group and a place where they can be with others who share similar loss. We can't bring back the fallen, but we can try to help the families heal and cope. There is much love and appreciation for the families and the founder of this organization.
It seems unbelievable that our son, Samuel, left for recruit training 11 years ago! Tragically, he died there at MCRD in San Diego, CA only 39 days later. Our oldest son, Steven was already serving active duty in the Marines. He was preparing for deployment. Sam's sudden death was an icy and shocking wake up call to the realities of "the ultimate sacrifice". We were terrified of losing both of our sons. Thankfully, Steve was relocated to a base in the States, fulfilled his commitment and returned home...
....Five years after Sam's death I learned about BT RO from another Gold Star mom from Kenosha. She got me in touch with Judith. A week or so later my husband and I were attending our first BT RO gathering in Appleton, WI. I remember seeing the Patriot Guard Riders on the sidewalk holding American flags as the families entered. I cannot put into words how solemn, respectful, meaningful, inspiring, touching and thoughtful every aspect of that weekend was. The hugs were as plentiful as my tears! We met other families grieving their loved ones and instantly felt a bond...
Judith, Joe and the Board Members and volunteers give so much time, energy and compassion to this organization! Not to mention the donors and behind the scenes people all giving for a worthy endeavor.
Thank you for the years of love and caring!
Being There Reaching Out (BT-RO) is an exceptional organization that supports the WI families of our Fallen Military Heroes. No one wants to be a part of the group, but once your loved one has made the ultimate sacrifice, you are so glad Being There Reaching Out is there to support you. I became involved after my brother, SSG Andrew Bossert was killed in Ramadi, Iraq on March 7, 2005. I was able to meet other people who could understand what I was going through and feeling. BT-RO organizes events throughout the year to gather the families together to allow them to mourn their loved one, cry, laugh or whatever the person needs. Parents, spouses, children, siblings, grandparents, cousins, aunts, uncles and beyond are supported in their grief through Being There Reaching Out. It is such a special place for the families to be to feel safe and to feel understood and be able to mourn openly and everyone is there to support. Unfortunately the group has grown due to the increasing deaths from the war or due to the war. We all share a very special bond that connects us and Being There Reaching Out has allowed that.
Well 1st let me say, this is no ordinary non profit group. This group was created for all the reasons you don't want to be part of any group whatever, and it is certainly not a group that I thought I would ever be part. This group offers more than support to families that have lost loved ones due to the conflict of War.
This group does not only offer support but it offers the one thing that is free, LOVE and Compassion and we are all for the same reason. We all lost someone due to this conflict of War. War that has been around for many many years. I love when we can all get together and bond as a family, a much bigger family than you could ever imagine. We all come from different walks of life and different areas in Wisconsin. When we are together you can not only see the love but you feel it. Every time my boys and I leave an event we talk about the people we have met the stories we have shared with each other and we go home stronger. The board members are beautiful people inside and out. The compassion they show the love the give is like no other you will receive anywhere else. I wish that I was not a member for the reasons I am, but I am proud to have met such wonderful people that I will know the rest of my life. ~ Peggy Naseman
I am a volunteer board member of Being There Reaching Out. I came to this group through losing my son LCPL Travis Wichlacz in Iraq in 2005. I have watched this group grow from a fledgling group of a few families that had lost a loved one to war to a much larger group with a larger purpose. This group brings together the families of the fallen. Whether it be a death in theater or at home through accidents and even suicide. Families can find comfort and healing. The group reaches out to spouses, parents, grand parents and healing events accommodate children, grand children, nephews, nieces. All those touched by the loss are invited. Through the comfort and healing, families have gone on to do great things for others in the fallen ones name. The networking has been phenomenal for spurring ideas of scholarships, golf outings, walks and other functions raising money to benefit others in our community and state.
Being there reaching out briefly discribes what this organization is about, but it is so much more. It brings together families that share the terrible experince of loosing a loved one in the service of our country. I lost a son who was killed in action in Afgahnistan in 2011 and had deep feelings of guilt and depression, but with the contacts I made through this caring organization I was no longer alone and could share my feelings with other parents of lost children. Judith, who is the head of this organization pours out her soul to all of us in her effort to bring healing to us as if we were part of her family.
I have formed many lasting relations not only with other family members who have lost loved one, but I am able to reach out to so many Vets and active military because of what I have learned about living with the loss of a loved one. It is all because of this organization I have the strength to reach out to others.
I lost my oldest son Ryan in August of 06. He was Killed outside of Tikrit Iraq. Our family was devistated, Ryan who had just been home two months earlier and was two weeks from returning home left a unfillable hole in the hearts of his family. Being There Reaching Out offered me a place that I didn't have to explaine how I felt and gave me hugs and love that was second to none. I have developed great friendships in this group that no one ever wanted to join but now that we are a part of it .......would never want to be apart from the wonderful people and honor that this orginization brings to our families.
After 7 years I consider these families part of my own family. Judith Singer and her board of directors put their hearts and souls into everything they plan for us. I know that with the right funding and help from others that care about our families this orginization is on its way to being the best families of the fallen orginizaiton in any state. I wish that every state had a BTRO that they could be a part of.
A truely special orginizaiton with people that care about us and love us right where we are.....and sometimes that is not a very happy place to be.
I would urge any family member that has lost someone that served in the Military either KIA - DIS - or because of the open wounds from WAR - to join us in this orginizaiton to be lifted from the pit of hell with loving and caring arms of people who know what it feels like to SACRIFICE!
My son was killed in action on 01-12-2008,
since that time I have had nothing but continued support from the organization
Judith Singer an the other women an men who work thru this program
reach out an touch everyone in need of support ,love, an guidance
From programs like WALK FOR THE FALLEN
to special events
I would continue on but I am just amazed at their hard work an effort to go out of their way
PEACE AN LOVE TO ALL IN THIS ORGANIZATION
Cynthia M. Allam
Private Keith E. Lloyd
KIA JAN 12-2008
ROUGH RIDERS FORT HOOD TEXAS ONE OF THE BEST
Being There Reaching Out is a Wisconsin group formed for families of Wisconsin Fallen Heroes. This is an amazing group that no one wants to be part of. As a group we share our loss of our heroes together and no one judges us. We are all in the same boat. Its a group I am so glad I found and so glad to be a part of. I am so thankful for all of them to help us on the journey of love and loss.
I am a member of Being There Reaching Out and it is the most wonderful organization. I lost my son to the war in Iraq and they have helped with the pain of losing a child. We gather to share our pain, memories, and most of all being there for each other. This is a group no one wants to be a part of but once you are they are family. The group helps everyone deal with the pain of losing a loved one to war. We are all at different stages of our grief but somehow never having met each other prior to this we have become friends. Our goal is to have our loss never be forgotten, because having paid the ultimate sacrifice is something we live with each and everyday and this organization is there for us.