I have followed this way of parenting since my first son was born in the early 90s. I have 4 sons and they are wonderful caring young adults now. I still talk about the concepts of attachment parenting with them in the hopes that somehow they may pass this knowledge on if they have their own children in the future. The bond our family shares has been incredibly strong in good times and bad. I attribute a lot of it to the love ,trust and respect that was continually nurtured and strengthened with the help Attachment parenting❤️ Thank you
The website, reading materials and emails from API were key to helping me build very close loving relationships with my children from the time they were small.
API does very important work supporting families to raise emotionally healthy children
Attachment Parenting International is the voice of reason in an increasingly alienating trend in the way we are raising our children. The general idea in childrearing today is to rush separation from the parental figure as soon as possible, ideally within the first few months of life. New mothers are urged to place their babies to sleep alone in a room by 6months of age at the latest, in order to "encourage independence", but how can a baby who can't even sit up properly by herself yet enjoy independence and separation? She can't do anything for herself. She is completely dependent on parental figures to provide food, safety, comfort. What can independence mean to a baby who is left alone to cry, but abandonment and severe danger? Hundreds of pounds are spent every year on sleep consultants for infants who, unable to cope with rushed and inopportune independence foisted upon them cry all night long. The comfort of the breast is widely encouraged to be withdrawn by 1 year old at the latest, if ever started at all. At the same time, the Western world is undergoing a clinical depression and chronic anxiety epidemic of vast proportions. Suicide has become one of the main causes of death, personality disorders are rampant, enduring disabilities and resistant to treatment. These are problems which are virtually unheard of in societies which practice a more attachment based form of child rearing, such as India or China, where, for instance, sleeping with primary caregivers until a child is old enough to appreciate independence is the norm. Coincidence? Maybe. But I'm sure it couldn't hurt to try out what other cultures are already doing successfully. Research by Bowlby et al demonstrates that recurrent and prolonged separation from parental figures in the early years is the direct cause of many problems later in life, and yet attachment parenting is not really viewed as a possible solution, yet. Therefore, thank you Attachment Parenting International for spreading ideas and concepts more in tune with human nature, respectful of what babies and children seek from parenting figures (closeness, guidance and support) even if they don't necessarily go hand in hand with an economic model which expects parents to be back to full time absence from their newborn by the time they're 3 months of age in order to resume paid work.
Attachment Parenting principles have been instrumental in helping me find a circle of parents who were parenting in a similar gentle way based on what early childhood development tells us is best for children. I am so grateful for it!
Great organisation supporting parents. Non judgemental and inclusive. The support is evidence based and full of empathy and understanding. I cannot recommend highly enough.
I am very aware of the many influencers in a child’s life. There are parents, stepparents, foster parents, relatives, and myriad other adults affecting a child, in the span of their upbringing.
Therefore, I use the term “Parent/Parents” as just the general descriptor of the person or persons who raised us.
The way we parent, whether we realise it or not, like it or not, is directly related to the way we were parented. Our parents’ parenting style/skills were directly related to their parents, and on and on and on, generation before generation before generation.
That being said, the world that we live in, now, has been through so many cycles of turmoil: joy, death, life, fear, deep suffering, deep gratitude, love, hate, et al.
In our generation, we are now the parents and we have the luxury of being able to parent our children in a way we can choose to- as opposed to “having to” parent our children in the way that was necessary in order to keep children safe and (for lack of a more fancy word) alive.
Attachment Parenting has changed the way I view myself and my children. Attachment Parenting isn’t just for the child, it is also about us. Choosing to shower your child with love, set firm boundaries, having consistency, and treating our children with the same respect and compassion that we would give to another adult... our friends, perhaps.
I don’t know how I discovered “Attachment Parenting” but I do know that when I learned more about the philosophy, I felt like I wasn’t alone. Many parents weren’t parented in the same way we parent our children. I think that’s because so many of us can still remember what it felt like to be dismissed when we were going through some very difficult things (even as toddlers), or we remember what it was like to have to parent our own parents!
I taught all 3 of my children basic sign language signs before they could talk with their voices. After I did this with my first child, I was completely overwhelmed with beautiful emotions because my child was speaking to me, telling me about themselves and what they were thinking, well before they could form words. It means that children are so bright and so observant! The capacity to communicate with our children before they can even form words was so profound for me that I began to see my children as their own people- with their own uniqueness. That began my journey with Attachment Parenting. It’s about bonding, love, and giving your children the feeling of safety and trust in you, their parent, to hear them, listen to them, and love every ounce of their Being.
API offers help to families on every subject under the sun that has to do with parenting in a positive and loving way. Thank you API
Nothing is more important than the quality of rearing and education we provide our infants, young children, and adolescents. Empirically based child and adolescent rearing approaches, combined with research derived strategies to educate younger and older youth can significantly reduce adult diseases. Since it began, Attachment Parenting International ( API ) has: created local parent study and support groups; written and distributed informative newsletters by scholars about how best parents can meet the various developmental needs of their young children; held annual, national parenting conferences; and been a childrearing resource for individual parents across the United States.
Our country has made reliable automobiles, movies, homes and electric products. It has produced fine and competent professionals in numerous fields. However, its youth are not given the quality and amount of parent love, interest or autonomy they deserve. And by their behavior, they have, for decades, been screaming their needs. The majority of adults are NOT listening or attending. Let us give to those who are!
I decided to join the efforts of Attachment Parenting International. I have watched them and I am proud.
Peter Ernest Haiman, Ph. D.
API gets to the root of building resilience and reducing ACEs--which is being recognized more and more through research and education--getting to the roots, to very beginning of life with promoting Attachment Theory. Their work makes a difference in individual lives of people and families who learn and embrace the principals and overall with community education and social change. Kudos to API.
API does very important work supporting families to raise emotionally healthy children. I learned about attachment parenting through La Leche League, another important support organization. API helped me become the parent I wanted to be. Thank you for all you do!
API is a wonderful organization that is helping to empower parents to build healthy, secure relationships with their children. API knows that secure attachment starts at preconception and lasts throughout a child's lifetime. The principals of attachment parenting are not a checklist of things to do or not to do, rather gentle guidance that is supported by the latest research. Parents can find support in a variety of ways through Attachment Parenting International whether that be through support groups, articles, or the Attached at the Heart curriculum. API is committed to helping parents raise children who don't have to recover from their childhoods.
Teenagers’ AP as a mum, learning about Neufeldt’s research.
One of the best groups for parent support and parent education that centralizes nurturing parents and children.
API is an inspiration! it aims for child and family flourishing in a world that is often hostile to those aims. it is a place to go for support of compassionate, nurturing parenting. While it inspires, it is also realistic about family life. Heart and mind together in its approach, advice and promotion. I find it to be a highly ethical organization.
It is inspirational to see the attachment parenting message of connection and compassion being carried globally through API as well as Lysa Parker and Barbara Nicholson's book, Attached at the Heart. Their international welcome, and translation of their book into multiple languages, is uplifting. Thank you API for your 25 years of pioneering, nonprofit work! Onward!
API provides grounded resources and inspiration for families seeking deep connection with their children as a foundation for lifelong wellness. I have been personally inspired by their vision and dedication to bringing forward the wisdom of attachment science as both a professional and a parent. Thank you API for your commitment to families, and your positive impact on my own.
Attachment parenting is the absolute best way to love your children. Every decision we make based on attachment parenting principles feels right. We are treating our children with respect, and helping them to feel secure and loved in an uncertain world. We have certainly grown as parents as we’ve learned more about attachment parenting. We attempted to sleep train our first baby as that was what we heard you should do to get the baby sleeping in his own crib. To this day, we have great remorse, but are so thankful that we have since learned how to lovingly transition our children to their own beds. Sometimes it is hard and takes alot of time, but doesn’t anything worthwhile? Attachment parenting feels very counter-cultural in many ways, and that makes it hard as well. We’ve learned to “stick to our guns” so to speak, for the sake of our children. We want them to grow up loved and treasured so that they are capable of spreading that love to others.
I am an Attachment Parenting Support Group Leader in central Europe, Hungary, Budapest. I got a lot of help from API. Teaching materils, curriculum and also moral help with the challanges I face.
Out of all the non-profits out there helping parents and children, and there are a lot of them, API is of the highest quality, best organized, most helpful, and most respected. My family and I would not be who we are today if not for API. I would love to see API continue and grow their good work into eternity because I believe it's one of the best organizations that can help create a more compassionate world for us all.
The API supports the theory that children of divorced parents don't deserve Equal Custody.
The archaic Rhetoric that children should not have overnights with each parent and the notion that a primary parent exists, is reason for this non profit to go away.
Non profits should encourage family and help every child have all parents involved to the utmost in all periods of their lives.
API supports all parents in forming healthy relationships with their children, regardless of circumstances. Our Eight Principles of Parenting apply broadly because we recognize that every family has unique needs and special situations. We aim to honor and translate features of child development and parenting that help parents form their most nurturing relationship with each child at every developmental stage and life-event. Our goal is for every child to thrive because their parents took advantage of this non-prescriptive, research-based information and support.
API has helped me grow as a person to be a better mother to my daughter and keep the harmony and love, thank you for spreading the love.
We've adapted attachment parenting in our household, and the results have been remarkable. I can't say enough what AP does for our lives, and it's a fantastic all-around parenting resource.
API has helped me and my family so much. They have helped me to learn how to grow as a parent so that I can heal from my childhood and also serve my children in ways that I did not think were possible. I feel that attachment parenting is the peaceful future that all parents need to work towards and API is just one of the major stepping blocks that is working in our world to do that. They do so much on the local community level and also globally to serve their mission.
API has helped me find my path as a parent. I never knew "what kind of parent" I was, or aspired to be, but knowing the vision of API, it was easy to see. I aspire to be patient and understanding, and work to find joy and harmony with my little girl. What a wonderful mission they have!
API is all about promoting an approach to parenting that encourages peace within the family through nonviolence, compassion, and empathy. I've used this in my family and now help other families in incorporating the API parenting approach. In my own family, API's approach helped our marriage rehabilitate from one affected by domestic violence to completely free of any hurtful word, thought, or deed -- it completely changed the way me and my husband, and our children, view ourselves, each other, and our world. Some people equate API with fad parenting, but it's so much more holistic than that -- it's not about babywearing so much as promoting evidence-based nurturing touch. All of API's Eight Principles of Parenting are like that. They're not so much rules as guidelines to help families looking for more connection to figure out how to reach that goal.
Attachment Parenting International provides such needed education and support for an approach to parenting that is often overlooked in our society but that is, ironically, so vital for a sustainably healthy society. I love the articles, the support group feature, the forum, the teleseminars, the blog, and more.
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This group saved me from post party's depression, helps me through parenting struggles and has provided my best mamma friends. My life and my children's lives have been profoundly lifted through the efforts of the many volunteers at API. So grateful!
I don't have a lot of AP resources available locally, and API has been a regular source of support as my husband and I raise our sons, now 10 and 17. I especially enjoy the personal stories API publishes, as they have inspired me, helped me to feel less alone, and given me ideas I can implement in my family. I even had an article published, so I was able to pass on a little wisdom to others in the same way wisdom has been passed on to me!
Making a difference that will change the world and repair so much damage done by devastatingly cruel parenting methods.
API fills a roll that no other organizations can. I only wish there were an API support group within the reach of every single parent. It is critical to educate regarding evidence based parenting in this current culture. Raising children with secure attachments and empathic hearts is essential to the future of man kind.
I have been so grateful to my local API chapter for being a constant voice of reason through my six years of parenthood. It is wonderful to have friends you've never even met, resources and further reading so you can inform your own best parenting advice, a place to ask questions, and a place to read answers to questions you didn't even realize you had, and to have a forum where you can give back and share about your own experiences. I am so lucky I found API international as well as my local group. As a professional in the area of birth and new parenthood, I can also speak to just how valuable API is to my clients and other parents on a professional level. This form of support is crucial.
My local API group has helped me and family in innumerable ways. It's an amazing community and resource. I feel incredibly fortunate to be a part of it.
I'm grateful for how API has supported and validated me so much as a parent to my two young girls. We are parents who "fell into" attachment parenting and having this community to guide us with experienced advice on extended breastfeeding, co-sleeping, gentle discipline, etc. has been invaluable. It's not just the practical wisdom about these practices that API offers (though that is extremely helpful). But it's the emotional, psychological and spiritual wisdom from parents with older children who've learned the ropes which supports others in making the choice to parent with love and gentleness. I really believe that API practices can change the world by helping shape the next generation.
I found API when my son was born 6 years ago. The group API- NYC has been a lifeline for me through moves to 2 different sates where my parenting style was not the norm. It has been an amazing support that has given me information I needed as well as a sense that others have the same issues I do and choose to handle them in a way that I am comfortable with. I am so grateful for the support and information I get from API.
Volunteering for API came from my masters in early childhood education and child development. They understand this crucial period well.
I have found support many times through the API network in many different subjects related to raising a child. The support offered is invaluable because sometimes a mother might feel isolated or simply not have enough resources to deal with some issues that might come up. Belonging to a community (which is not only an online one but also in real life!), where parents share and care for one another, is extremely important, especially nowadays where the nuclear family has kept us in a small- separated world where wisdom and knowledge is not easily passed from one to another.
Great support for parents who wish to parent peacefully and with respect. They have amazing online resources and local support groups.
Exceptional resource and support network without borders! Families all around the world continue to turn to API as a resource. Thank you!
My whole family, eight children and now 14 grandchildren, have benefitted immensely from what we have learned from Attachment Parenting, International. And in my husband's and sons' Pediatric and Family Medicine practices, we have seen the effects of this organization as it supports the parenting choices that our these families make to stay connected. The families are healthier in so many ways by practicing this way of parenting. Thank you, API, for making a huge difference in our lives, the lives of the parents we serve, and in the wider world of families in our nation and even around the world. One of the best ways they do this is through, not only the local support groups, but through a remarkable website that offers information and encouragement for the hard but joyful work of parenthood.
I am first time Mother. I read a lot of parenting books and tried to stay informed. When my daughter was born I still felt there was a disconnect between what I was learning and real life. I am so grateful I found my local API group!! They are the first I think of now when I have a question about child raising or something wonderful that has happened as a parent. I always look forward to reading everyones posts and comments . They are so insightful, thought provoking, knowledgable, and caring. I kinda don't feel so alone anymore on the conscious parenting path. Thank you!!
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I am a single mom attachment parenting and home-schooling a child with Autism. API has been my lifeline for nearly 8 years!
I am grateful for API! I had not been around children much before my son was born 6 years ago. I was bombarded with people wanting to help guide me along as a new mother. I was given books about how to teach your child to cry it out and other parenting techniques. I tried a few and ended up having to give my child what I wished I had been given when I was growing up. I am blessed to find a program that supports the connection that children need. When I would question my self, I could always come to API for validation and information. Thank you to all who support this incredible awareness! Lisa
I'm a parenting coach and I often send my clients to API as they have a plethora of resources especially for new parents. I only wish API had been around when my children were small. I would have learned to trust my intuition more and not given away so much of my power to the "parenting expert" du jour.
I recently participated in the Attached at the Heart Educators' Training and will be teaching the AATH curriculum hopefully soon.
API has been a strong influence in my parenting. It has offered me guidance in areas that were unknown territory for me. API makes me feel normal :-).
API has helped me finding my empowerement as a father, and for that I'm extremely grateful!
I love API so much that I became a support group leader this year! It's a fantastic organization that provids parenting resources for free. I cannot recommend it enough.
API has been a wonderful source of support in my parenting journey. It is a non judge mental truly caring venue to get advice on topics such as cosleeping, extended nursing, positive discipline, etc. I am constantly finding myself reaching out to this group when I have a question about something my children are doing and I need help with. I could not imagine what it would have been like if I had not found this group 3 years ago!
My experience with API is that it has been a wonderful source of support and inspiration to me since I began my parenting journey almost 10 years ago. The leaders of our group have been nothing but inviting and warm and provide great resources with science-backed information. I trust the board members, and know that this non-profit is sincere and legit, paving the way for gentler, more informed parenting.
I have been involved with API for many years. My local group was an invaluable source of support when I was a new mom, as I learned to follow my instincts and parent in a connected and compassionate way. When I saw how much the group was needed in our community, I became an API support group leader, and eventually started volunteering with the international organization as well. API serves an absolutely vital role in parent education and support, and has done so much good not only in my small community, but worldwide. I truly believe that API's work is helping to make the world a better place--right now and for generations to come.
API Inc. has been invaluable to me. I would not be half the mother I am today were it not for the API listserv I belong to, moderated by API leaders.
we are a family from Barcelona, Spain. We recently moved to Brooklyn and one of the most helpful and warm family group that we met was the API support group. The families and Volunteers involved are very generous and respectful with all the people that comes to them to receive advise related to practical things. No matter if you are asking for big or small questions, you always receive support and information with the potencial of making big and positive changes on a family life.
I recommend 100% this non-profit because is very human and useful for families of different ages.
Attachment Parenting International is one of the most compassionate positive parenting organizations out there. And then when I began volunteering, and now it's been 7 years of volunteering, API is all about working together as a community where everyone's talents are used and everyone's ideas are taken into account. While there is great leadership, it doesn't feel like a hierarchy-type organization -- everyone is encouraged to chime in and do what they can, and the leadership is really about leading by serving. I feel like I'm really making a difference in the world.
Even after four kids (and sometimes especially after four kids) I turn to API for advice, ideas, inspiration, and commiseration. They give strength not to cave to the awful advice that pummels parents from all directions. There is another way, a path less traveled, and API is the one there placing trail markers. Thank you!
I have been a part of my local API support group since right around the time my first child was born. That group has been a lifeline for me, and I am so grateful to have had the support and resources of API available to me right from the start as I was making decisions on how best to care for my brand new baby. Prior to having my own child, I had little experience with kids and mostly only knew that I wanted to bring up my child in a gentle, nurturing way that helped my son thrive, and I knew that I needed to do things differently from how I was raised in order to ensure that my kids felt loved and secure about who they are rather than fearful and people-pleasing. API gave me the support and knowledge I needed to feel confident navigating new territory starting with the newborn phase, and ever since, any time I have needed help as my kids have gotten older, I still find that the API group support is my absolute most helpful resource of all, reminding me not only of the research and groundbreaking work of attachment parenting experts around the world when I've needed it, but also giving me practical, hands-on advice on complex issues I've faced with my kids all the way up to school-age and allowing me to give back to other parents facing similar issues. I am so grateful for the work API does and I support them 1,000%. Our kids need more love and compassion from parents and caregivers, and API is changing the world. It certainly changed mine, and my family is so much the better for it.
When I had my baby it was towards the close of a very tumultuous period in my life. I did not have a lot of good advice coming to me. Most people I knew espoused ways of childrearing that did not include baby-wearing or even breast feeding, but I knew these things were best for children and I practiced them. After a particularly difficult holiday season I returned home depleted emotionally after being challenged repeatedly for keeping my baby so close [she was 5 mos.]
I finally went online and searched for meaningful commentary to validate my choices and that is when I found API-NYC, an online group where parents discussed childrearing.
Over the past 6.5 years my family has thrived because of the intelligent and compassionate support of other parents who are also part of the Attachment Parenting community. I have been able to make decisions about good nutrition because I am constantly updated about new resources, I am able to navigate developmental stages with with grace and humor because I can discuss parenting with other parents who also choose to honor the whole child.
My daughter enjoys a happy home that has her best interests at heart. She is supported in her choices and she thrives physically and emotionally. Our family has benefited from learning about non-violent communication, as well as a variety of consumer products, from child-supplements to probiotics to magnesium baths that can help to fortify and calm. I have learned about a variety of educational resources to empower my daughter's learning and more than anything I have found support as a woman, as a mother and as a sensitive person.
I have found my "tribe."
I do not know how I would have found so much success in my life without API-NYC. It gave me a ladder and my whole family has climbed.
API-NYC helped me give my daughter the rich life she deserves.
API gave me the confidence to trust my instincts by providing access to quality resources and meaningful support. I was inspired to become an accredited leader so that I could offer other parents in my community an opportunity to join this wonderful community. API has given me the chance to make difference in the lives of families who believe, as I do, in the power of compassionate parenting. API is unique in the scope and quality of the research and evidence-based approaches they promote so that parents can fully invest in the relationship with their children as the profoundly important and impactful experience that it is. The mission of API is realized every day by the dedicated volunteers who work to spread its message of peace through parenting, and donors can be confident that donations go to making a tangible impact on the lives of families looking for support in their choices to respect, love, and respond with attentive empathy to their children. I am proud to volunteer with API and feel so grateful for this organization; it has truly changed my life and the lives of my family members who are the recipients of the qualities of patience and empathy that I have learned through API.
I have been involved with a local API support group since my first child was a year old, first as a parent coming to meetings and play groups and finding a peer group for me and my children. This brought me out of my isolation as a stay-at-home mother and provided many opportunities to give and receive support. My local group was a safe haven where I could parent the way that felt right to me and I knew that, even if the parents in the group didn't do everything the same way, we would all be respectful of each other's choices. API's Eight Parenting Principles provides a great structure to the group, focusing on the most important needs that children have, but leaving how to meet those needs up to the people who know those children the best - their parents. My two kids have grown into caring, responsible teenagers, and now I run my own API group. My involvement with API has given me great confidence, both as a parent and as a leader.
Raising children is the most rewarding and challenging work I've ever done. It's nice to have a community of like-minded parents to go to whenever I've needed support or just a listening, understanding ear.
I found API when I was the new parent to an infant. We began attending meetings and events when my daughter was 8 weeks old, and I really don't know how I would have made it through parenting her without API. The group has consistently offered a welcoming, safe, and gentle atmosphere where I have learned so much about parenting, have gathered emotional support, and have been motivated to parent consciously. I am so inspired by the women I have met, and continue to learn from them everyday. We have educational meetings, hikes, playdates, and book club. My best friends today are other mamas that I have met in API, and they challenge me to grow as a parent while also offering non-judgmental support. I really can't imagine my life without this organization! Although I am far from a perfect parent, I have a clear vision of what I aspire to be, and I continue to work toward that vision each day.
The information provided by API is priceless in helping to guide parents and families. I'm so very thankful I have been able to benefit from their outreach efforts. I believe wholeheartedly in their philosophy and mission.
When I was a new mom, I found an API meeting in my community. The first time I went, I knew I was in the right place. Every month I looked forward to attending meetings, and eventually we started a weekly playgroup as well. My family had finally found our tribe in a part of the country that otherwise had very different views to ours. When we left that city, I knew that API could offer the same opportunity of building a community in my new city, so I trained to become a leader with API and I am so happy to offer support to new parents--new parents who, just like me and my family, want to find their tribe.