I was in shock and broken when I found the Alliance of Hope. Life as I knew it was over. But people there understood what I was going through. They showed me how to live again. I don’t know how much that is worth in dollars, but to me it was worth a lot. Everything.
Every day the volunteers and members at this nonprofit save lives and bring hope and light to those who have lost precious loved ones to suicide.
Knowing this dark pain firsthand, we help each other rebuild lives all over the world just using the power of words. When others don't understand, when they turn away, the people here are ready to listen, to support.
I have been on the Alliance of Hope daily for almost 4 years. I have never felt more welcomed and supported. I don't know how I would have survived the loss of my husband without the compassion and support of everyone on here. It is one of the best run support groups that I've seen. These members have become much more than just faceless, nameless people. They understand what I'm going more completely than other people in my life. The advise I've received has enabled me to navigate my loss. I'm glad I can be there for others and other people were there for me.
There are no words to describe how grateful I am to Alliance of Hope for their support after my father died by suicide. Confused, alone, and in so much pain, they offered compassion and understanding like no other. The loss of a loved one to suicide is so very difficult. Alliance of Hope gave me a safe space to talk about the things I needed to talk about. This is so important for survivors.
Grief support groups for suicide loss survivors is unavailable in my community and I found Alliance of Hope to be easily accessible, always available, much more than a meeting once a week for an hour or two. Members are supportive and understand the devastating and complicated loss of suicide. My raw emotions surrounding the death of my child are always met with compassion and kindness.
The aftermath of a suicide is not something to be taken lightly and those who haven't been touched by such a devastating experience, are often not the right person to help the bereaved. To understand what the survivor goes through, you unfortunately would need to have the personal experience of losing somebody to suicide. I found that it is crucial for a survivor’s future path to get guidance from another who has worn those shoes. Without judgement, they are able to understand the extremity of emotions, fears and anxiety that follows such an event. Sharing a piece of your heart with others are more healing than advice shouted from the side lines.
Alliance of Hope is a resting place for the broken hearted.
I stumbled upon the Alliance Of Hope a week after losing my husband to suicide. I was completely devastated and overwhelmed. I was unable to find support in my area. I was welcomed with open arms and found a port in the storm. I clung to the words of more seasoned survivors who offered hope and encouragement. I now had access to free support, 24/7. I honestly do not know where I would be without this amazing community. Thanks to Ronnie Walker, the staff and all the wonderful forum members, I began to find my feet and believe that we can and do, go beyond just surviving. AOH is a wonderful safe haven where survivors can gather. There is strength in numbers. The support here is phenominal!
Found the Alliance of Hope a few months after losing my son. Even with tons of family, friends and community support .....still I was feeling my intense emotions were too much for family and friends, counseling too infrequent to meet my needs.... even with all the supporters I felt isolated. I found AOH one evening and I just cried as i knew immediately i had found others that understood this horrid loss, this trauma to my soul. I felt heard. I felt embraced. I felt caring. I truly attribute much of my healing to AOH. Writing posts and reading the posts of others helped me feel so much less alone. Truly I am not sure where i would be without AOH. Real people, real emotions, very real support. Thank you Ronnie for creating such a sacred place of support.
The Alliance of Hope saved my life after my son took his life. The help I received was critical to my survival. If not for this organization, I would have never heard the term “suicide loss survivor”. I found out that I could be a survivor and now I consider myself to be one.
The support of the community is essential to navigating this complicated grief. The information and counseling through the site is second to none. I am grateful for it every day.
Moderators are poorly trained and unqualified to interfere in people's grief. They repeatedly invalidated my feelings, are inappropriately critical of emotions, and insensitive. They break all the basic rules of what one should not say to someone grieving and are too self-congratulatory to examine their own shortcomings. This forum is not queer friendly and I felt traumatized by the treatment I received from culturally insensitive staff. I went there seeking healing and intended to pay for their counseling and donate, but within a week, I became alarmed by their incompetence and found myself awake for hours, upset over their gross insensitivity, both to my grief and to my need to identify as queer and seek queer companionship. I deeply regret stumbling on this organization as they are utterly clueless about gay issues.
Alliance of Hope welcomes and includes members of every community including the LGBTQ community. We are sorry this person did not find the help she was seeking on our forum. Our forum moderators receive extensive training and are hand-picked for their demonstrated empathy, compassion and ability to provide hope after suicide to a diverse community. We are saddened that our best efforts to welcome and support this individual were met with anger, cynicism and accusations that we were insensitive to her needs. We wish her well and hope she finds the support and understanding she is seeking.
I found AOH about 2 weeks after my beautiful son took his life. My family and I are participating in counseling and grief support groups. I have not posted on blogs but read them and cry daily. The support and understanding mean everything to me. I am devastated by my son’s passing and feel supported by the compassionate guidance from AOH in moving through grief.
I found AOH a week after my son took his life. This was 3 months tomorrow. I don’t know what I would have done without the forums. I was a total mess as his death was unexpected and I felt like I couldn’t go on. With the support from members I’ve made it this far. I log in several times a day and find the care, love, advice and empathy amazing. Everyone on AOH ‘gets’ how I feel no matter who they’ve lost. I’m so lucky to have found AOH as we have nothing that compares in the UK.
I joined AOH 2 months after my 24 year old son committed suicide the day before his 25th birthday. AHO is a safe place to come and feel accepted. A place to pour out your sadness, anger,helplessness where someone listens and responds with words of kindness, caring and support.
I credit AOH along with my therapist, family and friends in being able to survive this first year after my son's death.
Finding a group where the depth of your pain and loss is truly understood, isn't easy. Having a go-to-place that is always available 24/7, is almost unreal. Having found such a caring group of strangers some time after my child took his life, was being welcomed into a loving home. Lots of tears and hugs are shared, and healing truly happens here.
Since I lost my husband in 2016 to suicide, my life has been turned upside down and inside out. This is the most traumatic thing that’s happened to me. I have no family in the area and I’m all alone now with just my dogs. AOH has been a wonderful help! Having support from others who really understand this type of loss is extremely helpful. I’m grateful I have AOH to turn to in my many times of need.
Following the suicides of my mother and step father, this group helped me more than words could ever describe. I was completely lost in grief. I didn't know up from down, left from, black from white. Everything felt backwards and inside out. Like I had been thrown off the world completely. Through sharing and talking to other suicide loss survivors, I managed to cope with the insurmountable loss and continue to do so today, 2 years after they've passed. Without this group, I would still be lost. AOH saved my life and made living bearable when nothing else could.
This community of survivors of suicide loss has offered invaluable support to me since losing my son almost 3 years ago. This members of the group are always willing to offer compassion and understanding, even while dealing with their own painful experiences and deep grief. Though I am fortunate enough to live in an area with a number of in-person support groups, the Alliance of Hope has been available whenever I needed it, with people willing to listen and provide solace. I am extremely grateful to the group's founder, Ronnie Walker and to all of the good people that are part of AOH.
My 24 year old son hung himself right before Christmas 2016. He didnt live near me and I searched frantically for 2 weeks trying to find him knowing something was wrong. Jan 5 2017 I was contacted by police , he was hanging for about 2 weeks in his closet. I was of course devastated . My brain was on fire. I found this sight. I wrote everything at all hours of the night going crazy wondering why, how, and the guilt. And I found the most kindhearted moderators , whom never judged my son or I. And it gave great peace to all those questions and thoughts that consumed my brain. Im not 100% and not sure I will ever be but this sight saved my life cus I wanted to go with him in the beginning. Awesome people here that truly understand what its like to loose a child to suicide. Thank GOD for Alliance of Hope.
After losing my son in 2015 to suicide, the people in my life tried their hardest to understand what I was going through, but despite their love, and patience and support; how could they understand? I finally found Alliance of Hope 2 months later. It was this website where I found others who had lost loved ones to suicide, and they truly understood what I was experiencing. From the trauma of finding my son, to the little baby steps starting to put my life back together. I have yet to post something on this site that no one else has experienced. The members cry with me, and share my accomplishments. No matter what time of day or night I post,others are there to listen and share their journey. Three years later I still turn to AOH, and can say, that this website has been critical in my healing and journey through grief. I am forever grateful for this website, for saving my life, helping heal my broken heart . Alliance of Hope saves lives, and heals hearts. If you are a suicide loss survivior, I invite you to our forums where you will feel understood and unconditionally supported.
This site was something I just stumbled upon in May 2018, while desperately searching for some help after my best friend's suicide. This site has truly been my lifeline. I'm not sure where I'd be without it. I recommended it to my friends and family.
While everyone there has gone through such tragedy, it's a beautiful thing to be able reach out 24/7 and always have someone there to talk you through your darkest moments.
The moderators are wonderful and the resources are truly helpful.
This site is a Godsend.
My 19 year old son died in 2014. The very worst unimaginable pain was assuaged slightly when I found AOH. It literally saved me. Sharing my thoughts, feelings, with others who understood was the only way I could heal... four years later I'm still here trying to help others. Thank God for AOH!
This site has been so helpful and instrumental in my coping with my husband's recent suicide. The warmth, understanding , sharing and helpful advice of other caring members has gotten me through many dark hours. The members understand the complicated and extraordinary grief and circumstances we are each going through and are there to help or simply to listen so you are not feeling all alone. I cannot say enough good things about it. It is especially helpful that those whose losses are more distant are there to provide encouragement and relate their experiences in things getting somewhat better as time passes. I am very grateful for this site and the way the site is moderated and organized.