My Nonprofit Reviews
Review for ADDICTION RECOVERY CENTER, San Jose, CA, USA
Once I found out that my husband had been acting out ( primarily with prostitutes ) for more than half of our marriage ( 25 years ) I felt paralyzed with fear that I might have contracted some kind of disease , angry, bitter and heartbroken that the man I loved could do this to me. After recovering from my shock , an acquaintance told me about ARC an , in desperation, I called and made an appointment. My husband reluctantly agreed to attend Session 1 with me to see what it was about. His reluctance stemmed from the fact that he was still in extreme denial about accepting the fact that he was being labeled " a sex addict". He felt that apologizing and saying he would never do it again would get everything back to " normal " !! After a couple of sessions I knew that the ARC program was where I needed to be. I started developing a network of support and found out that I was not alone in all of this Eventually, my husband dropped out of the program and chose to live his life in denial. My Therapist and Leader of the ARC group, encouraged me to continue so that I could work on my co-dependent behavior. The program was designed to help me regain my self-esteem, to let go of the anger that I was carrying around, my disgust of my spouse and my feelings of betrayal. It was a complicated recovery process, but an important one for my own healing. I had to learn to deal with all the issues that related to me rather than obsessing on my partner's addiction. I stayed with the Program and completed it after 2 1/2 years. I feel that this Program saved my sanity. I was finally able to get over my anger and move forward in a healthy way. I'm grateful for the knowledge and understanding that has come into my life, because now I feel more confident and assertive, and I actually like myself. My husband continued with his addiction and we divorced. I had to grieve the loss of my marriage and learn to go on living a happier, healthier and more productive life. The Addiction Recovery Center showed me that after a lot of hard work on MYSELF that I could once again be happy using a different set of rules and that I had to understand that life is not lived by hindsight. I did what I knew to do and sometimes with great ignorance, but now I know the difference and ARC and all it's wonderful Therapists showed me how to begin again.