I had grown in a cycle of violence but I did not know it until my last relationship. That's where I found WEAVE. When I went there I was unsure about surviving domestic violence because he had never hit me. I realized after meeting with my therapist that I had experienced other kinds of abuse. If it was not for WEAVE, I would still be in the cycle of violence, through counseling I was able to realize I was worthy enough to have violence in my life-period. I am grateful for WEAVE, I learned a lot about myself and healed many wounds from my childhood to my present wounds. Thanks WEAVE!
I never thought I would be in an abusive relationship. I am a successful media professional with a loving family and wonderful group of friends. I always thought domestic violence happened to 'other' people - not me. I even produced TV programs on violence against women around the globe. So when I found myself in the middle of it, I had no idea how I got there much less how to handle it. My family and friends didn't know what to do or how to help me. As I began to pull further and further away from everyone I loved, I fell deeper and deeper into an increasingly destructive cycle of abuse. I was truly alone and, worst of all, reliant on my abuser. It took a long time for me to leave but when I did, WEAVE was there to help me pick up the pieces of my life. I pressed charges, faced my abuser in court and thankfully the justice system put him behind bars for one year. But once that phase was completed, I was still alone - isolated and feeling that my friends and family could not understand me or what I had been through. I was a shell of my former self. The light inside me had disappeared. It was the therapists at WEAVE and the brave, wonderful women who made up WEAVE's Healing Hearts group who helped me see a brighter future. Slowly at first, and then more easily as time passed, I was able to open up and share myself. I learned that I was not alone, that my feelings were not abnormal. I gained strength from the women in Healing Hearts and soon the light returned to my life. Today I am the happiest I have ever been and I have WEAVE to thank for putting me on that path. They guided me through the most challenging time of my life and I am eternally grateful.
WEAVE saved my life. I was feeling awful about the domestic violence I suffered and it heped tremendously to share and listen to others going through the same things. The educational aspect was also very helpful. The staff was great, knowedgable, compassionate, and thorough. I also secured my divorce with WEAVE's legal help. Regarding the question below about frequency, my response is reflective of when I was receiving services.
I'm a successful executive. For years (2 to be exact) my husband threatened to kill me and to steal my child. Eventually he started physically hurting me as well. When I'd had enough, I went to a lawyer. The answers I got were long, complicated, expensive, and included a lot of concessions I wasn't willing to make. I remembered donating to WEAVE once as part of a production of the Vagina Monologues. I never thought I would need to call them. I didn't think WEAVE services were for people like me. Frankly, I wasn't aware that strong, smart successful people could be victims of domestic violence. It had become achingly clear, however, that I was wrong. Shaking and hiding in my car in a CVS parking lot, I called WEAVE. That phone call was like grabbing on to a lifeboat when you are drowning in a wide ocean of fear and uncertainty. In days, I had met with an incredibly helpful lawyer for free, had filed a restraining order at the court house, and got sole temporary custody of my son. A WEAVE volunteer sat with me through all the court proceedings and called me periodically to check in on me. I felt guilty using their services because I felt like my abuse was so minor compared to the other people I met while working with WEAVE. But repeatedly they told me that I was a victim and they were determined to help -- that domestic abuse might come in degrees, but their services didn't. As my case has progressed I have learned so much about domestic violence from WEAVE through their educational programs. Recently I was just emotionally overwhelmed by the legal process I am involved in and WEAVE provided individual counseling services which have grounded me and given me a clearer vision of how I can create a violence free future for myself. I was a victim of domestic violence, but I am not weak. WEAVE helped me connect to my strength, get safe, and move forward. I can’t imagine how much longer that would have taken without them and every day I look in my little boys eyes and know we are safe, I am grateful to all WEAVE has done for us.
WEAVE saved my life. I had been so emotionally (and at times physically) abused for so many years, and kept enclosed in the bubble with which my husband circumscribed my life, for the longest time I didn't even realize that this was not normal. Finally I woke up one night when he threatened to kill me, and the very next day I called WEAVE. My counselor worked magic with my consciousness and my energy every time I visited her. Whenever I got caught up in detrimental head trips, she refocused my attention within my body, the feelings in my body and energy. She always brought me back to my true self, leaving me calmed and strengthened. By the time I actually managed to leave my marriage, WEAVE had worked miracles in healing and empowering me. It was one of the most positive experiences of my life. I am a far stronger and wiser woman for this experience. WEAVE is so vital to our community, to our sisters. Please support them any way you can.
I was a victim of domestic violence and Weave helped me physically, mentally and emotionally get myself together. My counselor was great, my lawyers deserved more financial compensation than hitting the lottery. They went through every step with me, including following up with me after the trial and sporaidically staying in touch with me. I can not speak highly enough of WEAVE and the services they provide. They are also a bilingual org, which is what we need more of here.