My first contact with SIDS Resources was just days after the death of my son Henry. My husband and I were lost in the world of grief, confused, in shock and felt alone. They have saved us in more ways than one. Over time, their continual support, guidance and presence have helped us come to terms with Henry's death in a way that made us feel comfortable and validated. We have regularly attended monthly support group meetings that have been crucial in our healing. We have met many families with similar, and different, situations that have given advice, and comfort that people who have not lived through this wouldn't be able to do. I have said many times that SIDS Resources gave us a group to belong to when we didn't feel like we belonged anywhere any more. Being surrounded by others in your same situation is one of the most comforting and helpful component of the journey of grief. SIDS Resources has provided this for us.
After my only grandson, Lucas, died of SIDS on September 2, 2007, I did my best to carry on with life and be supportive of my children and other grandchildren. After all, I am a counselor and certainly know the stages of grief. After several months of finding myself in the depths of depression, I called SIDS Resources, Inc and began attending the group that is specifically for grandparnts. This has helped immensely and been a great source of healing.
We lost our 3 week old daughter Madison suddenly and unexpectedly in January 2005. Not knowing where to turn, a SIDS grief counselor was at our house the very next day with a packet of information and the SIDS Survival Guide. We soon began attending the support group meetings and they were a lifesaver. Just having a safe place to talk about our loss and the daily struggles we faced helped us tremendously as none of our peers could understand what we were going through. Suddenly, we didn't feel so alone. I don't know how we could have survived that first year without the support of SIDS Resources. We were especially grateful for the candlelighting ceremony in December because we wanted to commemorate our daughter's birthday that month, but weren't sure how to do it - so the candlelighting has become a nice tradition to say Happy Birthday & Merry Christmas to our sweet girl.
After our daughter Katie died we were lost, and then we got a phone call from Lori Ahrens (Behrens). She was a lifesaver. We were able to take our older two daughters, 3 and 5 at the time, to the SIDS office to talk to someone, and we were given the SIDS Survival Guide... I read it cover to cover and realized we were not alone. It was so good to go to the monthly meetings and know I had a friend there, someone who cared and worried about me. We are still friends 14 yrs later.
Our lives were changed forever on July 13, 2009 when our precious daughter Jenna died very unexpectedly at just 6 weeks old. Within a week or two of Jenna's death, a SIDS Resources, Inc. counselor visited our home to talk with us and provide support. We received printed materials, sympathy, condolences, support, and a referral to a peer support. We immediately began attending the monthly support group meetings with other parents who have experienced a sudden death of a baby. We have not missed one meeting in the past 11 months as we gain a tremendous amount of support from others in the group. It's the one place we can talk about anything and everything related to Jenna and her death and know that we are understood.
My husband and I were contacted by SIDS Resources within the week our son (and first child) died from SIDS in 2006. I cannot imagine how we would have survived the next years without help from SRI. In addition to the formal group meetings, we made contact with other families on we were introduced to through SIDS Resources on our own. After our next child was born, we had a host of support and wisdom from people who have been in the same postion as we. A counselor even made a night-time home vist to our child care provider to go over risk reduction: three years after our loss. We cannot sing the praises of this organization loud enough.
Our daughter, Mylie, died 5 months ago. She was happy and healthy. Immediately after her death, we receieved contact from SIDS Resources. The amount of support that has been provided has been irreplaceable. We continue to utilize services at SIDS Resources. The agency has provided hope for our marriage and future children.
My husband and I walked into SIDS Resources two weeks after we lost our son, George. We were beside ourselves with grief, struggling each day just to breathe. SIDS Resources saved us. There is truly nothing more tragic than the death of a baby and many of our friends and family were afraid to talk about what happened to our son. SIDS Resources provided a safe place to come together with other grieving parents and talk openly about the experience of losing a child. Most importantly, by talking to "experienced parents" and the SIDS counselors, we found hope for the future. We found a way to celebrate the tremendous joy that Baby George brought to our family for the very brief time he was with us. When we discovered we were expecting another baby, the SIDS counselors and other parents helped us through the tremendous anxiety that it could happen again. It's been five years since we lost George and we have since been blessed with two beautiful daughters. We still miss George every single day, but we're living again - and we're very happy. I don't know how we would have survived without SIDS Resources.
My son Kalen died 3 years ago and after his death, I attended the SIDS Resources support group to help with my grief. Listening to other families go through the grieving process helped me to understand that what I thought and felt was normal and I was not alone. These support groups were a big help to me and continue to be as the years go by.
My sweet daughter, Avery died on July 12, 2007. She was my second daughter and the one to complete our family. After her death I knew my survival for the sake of my older daughter meant finding somebody to talk to since family and friends just can't understand. I am married but my husband is the silent type. I made the initial contact with SIDS Resources since there is no service like this closer to me. A staff member came to my home along with materials for our whole family including teenage cousins and she invited me to attend group support meetings. I was very hesitant, but then very glad I went once there. I didn't just get support, but made new friends. Friends who DO understand. After going to a couple of meetings we did find out my baby did not die from SIDS, but from suffocation at the babysitters house. This didn't matter to my new friends. To them it was still a sudden loss of an infant...my Avery. I can't imagine how I would have made it through those first six months after her death and then been able to go on to have more children if it wasn't for SIDS Resources. Thank you all so much for everything you do for families like us. I wish there wasn't a reason for an organization like this but I'm sure glad there is one.