Straight Spouse Network Inc

Rating: 4.91 stars   137 reviews

Issues: Mental Health, Human Services

Location: PO Box 507 Mahwah NJ 07430 USA

Mission: Who we are: Current and former Straight Spouses/Partners of Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender people, Mixed Orientation Couples and our Families and Friends. What we do Serve straight spouses, mixed orientation couples, families and community by: * Reaching Out to increase visibility of straight spouses and accessibility to support * Healing and empowering straight spouses to cope constructively * Building Bridges between spouses, within families and with the larger community through support, education and advocacy The Straight Spouse Network (SSN) is an international organization that provides personal, confidential support and information to heterosexual spouses/partners, current or former, of gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender mates and mixed-orientation couples for constructively resolving coming-out problems. SSN also offers research-based information about spouse, couple, and family issues and resources to other family members, professionals, community organizations, and the public. SSN is the only support network of its kind in the world. As outreach, the network offers information about spouse and family issues, mixed orientation marriages and spouse resources to professionals, community organizations and the media.
Results: * 53 support groups in the US and other countries * Spouse contacts for individual sharing in most US states and several foreign countries * Eight online support groups, most with chats and webs attached * Best of Northeast in the 2009 Pride Choice Awards, sponsored by GreatNonprofits
Geographic areas served: Worldwide
2014 Top-Rated Nonprofit
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(201) 825-7763
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Rating: 5 stars  

Joined SSN when my life fell apart and to this day still rely on it everyday!
Wonderful support group and resources!

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Rating: 4 stars  

I found the SSN online while I was researching for support of my bad situation in my marriage. I had discovered that after 36yrs of marriage and 3 years prior to marriage my husband is gay! Never had a clue. It's been a devastating blow to my life! Not knowing how to handle the whole situation both emotionally and physically. Through the SSN I have gained, knowledge and support. There are many of this kind of mind blowing marriages out there and if they only knew about SSN, perhaps more could get this support I've received. We are the collateral damage to a growing epidemic in the world. Gay people now have alot of open support and rights, but those of us left behind have none of the same. Just because we are considered "normal". Our lives and marriages have been turned upside down due to those gays who hide behind us, only later to turn on us. SSN needs to get it's message out there for the world to see!!!!

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Rating: 5 stars  

1 person found this review helpful

This network is a Godsend. It is helped me not drown in my life. I was so overwhelmed when my ex put me through this and I felt like I wanted to run away and never come back. BUT I WAS a MOTHER and I couldn't.

The network gave me a safe place to CRY, YELL, and get the support and NOT the judgement.

It was what saved my sanity.

Thank you!

Isabel

If I had to make changes to this organization, I would...

More in person meetings. Opportunities to have workshops with the founder or with counselors to deal with day to day issues of this problem

Will you volunteer or donate to this organization?

Definitely

How much of an impact do you think this organization has?

Life-changing

When was your last experience with this nonprofit?

2013

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Role: General Member of the Public
Rating: 2 stars  

This organization allowed my ex-husband to out me as gay which was very hurtful. I am NOT gay. I am bisexual. I left my ex-husband because he was abusive. Outting me as gay is a continuation of this abuse after the marriage has legally ended. I did attempt to contact this organization but have not received a reply.

Will you volunteer or donate to this organization?

Unlikely

How much of an impact do you think this organization has?

Some

When was your last experience with this nonprofit?

2010

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Rating: 4 stars  

1 person found this review helpful

They have been very supportive of my experience, and explained to me certain behaviors of people coming out, they helped staying afloat on this hard times

Will you volunteer or donate to this organization?

Likely

How much of an impact do you think this organization has?

A lot

When was your last experience with this nonprofit?

2012

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Rating: 5 stars  

1 person found this review helpful

Without a doubt The Straight Spouse Network, and the amazing people I've met there, have kept me going at a time in my life when I thought I could not go on. I can't express how important it is just knowing that there are others out there in my situation; that I'm not alone, and that I don't have to live in someone else's closet out of shame or guilt that I somehow caused my spouse's sexual identity issues. There seems to be so little support for the straight spouse in this situation; it's as if the gay/bi spouse is the only one who's considered courageous for coming out, while we're often thought of as the obstacle that had to be overcome. We lived THEIR lie, not the other way around. I hope and pray that this incredible organization continues to be there for those of us who need it...and there's a lot more of us out there than many care to admit. -Steve S. in NJ

I've personally experienced the results of this organization in...

Online message boards and face to face meetings in my area.

How frequently have you been involved with the organization?

About every week

When was your last experience with this nonprofit?

2010-9-01

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Rating: 1 stars  

9 people found this review helpful

My former husband was abusive throughout the marriage. After I left him, this network provided him support again me. There are at least 2 sides to every story. My side was not allowed to be told.

If I had to make changes to this organization, I would...

Offer support to both people in the relationship, not just one person.

If this organization had 10 million bucks, it could...

provide support to the other person in the relationship

Ways to make it better...

If I were allowed to tell my side of the story.

In my opinion, the biggest challenges facing this organization are...

One thing I'd also say is that...

How frequently have you been involved with the organization?

About once a year

When was your last experience with this nonprofit?

2009-1-01

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Rating: 5 stars  

24 people found this review helpful

After too many dead-end phone calls to 24 hour support and crisis centers, and extensive internet research, I was finally able to find a calming supportive source of quality information. I was literally told that because I was not gay, I could not receive any support from the call centers. Support for straight spouses is sorely lacking, and the upheaval of such individual's lives deserves support, and good guidance just as much as the person coming out of the closet. It would be very helpful to have a 24 hour phone line available for emotional support for straight spouses. Thank you for all that you are doing. Just reading the information on the website is helping me cope, at a time when I feel totally isolated from my family and friends.

I've personally experienced the results of this organization in...

the high quality, range and depth of the information and resources presented.

If this organization had 10 million bucks, it could...

add a 24/7 crisis call center

How frequently have you been involved with the organization?

One time

When was your last experience with this nonprofit?

2009-8-01

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Rating: 5 stars  

11 people found this review helpful

If I had only found this organization five years sooner than I did, my life would have looked very different. A life saving organization that allows straight spouses of LGB to feel less isolated and crazy.

I've personally experienced the results of this organization in...

Making people who are on the brink of many bad things feel less alone and "normal". Empowering people to make the right choices for their family and situation.

If I had to make changes to this organization, I would...

Update the website and marketing materials.

What I've enjoyed the most about my experience with this nonprofit is...

The long lasting relationships I made with the other members in this community.

The kinds of staff and volunteers that I met were...

I have not met any in person.

If this organization had 10 million bucks, it could...

Reach many many more individuals like me who are struggling but don't know that this life boat exists. Educate society about the "other side of the closet".

Ways to make it better...

I had found them sooner!

In my opinion, the biggest challenges facing this organization are...

Lack of funding and lack of understanding in the community.

One thing I'd also say is that...

They saved my sanity and many other lives.

When was your last experience with this nonprofit?

2009-7-01

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Rating: 5 stars  

11 people found this review helpful

Recently my wife informed me that she was gay and would be leaving me for another woman. I had no one to talk to and no where to turn. I was devastated to say the least. I found the SSN and now I have hope. They are a family of great people that have experienced what I am going through. They have welcomed me in with open arms and are helping me through what now seems to be the worst time in my life. I talk to them daily and learn from all of the great people how to better cope with the terrible situation I have found myself in. I don't know how I would be able to work through this without the help of these great friends!

What I've enjoyed the most about my experience with this nonprofit is...

The great encouragement that I've received from the entire group. No one ever tells you what to do, just helps guide you to find the right solution for your situation.

When was your last experience with this nonprofit?

2009-7-01

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