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July 2, 2009

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July 2, 2009

This worldwide network of support that reaches from Nepal to New York helped me and tens of thousands of other women and men heal and cope constructively when our husbands or wives came out as gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgender. None of us is alone any more, fighting the pain of this disclosure in isolation. Together, we show society the unintended domino effect on entire families when glbt person are pressured into traditional marriages as the "right thing to do."

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I've personally experienced the results of this organization in...

The number of women and men who regain their lives and grow in strength and wisdom through peer support and fact-based information. Moving from shock, depression and despair, they reconfigure their self worth, moral compass, and belief system.

Ways to make it better...

If I had to make changes to this organization, I would...

get people to raise enough money so that we could reach the ears of every single spouse the world over

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What I've enjoyed the most about my experience with this nonprofit is...

The range of wonderful, amazing people whom I've met and with whom I've worked.

The kinds of staff and volunteers that I met were...

dedicated and caring.

If this organization had 10 million bucks, it could...

reach every corner of the world to help straight spouses... and to work toward social justice and equality goals so that everyone, regardless of sexual orienation, gender identity, race, ethnicity, or disability was free to marry the person he/she loves.

Ways to make it better...

there had been more paid staff who could raise the visibility of straight spouses in the community and get outsiders to understand their unique concerns.

In my opinion, the biggest challenges facing this organization are...

lack of money and lack of visibility and recognition in the larger community

One thing I'd also say is that...

Straight Spouse Network is the sole source of help for spouses, current or former, of gay, lesbian, bisexual,or transgender persons. They play a key role in gay equality work: though hurt by their partners' disclosure, healed by SSN, many become advocates

When was your last experience with this nonprofit?

2009

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July 2, 2009

This group is a godsend and a lifesaver. It is the only one of its kind in the world that provides support to straight spouses/partners whose lives are often devastated by the struggles, hidden lives, or coming out of their spouses/partners. When this happened to me, I was living abroad, but through this group I knew that I was not alone, and I was provided the understanding and support that helped me rebuild a new life for myself. In my darkest hours, this group was a beacon of light and hope. They helped me work through all the stages of grief, and to come to the understanding that this was not my fault and that I do have worth. I have never met such a group of caring, dedicated people in my life. It is now 4 years after disclosure and the end of my marriage, and the members of this group remain my closest friends and my lifeline whenever needed. Please support the Straight Spouse Network so others like me can recover and rebuild.

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I've personally experienced the results of this organization in...

my own life and the lives of my friends.

Ways to make it better...

If I had to make changes to this organization, I would...

work as hard as the current organizers do to reach more of the over 2 million people who find themselves in the situation of being straight spouses.

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What I've enjoyed the most about my experience with this nonprofit is...

the friendships I've developed.

The kinds of staff and volunteers that I met were...

amazing-- generous, compassionate, patient, committed, and willing to take a call from someone in need anytime anywhere.

If this organization had 10 million bucks, it could...

reach so many more straight spouses and partners and help them rebuild their lives.

Ways to make it better...

It couldn't have been better. Support was fast, generous, sustained, and full of compassion.

In my opinion, the biggest challenges facing this organization are...

it's hard for those who haven't been through the experience to understand it. And many assume that SSN doesn't support the gay community, which is absolutely incorrect. If our spouses had felt free to be themselves, pain would have spared all around.

One thing I'd also say is that...

no matter how much time passes from the day I found out my husband was gay, even 10, 20, 30 years from now, I will always be indebted to this organization for helping me heal.

When was your last experience with this nonprofit?

2009

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July 2, 2009

This organization looks after all those involved in a mixed orientation marriage, those who stay together, those who split up, and works with both the gay and str8 spouses.

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The kinds of staff and volunteers that I met were...

very caring and compassionate to all the different people who have asked for assistance.

When was your last experience with this nonprofit?

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July 2, 2009

This group and the wonderful people in it saved my life last year. My wife of 14 years told me she was in love with a woman. It destroyed our family and our relationship. The people at SSN helped me day by day and I found my way back. I was in a complete fog and it was easier knowing that there were other people like me that face this problem. I will never forget their help.

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If this organization had 10 million bucks, it could...

get the word out to more individuals in the world so that they would know that they are not alone in facing this problem. Knowing someone is there to help you get through this in the very beginning stages is crucial. Holding their hearts in our hands.

When was your last experience with this nonprofit?

2009

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July 1, 2009

I am new to the organization but it has been extremely helpful to me to see that I am not alone in dealing with a gay spouse. After 10 years of marriage, my husband disclosed and my world fell apart. I am worried about myself and my kids. I went online looking for information and found the SSN. It has been very helpful to read all the other stories (they are all amazingly similar!) and to know that there are people who understand. Being the straight spouse "left behind" is devastating and there is very little acknowledgement. While my husband will get pats on the back for coming out, I will get stares of "how could you not know..." Support for the straight spouse is essential. We deserve to be recognized too!

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I've personally experienced the results of this organization in...

So mnay lives that have been turned around - people who have made it through.

Ways to make it better...

If I had to make changes to this organization, I would...

Ensure that every new person met a contact person in whichever city they are in. It would be very helpful at the beginning to have personal, face to face contact.

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What I've enjoyed the most about my experience with this nonprofit is...

The chance to speak openly with others who understand.

The kinds of staff and volunteers that I met were...

I haven't met any in person but those online have been very supportive.

If this organization had 10 million bucks, it could...

Start meeting groups all over the world, including in my city where there isn't one.

Ways to make it better...

I need to post more, a bit more encouragement would have been good. Sometimes it is hard to do at the beginnning.

In my opinion, the biggest challenges facing this organization are...

Lack of acknowledgement from the gay / lesbian and hetro communities. We are hidden and that needs to change.

One thing I'd also say is that...

The SSN is a great and very needed organization. It has been very helpful to me in understanding my own journey and that it is as important as my gay spouse's.

When was your last experience with this nonprofit?

2009

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July 1, 2009

This organisation helped me enormously when my world fell apart after my wife of 32 years left me to live with another woman, in another country. She was my world, and my world was shattered. Now nearly two years later I m on the road to recovery and building a new life thanks to the Straight Spouse Network.

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I've personally experienced the results of this organization in...

the difference it has made in my own life.

Ways to make it better...

If I had to make changes to this organization, I would...

Promote it more widely

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What I've enjoyed the most about my experience with this nonprofit is...

The love and compassion shown by members of this community toward me.

The kinds of staff and volunteers that I met were...

Wonderful people!

If this organization had 10 million bucks, it could...

transform the lives of so many more like me.

Ways to make it better...

I had found SSN sooner.

In my opinion, the biggest challenges facing this organization are...

lack of recognition from the wiuder community

One thing I'd also say is that...

I never looked back after joining.

When was your last experience with this nonprofit?

2009

July 1, 2009

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July 1, 2009

Straight Spouse Network is great and a lifesaver. I have been helped by great people in my time of need and moved on to live a happy life. I have also met and helped many people through Straight Spouse Netork. It was very therapeutic to me.

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I've personally experienced the results of this organization in...

the many people that they have helped.

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What I've enjoyed the most about my experience with this nonprofit is...

they have people everywhere that are there to help anyone that is in need. Everyone becomes a family.

The kinds of staff and volunteers that I met were...

the greated.

If this organization had 10 million bucks, it could...

change the world and make people more aware so that people can be who they want to be and not hide who they are.

When was your last experience with this nonprofit?

2008

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July 1, 2009

This organization literally saved my life after my wife of over 17 years disclosed that she was a lesbian. The online support combined with the local group meetings were simply a lifesaver. No other group truly understands the emotional issues that arise from being married to a gay or lesbian who chooses to disclose later in life after being married. The emotional consequences and the fallout are hard to imagine. Families are destroyed. Self-esteem is wrecked. Even makes me question my own abilities to make sound decisions.

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If this organization had 10 million bucks, it could...

It could reach so many more people who find themselves in this situation: being married to someone gay or lesbian who discloses later in life.

When was your last experience with this nonprofit?

2009

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July 1, 2009

Words can not express how much this group has meant to me. It quite literally saved my life. I was a Str8 Spouse when I didn't know such a thing existed. The people in this group listened to, encouraged, and supported me and continue to do so everyday.

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I've personally experienced the results of this organization in...

how I function in my daily life. Before I found this group I was barely surviving, and now I am thriving.

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What I've enjoyed the most about my experience with this nonprofit is...

creating life-long bonds with others who "get it."

If this organization had 10 million bucks, it could...

reach out to so many others and break down the closet doors that keep us hidden.

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2009

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July 1, 2009

I was married to my soul mate, my best friend for 24 yrs. We seemed to have it all - until he realized he was gay. My world shattered and I felt so alone, depressed, my self esteem gone - and I thought I was the only one in this situation. I lost the life I knew, the dreams for the future we shared, and the reality I could lose the person who was my rock. It took me over a year to contact SSN though encouragement from my ex.... and its what saved me. This wonderful group of people became my familee - they understood, listened while I cried, encouraged me, accepted my contingave me hope. It was through the support of SSN that I began to live again - to laugh. My ex - and still my best friend - saw the difference in me and credits them for giving me what he couldn't. In fact, he has also told other gay spouses about SSN in hopes that others would find healing as well.

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I've personally experienced the results of this organization in...

my self, my ex and other members

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What I've enjoyed the most about my experience with this nonprofit is...

the online support and face to face meetings while makes it 'real'

The kinds of staff and volunteers that I met were...

wonderful, helpful, provided a knowledgebase to grow, caring, understanding, and accepting regardless of the path chosen for recovery.

If this organization had 10 million bucks, it could...

reach out to other straight spouses through more venues and give the same helping hand I received.

When was your last experience with this nonprofit?

2009

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