I started doing the Looking about 2 1/2 years ago. I remember a day when I felt something happen to the whole structure upon which my psychological life had been built. It seemed to vanish. I was left just lying on my bed laughing. It was like a burden had been lifted, the whole burden of one’s personal story, though it can only be described looking back as there was no idea that anything had happened at all. I seem to be contradicting myself here but it’s all very difficult to express. Since then I feel my life “rebuilding” itself in some way without the old ground of anxiety which had always been a sort of background noise to life.John describes this recovery best and I can but confirm what he says here. I know that my life is free of the constant vigilance I kept against what might touch me in a deep way. I feel grateful for my life including the past I had which in many ways was very rich though I am free of any nostalgia for the past. I would say that life is richer but then it always has been rich. There was never nor is there now any moment that was not full and satisfying. Once that fear was gone life began to expand and become more inclusive. I was heavily into self-help feeling that I was "wrong" somehow, needing to fix myself. It all became very tiresome and this self-involvement led me down some rather destructive roads. I can safely say the quest for a better me is over. I do not seek to idealize myself or others and this makes it easier to get along with people. And there are the ways life has changed which are really beyond words. I have also left alcohol and sleeping pills behind for good. I remember doctors saying I would never kick the pill habit. All I can say is that the need just fell away. It’s been 2 years since I last had a drink and no desire to start again has returned. I would also wholeheartedly agree with John that life is still to be lived, that it goes on but is now to be lived fully and without the reserve or doubt that plagued me for so long. I look forward to life instead of feeling I had to protect myself from it or avoid it. I still practice the Directed Attention Exercise which I found very helpful in the early stages of this process. I would strongly encourage people to give this very simple act a try. Even if you feel you didn’t or can’t succeed you will see results. I know this from experience.Thank you John and Carla for all you have done to bring this simple act to our attention.
I first heard about Carla and John's simple method "Just One Look" about two years ago, and I am now completely certain that it works. Before "looking" I was always focusing on negative thoughts and how difficult and depressing everything is. Now I more or less automatically focus on what's decent and beautiful in life instead. And it really makes all the difference! Outwards I am more happy and constructive, and inwards there is more meaning and joy to everything - even the bad parts. It's like Carla and John gave me a key to my own life and I am forever grateful for their work. Everything they do is free of charge and anyone can try this for themselves. Truly a wonderful non-profit!
I give this nonprofit five stars because it has exceeded my expectations by miles. After hearing River Ganga's message I have become at home and satisfied with myself and my life in a way I never expected to be possible.
There is no longer an urgent need to fix anything or to get anything different from what I already have - be it material things, relationships or even my own psychology. Life is not a chore anymore! To say that the relief is immense is an understatement.
Before I tried their method called Just One Look I was always searching for a way to make myself feel safe and comfortable. I didn't see it at the time but I thought that if I only got what I wished for everything would be alright and I could live happily ever after. I put great stock in those ideas. But every time I got close to, or even realized those wishes, I was already busy thinking something else would do it, not even capable to fully enjoy my own achievements. It went on and on.
This works like nothing else. And I tell it from my heart that it works for everyone who tries it.
Please support this work with what you can, and don't forget try it and see for yourself if there's anything worthwhile here! It doesn't take long and you will not regret it, I promise.
I had no idea what the fear of life meant to me until it finally disappeared and I realized just how fresh and open life could be. By "Looking At Me " I discovered that I am always here always the same regardless of circumstance. Recently this has given me the inner fortitude to face a very real reason to live in fear, that of being a Jew whose relatives went through the holocaust. This process opened a deep well of compassion and reinvigorated my creativity. I am forever grateful to John and Carla for persisting in bringing this wonderful method to all who are willing to try it. Helen Waterhouse
Since I finally recognised that I was without the fear of life my life has utterly change from hesitation and discomfort to joyfully and simply living. And this has come from the simple act of Looking AT ME that John describes. John and Carla live to share this understanding which is so remarkable successful for everyone who tries it.
I have listened to John speak since he began his work and the most remarkable thing is that he has shared his evolving understanding with us as it happened. He and Carla live just on what ever we can spare to keep this work going. It is abundantly clear that reaching as many people as possible is the motive for continuing this work.
I heartily recommend this work to everyone.
I had seen John Sherman almost 20 years ago on video interview with Gangaji, but I was in no way ready to begin the journey, and really did not become fully ready until the death of my wife of 25 years turned my life upside down, and forced me to become more honest with myself, in a way that now seems endless from my present point of view.
I had tried many approaches to self-healing and Self-Realization, but either did myself more harm, or felt hopelessly blocked and stuck. During a state of despair alternating with avoidance, I stumbled on the site justonelook.org. In the few months since I have been applying the practice, my outlook has begun to shift toward hope and the real possibility of recovery. My negative thought patterns do not have the grip on my attention to the degree they did, and I can see slow but steady progress toward what I think John would call "sanity".
I am grateful that both John and Carla are so accessible and giving, and that in spite of old self-defeating habits of mind, I can always find renewed understanding and encouragement on their site. Remorse and grief will no doubt continue to arise, but they will not overwhelm me as before. It's never too late for a 2nd chance.
My life has been gradually changing for the better after the looking. This thing is real, and as it turns out, actually only thing that puts an end to our endless need to fix something in our lives. The anxiety and ptsd symptoms i've had almost for a decade, seems to be dropping away by themselves. so what else there is to say but try it for yourself if you feel that there's more to life!
I support a number of nonprofits but this one is my favorite. It is very obvious John and Carla are not in this to line their own pockets- just the opposite. They live on a shoestring in order to bring us all a simple technique to improve our lives and end much of the suffering and fear that deeply underlies the human condition. They tirelessly work to repeatedly and patiently teach their powerful but very simple, focused practice. Thank you John and Carla!
In my opinion and going by just the actual results that I have experienced in my day-to-day life, this Nonprofit organization should be on top of all the ones we have on this planet!. We have a large number of Nonprofit organizations and they do contribute to some well being or aspect of the people in some way on the physical level. However, the biggest problem is the suffering, misery, conflict, anxiety, fear etc. that reside in our minds and thereby influences how we perceive our life and live it. What this organization run by John and Carla is teaching and showing the way how we can get rid of all that and live a happy satisfactory and free form fear life that changes how we perceive everything else. What else is there to say? They provide very practical advise and methods that cab be followed to get there. I hope and wish everyone in the world gets a chance to hear about it and try it.
John Sherman manages to convey in a direct simple manner the simple act of inward looking that eradicates all fear misery aggression hatred etc.. from ones life. In later years he had divested himself of all spiritual and esoteric terminology to make this simple teaching accessible to all that hear it. It is a great blessing and hope for humanity.
I've watched many hours of john Sherman on u-tube - have always found him lucid and unpretentious.
The message of the organization made a lot of sense out of something i couldn't grasp for quite some time, just by spending a few moments reading and listening. A great investment in yourself and your environment.
John & Carla will tell you all you need to know, and why you don't even need to know it!